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【题目】Family fights are never pleasant. Whether you are dealing with a loud sister or a stubborn(固执的) mom or Dad, the situation can be bad.

What if it could be different? What if family fights and conflicts(冲突) could be turned into chances to become closer? What if problems could be solved with everyone walking away feeling more deeply cared for and loved?

Family fighting is, on one level, about power. Someone is telling someone else what to do. In a short moment, bad feelings can be brought out and the fight is on. You can go down that old road or you can try something different.

In any fight, you have a need to be listened to and understood. People raise their voices and shout at each other because they’re not being listened to. You want your mom or dad to listen and understand. You want your brother or sister to listen and care. But you always seem to forget that the person you’re fighting with has the same need to be listened to. So if you can put aside your need for a few minutes, the situation will change quickly. Give the other person some time to express his or her feelings, and you’ll have your turn to be listened to.

And while you are listening, you have to listen for the right information. The best way to do this in emotional(情绪激动的) situations is to pay no attention to most of the words because many people can’t express what they are feeling with the words alone, especially when they are not calm.

But if the situation starts to get out of hand, it would be wise to just calm down and leave the problem until later because many fights happen at the wrong time. The situation will die down quickly, usually in less than 30 seconds. You can either move on to problem solving or reach an agreement to work on it at a better time.

This way, everyone will feel respected and listened to, even when there is conflict, feelings will be understood and respected, and it will bring your family closer together.

【1】From the first 3 paragraphs, we can conclude(总结) that .

A. people had better avoid family fights

B. family members fight to control each other

C. family fights can be turned into something good

D. when relatives fight, it’s worse as they know each other’s weakness

【2】In the writer’s opinion, the key to dealing with family fights is to .

A. satisfy the need to be listened to first

B. make sure that you are the first to be listened to

C. pay no attention to what others say in these emotional situations

D. stop quarrelling(争吵) when you feel you are giving orders

【3】When the situation gets out of control, it’s best to .

A. wait for a suitable moment to speak B. let the other person express their feelings

C. work on a written agreement first D. move on to problem solving

【4】The main purpose of this article is to .

A. tell readers that family fights are not that bad

B. teach readers how to listen in family fights

C. remind readers to show respect in family fights

D. give advice on dealing with family conflicts

Answer 1

【答案】

【1】C

【2】A

【3】A

【4】D

【解析】本篇文章难度适中，主要为我们提供处理家庭矛盾的建议。

【1】细节理解题。根据What if it could be different? What if family fights and conflicts(冲突) could be turned into chances to become closer? What if problems could be solved with everyone walking away feeling more deeply cared for and loved?可知，家庭争吵可以变成积极的东西。故选C。

【2】细节理解题。根据In any fight, you have a need to be listened to and understood可知，处理家庭矛盾的关键是：首先要满足倾听需要。故选A。

【3】细节理解题。根据But if the situation starts to get out of hand, it would be wise to just calm down and leave the problem until later because many fights happen at the wrong time. The situation will die down quickly, usually in less than 30 seconds. You can either move on to problem solving or reach an agreement to work on it at a better time可知，当情况失控时，最好等待适当的时机再说话。故选A。

【4】主旨大意题。根据全文可知，主要为我们提供处理家庭矛盾的建议。故选D。