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Assertiveness is the ability to confidently express your opinions, feelings,attitudes, and rights, in a way that doesn't infringe（侵犯） the rights of others.
Many of us are taught that it is not nice to consider our own needs above those of others. If someone says or does something that we don't like, we should just be quiet and try to stay away from that person in the future.
Why is Assertiveness important?
If you don't know how to be assertive, you might experience:
•Depression - Anger, a sense of being helpless, hopeless, or of having no control over your life.
•Resentment - Anger at others for taking advantage of you.
•Frustration - Why did I allow that to happen?
Most people find it easier to be assertive in some situations than in others. This makes perfect sense. It's a lot easier to hold your ground with a stranger than with someone you love. But the more important the relationship is to you, the more ｉｍｐｏｒｔａｎｔ it is to be assertive. Assertive behavior leads to increased respect from others！
But before you decide to act assertively, you have to decide if you can live
with the results. Although assertive behavior usually will result in a positive
response (积极的回应)，some people might react differently.
How to be effectively（有效地） assertive:
•Use "I" statements. Keep the focus on the problem you're having. "I'd like to be able to tell my stories without interruption." instead of "You're always interrupting my stories ! "
•Use facts, not opinions. "Did you know that shirt has a hole?" instead of "You're not going out looking like THAT, are you?"
•Express ownership of your thoughts, feelings, and opinions. "I get angry when he breaks his promises. " instead of "He makes me angry. "
• Make clear and direct requirements. Don't invite the person to say no. "Will you please?" instead of 'Would you mind．．．?" or "Why don't you．．．?"
•Keep repeating your point. Use a low level and pleasant voice. Don't try to explain yourself.
1.The writer probably agrees that____________.
A. you should consider others' response before you act assertively
B. you should be assertive if you want to get good marks
C. assertiveness is the ability to infringe others' rights.
D. assertive behavior will bring you bad feelings
2.The expression "hold yourｇround" probably means “_________________”
A. reach an agreement
B. insist on your point
C. keep your word
D. keep on fighting
3.Which of the following helps you to be effectively assertive?
A. Explaining yourself in a soft and sweet voice.
B. Expressing ownership of others' thoughts.
C. Making requirements directly and clearly.
D. Using your opinions instead of facts.
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—________. Mum is sleeping in the next room.
B. No problem
C. Yes, please
D. I'm afraid not
Would you mind if someone says nothing four your help?
Think of the following things. 【小题1】____________ She suddenly asks you to pass a bowl to her. You do so. What will your mother’s response(反应) be? Maybe she’ll say nothing but just go on cooking. After a while, the dinner is ready. Your mother hands you a bowl of rice. What’s your response?【小题2】____________
That’s what I want to say. In Chinese families, we don’t often say “Thank you” to other family members for receiving help or service. 【小题3】____________ If we say it, the other people will think we are treating(对待) them as strangers. 【小题4】___________ Teachers will thank a student for answering a question; the husband will thank his wife for making a cup of coffee.
In Japan, it’s a tradition to say “Thank you”, no matter(无论) whether the person is a family member or a friend. 【小题5】___________
Do you think it is necessary to say “Thank you” to your family members or friends?
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—Would you mind if I sit here?
—_________. It’s for Miss Zhang.
A. Better not B. Never mind C. Not at all D. Of course not
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—Would you mind if I smoke?
—_____________.
| A．Yes,please do | B．Not at all |
| C．All right | D．That’s OK |