When someone has deeply hurt you, it can be extremely difficult to forgive．But forgiveness is possible-and it can be surprisingly helpful to your physical and mental （精神上地） health．Indeed, research has shown that people who forgive report more energy, better appetite （胃口） and better sleep．“People who forgive show less anger and more hopefulness,” says Dr Frederic Luskin, who wrote the book Forgive for Good．‘‘So it can help save on the wear and tear on our system and allow people to feel more energetic.”

So when someone has hurt you, calm yourself first．Take a couple of deep breaths and think of something that gives you pleasure: a beautiful scene in nature, someone you love．Don’t want for all apology．“Many times the person．who hurt you may never think of apologizing,” says Dr．Luskin．“They may have wanted to hurt you or they just don’t see things the same way．So if you wait for people to apologize．you could be waiting a very long time.” “Keep in mind that forgiveness does not necessarily mean accepting the action of the person who upset you．Mentally going over your hurt gives power to the person who brought you pain．Instead, learn to look for the love, beauty and kindness around you．Finally, try to see things from the other person’s perspective （视角）．You may realize that he or she was acting out of ignorance （傲慢）, fear even love．To gain perspective, you may want to write a letter to yourself from that person’s point of view.”

1．According to the writer, what is the right way to calm down after being hurt?

A．Try to figure out why you get hurt.

B．Write a letter to the person who hurt you.

C．Persuade yourself to accept what others have done to you.

D．Think about pleasant things and forget about the hurt.

2．Dr．Luskin advises us not to wait for an apology after being hurt because ________.

A．we are not patient enough

B．we’d feel worse accepting other’s apology

C．people seldom want to apologize

D．people don’t mean it when they apologize

3．According to the passage, which of the following ways is suggested by Dr．Luskin _______.

A．Waiting for all apology made by the person who hurt you

B．Trying to see things from the other person’s perspective

C．Thinking about the bad things about the person who hurt you

D．Looking for the hurts that are made by the same person

4．What does the underlined sentence “Mentally going over your hurt gives power to the person who brought you pain.” mean in the second paragraph?

A．Going over your hurts only made you mad and crazy.

B．Going over your hurts only made the person who hurt you sad and regret.

C．Going over the hurts only made you happy and excited.

D．Going over the hurts only made the both of you sad and mad.

When someone has deeply hurt you, it can be extremely difficult to let go of your anger. But forgiveness is possible and it can be surprisingly  36  to your physical and  37   health.
"People who forgive  38  less depression, anger and stress and more hopefulness," says Frederic Luskin, Ph.D.,  39  of Forgive for Good. "So it can help  40  on the .wear and tear on our organs, reduce the wearing out of the immune system and  41  people to feel more vital."
So how do you start the forgiveness? Try  42  these steps:
Calm yourself. To defuse (缓解) your  43  and try a simple stress-management technique.
"Take a couple of breaths and think of  44  that gives you pleasure: a  45  scene in nature, someone you love," Luskin says.
Don’t  46  an apology. "Many times the person who hurt you has no  47  of apologizing," Luskin says. "They may have wanted to hurt you or they just don’t see things the same  48  . So if you wait for people to apologize ,you could be waiting a(n)  49  long time. "Keep in mind that forgiveness does not necessarily mean  50  to the person who upsets you.
Take the control away from your offender. Mentally replaying your  51  gives power to the person who caused you pain. " 52  of focusing on your hurt feelings, learn to look for the love, beauty and kindness  53  you," Luskin says.
Try to see things from the other person’s perspective (立场；视角). If you empathize (有同感) with that person, you may  54  that he or she was acting out of ignorance, fear even love.
Recognize the benefits of forgiveness. Research has shown that people who forgive report more energy, better  55  and better sleep patterns. Don’t forget to forgive yourself. "For some people, forgiving themselves is the biggest challenge," Luskin says.
"But it can rob you of your self-confidence if you don’t do it. "

When someone has deeply hurt you, it can be extremely difficult to let go of your grudge. But forgiveness is possible and it can be surprisingly helpful to your physical and mental health. Indeed, research has shown that people who forgive report more energy, better appetite （胃口） and better sleep patterns. "People who forgive show less anger and more hopefulness," says Dr. Frederic Luskin, who wrote the book Forgive for Good. “So it can help save on the wear and tear, and allow people to feel more energetic."
So when someone has hurt you, calm yourself first. Take a couple of breaths and think of something that gives you pleasure: a beautiful scene in nature, someone you love. Don’t wait for an apology. "Many times the person who hurt you may never think of apologizing," says Dr. Luskin. "They may have wanted to hurt you or they just don't see things the same way. So if you wait for people to apologize, you could be waiting a very long time.” Keep in mind that forgiveness does not necessarily mean accepting the action of the person who upset you. Mentally going over your hurt gives power to the person who brought you pain. Instead, learn to look for the love, beauty and kindness around you. Finally, try to see things from the other person' s perspective. You may realize that he or she was acting out of ignorance(无知), fear even love. To gain perspective, you may want to write a letter to yourself from that person’s point of view.
【小题1】The word “grudge” in the first paragraph most probably means _________.

