【题目】Family fights are never pleasant. Whether you are dealing with a loud sister or a stubborn(固执的) mom or Dad, the situation can be bad.

What if it could be different? What if family fights and conflicts(冲突) could be turned into chances to become closer? What if problems could be solved with everyone walking away feeling more deeply cared for and loved?

Family fighting is, on one level, about power. Someone is telling someone else what to do. In a short moment, bad feelings can be brought out and the fight is on. You can go down that old road or you can try something different.

In any fight, you have a need to be listened to and understood. People raise their voices and shout at each other because they’re not being listened to. You want your mom or dad to listen and understand. You want your brother or sister to listen and care. But you always seem to forget that the person you’re fighting with has the same need to be listened to. So if you can put aside your need for a few minutes, the situation will change quickly. Give the other person some time to express his or her feelings, and you’ll have your turn to be listened to.

And while you are listening, you have to listen for the right information. The best way to do this in emotional(情绪激动的) situations is to pay no attention to most of the words because many people can’t express what they are feeling with the words alone, especially when they are not calm.

But if the situation starts to get out of hand, it would be wise to just calm down and leave the problem until later because many fights happen at the wrong time. The situation will die down quickly, usually in less than 30 seconds. You can either move on to problem solving or reach an agreement to work on it at a better time.

This way, everyone will feel respected and listened to, even when there is conflict, feelings will be understood and respected, and it will bring your family closer together.

1From the first 3 paragraphs, we can conclude(总结) that .

A. people had better avoid family fights

B. family members fight to control each other

C. family fights can be turned into something good

D. when relatives fight, it’s worse as they know each other’s weakness

2In the writer’s opinion, the key to dealing with family fights is to .

A. satisfy the need to be listened to first

B. make sure that you are the first to be listened to

C. pay no attention to what others say in these emotional situations

D. stop quarrelling(争吵) when you feel you are giving orders

3When the situation gets out of control, it’s best to .

A. wait for a suitable moment to speak B. let the other person express their feelings

C. work on a written agreement first D. move on to problem solving

4The main purpose of this article is to .

A. tell readers that family fights are not that bad

B. teach readers how to listen in family fights

C. remind readers to show respect in family fights

D. give advice on dealing with family conflicts

【题目】Many years ago, Dad worked as a farmhand. At that time, he had a horse. Every Saturday he ___to the town after dinner and spent a few hours on social ___with other farmhands, such as drinking, chatting, and playing cards in the café. On Saturday evenings, the café was ___because many farmhands were there. Before midnight Dad returned home on his horse, quite satisfied with his life. In his words, he ___thought of changing his job.

At the age of 31, Dad married my mother who was a school teacher. In the following spring I came ___into the world. Life became ___, so my mother felt unsatisfied. She told Dad that they must make a ___.

My mother had ___of how some famous persons, especially Thomas Edison who was born in a poor family, fought against fate and achieved fame(名誉) and____. And she hoped that I would some day become a great leader ruling men or cities and Dad should be a successful businessman. So she ___Dad to give up his job as a farmhand, sell his horse and ___a small business of his own. And I went to high school and college. She even sent me abroad for ___education when I graduated from college. Under the drive of my mother’s hope, Dad and I ___what we have today. Dad runs a big international company and I am a successful lawyer enjoying great fame in my country, ___not a leader as my mother expected.

Dad said, without my mother, we wouldn’t be what we are today; at least, he would remain a farmhand. So he got a lesson of life —sometimes we really need ___from outside.

1A. rode B. walked C. ran D. drove

2A. conversations B. games C. relationships D. activities

3A. cold B. crowded C. quiet D. dirty

4A. often B. ever C. never D. sometimes

5A. laughing B. singing C. sleeping D. crying

6A. happy B. easy C. hard D. busy

7A. living B. change C. decision D. house

8A. dreamed B. heard C. thought D. spoken

9A. honesty B. money C. success D. energy

10A. warned B. made C. allowed D. advised

11A. start B. find C. design D. sell

12A. farther B. further C. easier D. closer

13A. showed B. kept C. lost D. achieved

14A. though B. if C. and D. since

15A. a job B. a leader C. drive D. a mother

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