I think the most basic and powerful way to connect to another person is to listen. Perhaps, the most important thing we ever give each other is our  36 , and especially if it’s given from our hearts.

  When people are talking,  37  is no need to do anything but  38  them and take them in. Listen to what they are  39 . In most cases,  40  is more important than understanding. It has taken me a long time to believe in the  41  of simple saying “ I’m so sorry ” when some one is in pain.

  One of my patients told me that when she tried to tell her story, people often  42  her to tell her that they once had  43  just like what happened to her. Finally, she  44  talking to most people.

45 , we connect to each other through listening. When we interrupt what someone is saying to let him or her know that we understand, we move the focus of attention to ourselves.

I have  46  learned to respond to someone’s  47  by just listening to him or her. In the old days, I used to  48 the tissue (纸巾). I realized that passing a person a tissue  49  be just another way to  50  them down and take them out of their experience of  51 . Now just listen. When they have cried all they  52  to cry, they find me there with them.

This simple thing has not been that easy to learn. It certainly went  53  everything I had been taught since I was very young. I  54  think that people listened only because they did not know the answer. But now I know that a loving  55  often has more power to comfort others than words.

36.  A. attention         B. love              C. minds           D. actions

37.  A. it              B. that              C. this             D. there

38.  A. receive          B. accept            C. get             D. bring

39.  A. speaking         B. talking            C. telling           D. saying

40.  A. discussing        B. doing             C. listening         D. hearing

41.  A. effort           B. power            C. treasure          D. strength

42.  A. interrupted        B. disturbed          C. asked           D. demanded

43.  A. everything        B. anything           C. something        D. nothing

44.  A. began           B. stopped           C. started          D. continued

45.  A. In fact           B. At length           C. As a result        D. In other words

46.  A. still             B. never             C. even            D. hardly

47.  A. anxiety          B. laughing           C. shouting         D. crying

48.  A. give off          B. reach for          C. reach out         D. give up

49.  A. might           B. will              C. had to           D. must

50.  A. break           B. put               C. pull             D. calm

51.  A. happiness        B. sadness           C. anger           D. delight

52.  A. try             B. manage            C. need            D. like

53.  A. against          B. for               C. out             D. with

54.  A. always          B. happened to        C. seldom          D. used to

55.  A. lecture          B. understanding       C. silence          D. act

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