15．Self-respect is a very important part of a great life．Self-respect is a feeling of being happy about one's characters，abilities and beliefs．If we are short of self-respect，we will be unsafe．Developing self-respect means developing self-confidence to deal with whatever life throws at us．The following are some ways we can improve our self-respect．
There is great social stress from parents，work and society to become a certain person and to achieve certain goals．A real self-respect is important that you believe in your own values and remember what is important to you．Other people think you should behave in a certain way，but it doesn't mean they are right．Everyone needs to follow his or her own path．Even if others don't respect your decision，it is important that you do．
Nobody likes criticism（批评）．To keep a sense of self-respect，we need to learn how to deal with criticism．Don't take criticism personally．Don't get sad by the things other people say or do．Maybe it is completely untrue，so pay no attention to it．If there is some truth，we can use it to develop our characters．However，it is important not to take criticism too personally．
Jealousy（嫉妒） of other people's success is a common way of losing our happiness and self-respect．Jealousy is simply envy of other people's success．We feel unhappy when we cannot enjoy their success．The truth is that there will always be some people more successful than us．The method for lasting self-respect is to be happy with others'success．
If you have no respect for others，how can you have self-respect？It isn't right to feel better by putting others down．If we look for good qualities in other people，it is easier to remember the good qualities in ourselves．
Forgive others and yourself．Don't live in the past，but move on from the past mistakes and difficult situations．If your mind is full of problems in the past，you will always feel ashamed and sad．Self-respect comes when we value our attitude towards life and other people．
Sometimes we work with the best of motives（动机） only to be disappointed by the result．It is the nature of life that things will not turn out as we hoped，but it is a mistake to link our sense of self-respect to the achievement of targets．
There is great social stress from parents，work and society to become a certain person and to achieve certain goals．A real self-respect is important that you believe in your own values and remember what is important to you．Other people think you should behave in a certain way，but it doesn't mean they are right．Everyone needs to follow his or her own path．Even if others don't respect your decision，it is important that you do．
Nobody likes criticism（批评）．To keep a sense of self-respect，we need to learn how to deal with criticism．Don't take criticism personally．Don't get sad by the things other people say or do．Maybe it is completely untrue，so pay no attention to it．If there is some truth，we can use it to develop our characters．However，it is important not to take criticism too personally．
Jealousy（嫉妒） of other people's success is a common way of losing our happiness and self-respect．Jealousy is simply envy of other people's success．We feel unhappy when we cannot enjoy their success．The truth is that there will always be some people more successful than us．The method for lasting self-respect is to be happy with others'success．
If you have no respect for others，how can you have self-respect？It isn't right to feel better by putting others down．If we look for good qualities in other people，it is easier to remember the good qualities in ourselves．
Forgive others and yourself．Don't live in the past，but move on from the past mistakes and difficult situations．If your mind is full of problems in the past，you will always feel ashamed and sad．Self-respect comes when we value our attitude towards life and other people．
Sometimes we work with the best of motives（动机） only to be disappointed by the result．It is the nature of life that things will not turn out as we hoped，but it is a mistake to link our sense of self-respect to the achievement of targets．
| Title | How to develop respect for yourself |
| Theme | Keeping a sense of self-respect is of great （56）importance to a great life． |
| Idea of self-respect | Self-respect is a feeling of being happy with one's characters，abilities and beliefs．It can make one （57）improve self-confidence of dealing with all kinds of problems in one's life． |
| Ways to develop Self-respect | Being true to yourself Believe in your own values and （58）follow your own path． |
| Learning to deal with criticism ●Never get（59）unhappy by things other people do or say． ●Pay no attention to untrue criticism and try to make progress from true criticism． | |
| Avoiding jealousy ●Jealousy will lead to the （60）loss of your happiness and self-respect． ●Learn to be happy when others become（61）successful． | |
| Respecting others ●It is （62）wrong to feel better by putting others down． ●Look for the good qualities in other people and we can remember ours more（63）easily． | |
| Forgiving Move on from the past mistakes made by others or yourself． Don't let your mind filled （64）with the mistakes in the past． | |
| Remembering your motives，not your（65）result It is normal that we work with strong motives，but fail to make achievement． |
12．We all dream about things that we would like to do and things we hope to achieve in the future．But are everybody's dreams the same？Here are some of the findings of a survey about hopes and dreams，in which thousands of students across China took part．
What are the hopes of teenagers？We received several different answers to the question：what would you like to do after you finish your education？It seems some students would like to start work as soon as they can，so that they can help offer their parents better lives．Other students hope to go on studying after they finish school and to go to university．Although money is important，many teenagers want to do jobs they like．According to the survey，the most popular choice of job is computer programming．
What are the dreams of teenagers？Teenagers have all kinds of dreams．Some are more realistic （现实的） than others．For example，many students would like to be volunteers if Beijing could hold the World Cup，maybe working as translators or tour guides．And many students dream of having a trip to every corner of the world one day．
According to the survey，less realistic dreams are also common，but many students reported that they were willing to work hard to achieve their dreams．Quite a few dreamed of becoming famous，perhaps famous sports people or singers．Some students would like to go on exciting trips．One student would love to sail across the Pacific Ocean．And then there are dreams that there are no possibility for students to achieve．Three students would like to be able to fly．
It is clear from the survey that teenagers have similar hopes．It seems that most students hope to have a good education and find a good job．On the other hand，students dream of very different things：good things，and even crazy things．It is very important to dream，so hold on your dreams，one day they may just be realized．
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What are the hopes of teenagers？We received several different answers to the question：what would you like to do after you finish your education？It seems some students would like to start work as soon as they can，so that they can help offer their parents better lives．Other students hope to go on studying after they finish school and to go to university．Although money is important，many teenagers want to do jobs they like．According to the survey，the most popular choice of job is computer programming．
What are the dreams of teenagers？Teenagers have all kinds of dreams．Some are more realistic （现实的） than others．For example，many students would like to be volunteers if Beijing could hold the World Cup，maybe working as translators or tour guides．And many students dream of having a trip to every corner of the world one day．
According to the survey，less realistic dreams are also common，but many students reported that they were willing to work hard to achieve their dreams．Quite a few dreamed of becoming famous，perhaps famous sports people or singers．Some students would like to go on exciting trips．One student would love to sail across the Pacific Ocean．And then there are dreams that there are no possibility for students to achieve．Three students would like to be able to fly．
It is clear from the survey that teenagers have similar hopes．It seems that most students hope to have a good education and find a good job．On the other hand，students dream of very different things：good things，and even crazy things．It is very important to dream，so hold on your dreams，one day they may just be realized．
| A survey about some Chinese students'hopes and dreams | |
Hopes of teenagers | ●Some students want to begin work as soon as possible to help （56）provide their parents with better lives． ●Some students hope to（57）continue studying after finishing school． ●Many students would like to do jobs they enjoy though money is of great （58）importance． ●Most students（59）choose computer programming as their jobs． |
（60）Dreams of teenagers | ●Some students have more realistic dreams such as working as volunteers at the World Cup and （61）travelling around the world． ●Some students have less realistic dreams such as becoming famous sports people or singers and （62）sailing across the Pacific Ocean． ●It is highly （63）impossible for some students to achieve their dreams such as being able to fly． |
Conclusion | ●The survey shows that teenagers'hopes are（64）similar while their dreams are different． ●You can't realize your dream （65）without holding on it and hard work． |