When someone has deeply hurt you, it can be extremely difficult to let go of your grudge. But forgiveness is possible and it can be surprisingly helpful to your physical and mental health. Indeed, research has shown that people who forgive report more energy, better appetite （胃口） and better sleep patterns. "People who forgive show less anger and more hopefulness," says Dr. Frederic Luskin, who wrote the book Forgive for Good. “So it can help save on the wear and tear, and allow people to feel more energetic."

So when someone has hurt you, calm yourself first. Take a couple of breaths and think of something that gives you pleasure: a beautiful scene in nature, someone you love. Don’t wait for an apology. "Many times the person who hurt you may never think of apologizing," says Dr. Luskin. "They may have wanted to hurt you or they just don't see things the same way. So if you wait for people to apologize, you could be waiting a very long time.” Keep in mind that forgiveness does not necessarily mean accepting the action of the person who upset you. Mentally going over your hurt gives power to the person who brought you pain. Instead, learn to look for the love, beauty and kindness around you. Finally, try to see things from the other person' s perspective. You may realize that he or she was acting out of ignorance(无知), fear even love. To gain perspective, you may want to write a letter to yourself from that person’s point of view.

1.The word “grudge” in the first paragraph most probably means _________.

A．understanding      B．forgiveness        C．anger            D．pity

2.What’s the main idea of the first paragraph?

A．Forgiveness keeps yourself from being hurt.   B．Forgiveness helps stay mentally healthy.

C．Forgiving others does good to your health.    D．Forgiving yourself is the biggest challenge.

3.According to the writer, what is the best way to calm down after being hurt?

A．Try to figure out why you get hurt.

B．Writer a letter to person who hurt you.

C．Persuade yourself to accept what others have done to you.

D．Think about pleasant things and forget about the hurt.

4.Dr. Luskin advises us not to wait for an apology after being hurt because ______.

A．people seldom want to apologize           B．we’d feel worse accepting others' apology

C．we are not patient enough                D．people don’t mean it when they apologize

When someone has deeply hurt you, it can be extremely difficult to let go of your anger. But forgiveness is possible and it can be surprisingly  36  to your physical and  37   health.

"People who forgive  38  less depression, anger and stress and more hopefulness," says Frederic Luskin, Ph.D.,  39  of Forgive for Good. "So it can help  40  on the .wear and tear on our organs, reduce the wearing out of the immune system and  41  people to feel more vital."

So how do you start the forgiveness? Try  42  these steps:

Calm yourself. To defuse (缓解) your  43  and try a simple stress-management technique.

"Take a couple of breaths and think of  44  that gives you pleasure: a  45  scene in nature, someone you love," Luskin says.

Don't  46  an apology. "Many times the person who hurt you has no  47  of apologizing," Luskin says. "They may have wanted to hurt you or they just don't see things the same  48  . So if you wait for people to apologize ,you could be waiting a(n)  49  long time. "Keep in mind that forgiveness does not necessarily mean  50  to the person who upsets you.

Take the control away from your offender. Mentally replaying your  51  gives power to the person who caused you pain. " 52  of focusing on your hurt feelings, learn to look for the love, beauty and kindness  53  you," Luskin says.

Try to see things from the other person's perspective (立场；视角). If you empathize (有同感) with that person, you may  54  that he or she was acting out of ignorance, fear even love.

Recognize the benefits of forgiveness. Research has shown that people who forgive report more energy, better  55  and better sleep patterns. Don't forget to forgive yourself. "For some people, forgiving themselves is the biggest challenge," Luskin says.

"But it can rob you of your self-confidence if you don't do it. "

　　阅读理解：

　　When someone has deeply hurt you, it can be extremely difficult to let go of your anger．But forgiveness is possible ?and it can be surprisingly helpful to your physical and mental health．Indeed, research has shown that people who forgive report more energy, better appetite (胃口) and better sleep patterns．“People who forgive show less anger and more hopefulness,” says Dr．Frederic Luskin, who wrote the book Forgive for Good．“So it can help save on the wear and tear on our system and allow people to feel more energetic．”

　　So when someone has hurt you, calm yourself first．Take a couple of breaths and think of something that gives you pleasure: a beautiful scene in nature, someone you love．Don't wait for an apology．“Many times the person who hurt you may never think of apologizing,” says Dr．Luskin．“They may have wanted to hurt you or they just don't see things the same way．So if you wait for people to apologize, you could be waiting a very long time．”Keep in mind that forgiveness does not necessarily mean accepting the action of the person who upset you．Mentally going over your hurt gives power to the person who brought you pain．Instead, learn to look for the love, beauty and kindness around you．Finally, try to see things from the other person's perspective (视角)．You may realize that he or she was acting out of ignorance (无知), fear even love．To gain perspective, you may want to write a letter to yourself from that person's point of view．

1．The text is mainly written to explain________．

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A．how to keep yourself from being hurt

B．how to stay mentally healthy

C．how and when to remain calm

D．why and how to pardon others

2．According to the writer, what is the right way to calm down after being hurt?

[　　]

A．Try to figure out why you get hurt．

B．Write a letter to the person who hurt you．

C．Persuade yourself to accept what others have done to you．

D．Think about pleasant things and forget about the hurt．

3．Dr．Luskin advises us not to wait for an apology after being hurt because ________．

[　　]

A．we are not patient enough

B．we'd feel worse accepting others'apology

C．people seldom want to apologize

D．people don't mean it when they apologize