Assertiveness is the ability to confidently express your opinions, feelings,attitudes, and rights, in a way that doesn't infringe（侵犯） the rights of others.

    Many of us are taught that it is not nice to consider our own needs above those of others. If someone says or does something that we don't like, we should just be quiet and try to stay away from that person in the future.

    Why is Assertiveness important?

     If you don't know how to be assertive, you might experience:

•Depression - Anger, a sense of being helpless, hopeless, or of having no　control over your life.

•Resentment - Anger at others for taking advantage of you.

•Frustration - Why did I allow that to happen?

     Most people find it easier to be assertive in some situations than in others. This　makes perfect sense. It's a lot easier to hold your ground with a stranger than with　someone you love. But the more important the relationship is to you, the more　ｉｍｐｏｒｔａｎｔ it is to be assertive. Assertive behavior leads to increased respect from others！

      But before you decide to act assertively, you have to decide if you can live

 with the results. Although assertive behavior usually will result in a positive

 response  (积极的回应)，some people 　might react differently.

   How to be effectively（有效地） assertive:

 •Use "I" statements. Keep the focus on the problem you're having. "I'd like to be able to tell my stories without interruption." instead of "You're always interrupting my stories ! "

 •Use facts, not opinions. "Did you know that shirt has a hole?" instead of　"You're not going out looking like THAT, are you?"

 •Express ownership of your thoughts, feelings, and opinions. "I get angry when he breaks his promises. " instead of "He makes me angry. "

 • Make clear and direct requirements. Don't invite the person to say no. "Will  you please?" instead of　'Would you mind．．．?" or "Why don't you．．．?"

•Keep repeating your point. Use a low level and pleasant voice. Don't try to explain yourself.

1.The writer probably agrees that­­­____________.

A. you should consider others' response before you act assertively

B. you should be assertive if you want to get good marks

C. assertiveness is the ability to infringe others' rights.

D. assertive behavior will bring you bad feelings

2.The expression "hold yourｇround" probably means “_________________”

A. reach an agreement

B. insist on your point

C. keep your word

D. keep on fighting

3.Which of the following helps you to be effectively assertive?

A. Explaining yourself in a soft and sweet voice.

B. Expressing ownership of others' thoughts.

C. Making requirements directly and clearly.

D. Using your opinions instead of facts.

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    go　back　/　mad　/　need　/　mind　/　hurry　up　/　polite

    We　asked　some　people　what　annoyed　them.　Here’s　what　they　said:

    I　don’t　like　waiting　in　line　when　a　shop　assistant　has　a　long　telephone　conversation.　When　that　happens,　I　usualy　say,　“Would　you　1.　helping　me?”And　I　don’t　like　it　when　shop　assistants　folow　me　around.　Then　I　say,　“Could　you　please　no　folow　me　around?　I’l　ask　you　if　I　2.　some　help.”Usualy　the　shop　assistants　say　they　are　sorry,　but　sometimes　they　get　3..　If　that　happens,　I　won’t　4.　to　that　store　again.

    I　get　annoyed　when　someone　talks　to　me　while　I’m　reading.　This　happens　to　me　al　the　time　in　the　school　library.　When　it　happens,　I　usualy　talk　to　the　　person　because　I　want　to　be　5..　But　because　I’m　polite,　people　don’t　know　I’m　annoyed.　So　they　do　the　same　thing　again.　Perhaps　in　the　future　I　should　try　not　to　be　so　annoyed.

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go　back　/　mad　/　need　/　mind　/　hurry　up　/　polite
We　asked　some　people　what　annoyed　them.　Here’s　what　they　said:
I　don’t　like　waiting　in　line　when　a　shop　assistant　has　a　long　telephone　conversation.　When　that　happens,　I　usualy　say,　“Would　you　【小题1】　helping　me?”And　I　don’t　like　it　when　shop　assistants　folow　me　around.　Then　I　say,　“Could　you　please　no　folow　me　around?　I’l　ask　you　if　I　【小题2】　some　help.”Usualy　the　shop　assistants　say　they　are　sorry,　but　sometimes　they　get　【小题3】.　If　that　happens,　I　won’t　【小题4】　to　that　store　again.
I　get　annoyed　when　someone　talks　to　me　while　I’m　reading.　This　happens　to　me　al　the　time　in　the　school　library.　When　it　happens,　I　usualy　talk　to　the　　person　because　I　want　to　be　【小题5】.　But　because　I’m　polite,　people　don’t　know　I’m　annoyed.　So　they　do　the　same　thing　again.　Perhaps　in　the　future　I　should　try　not　to　be　so　annoyed.