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【题目】 Family fights are never pleasant. Whether you are dealing with a loud sister or a stubborn mom or dad, the situation can be bad. At least that’s what we have learned to expect.

What if it could be different? What if family fights and conflicts could be turned into opportunities to become closer? What if problems could be solved with everyone walking away feeling more deeply cared for and loved?

Family fighting is, on one level, about power. Someone is telling someone else what to do. In a short moment, emotions can be brought out and the fight is on. You can go down that old road or you can try something different.

In any fight, you have a need to be listened to and understood. People raise their voices and shout at each other because they’re not being listened to. It’s totally unconscious. You want your mom or dad to listen and understand. But you always seems to forget the person you’re fighting with has the same need to be listened to. So if you can put aside your need for a few minutes, the situation will change quickly. Give the other person some time to express his or her feelings, and you will earn your turn to be listened to.

And while you are listening, you have to listen for the right information. The best way to do this in emotional situations is to forget most of the words because many people can’t express what they are feeling with words alone, especially when they are upset.

But if the situation starts to get out of hand, it would be wise to just calm down and leave the problem until later because many fights happen at the wrong time. The situation will die down quickly, usually in less than 30 seconds. You can either move on to problem solving or reach an agreement to work on it at a better time.

This way, everyone will feel respected and listened to, even when there is conflict. Emotions will be understood and respected, and it will bring your family closer together.

【1】From the first 3 paragraphs, we can know that _______.

A.people had better avoid family fights

B.family members fight to control each other

C.family fights can be changed into something positive

D.when family members fight, it’s worse as they know each other’s weakness

【2】Intheauthor’sopinion,thekeytodealingwithfamilyfightsisto_______.

A.satisfy the need to be listened to first

B.make sure that you’re the first to be listened to

C.pay no attention to what others say in emotional situations

D.stop quarrelling when you feel you are giving orders

【3】Whenthesituationgetsoutofcontrol,it’sbestto_______.

A.wait for a suitable moment to speak

B.let the other person express their feelings

C.work on a written agreement first

D.move on to problem solving

【4】The main purpose of this article is to _______.

A.tell readers that family fights are not that bad

B.teach reader how to listen in family fights

C.remind readers to show respect in family fights

D.give advice on dealing with family fights

Answer 1

【答案】

【1】C

【2】A

【3】A

【4】D

【解析】

本篇分析家庭斗争和冲突的成因和解决的方法，纷争中，人们都需要被倾听和理解，解决家庭纷争最首要的是满足被倾听的需要；情况失控时要等合适的时间再说；家庭纷争解决得当可以让家人更亲密。

【1】推理判断题。根据前三段的内容，作者讲述了家庭斗争和冲突可以变成使家人更亲密的机会，当每个人都感到更深切的关怀时，问题就可以解决了；由此推断家庭的纷争可以有积极的一面，故选C。

【2】细节理解题。根据第四段“In any fight, you have a need to be listened to and understood.”在任何纷争中，你都需要被倾听和理解，可知解决家庭纷争最首要的是满足被倾听的需要；故选A。

【3】细节理解题。根据第六段“But if the situation starts to get out of hand, it would be wise to just calm down and leave the problem until later” 但如果情况开始失控，最好冷静下来，把问题留到以后再说，可知情况失控时要等合适的时间再说，故选A。

【4】主旨大意题。本篇分析家庭斗争和冲突的成因和解决的方法，故选D。

本篇是阅读单选，考查细节理解推理判断和主旨归纳能力。解答前要先快速阅读全文，理解大意；再阅读题干，正确理解题干的要求；然后回归原文，寻找有用信息作答；本篇题型设定题2、3是细节理解题，解答时要在原文中找出题干包含的信息部分，这样可以正确地捉住有效信息，确保答题的准确性；题4是主旨归纳题，要全面了解全文的信息，避免做片面的解答，解答完，要通读全文，核实答案和原文信息是否一致。