Building Trust in a Relationship Again

Trust (信任)is a learned behavior(习得行为) that we gain from past experiences(以往经历). 1.Trust is a risk.But you can’t be successful when there’s a lack of trust in a relationship that results from an action where the wrongdoer takes no responsibility to fix the mistake.

Unfortunately,we’ve all been victims of betrayal(背信).Whether we’ve been stolen from,lied被欺骗 to,misled被误导,or cheated on被哄骗,there are different levels of losing trust.Sometimes people simply can’t trust anymore(有时候人们就是不能再信任别人). 2. It’s understandable(可理解的),but if you’re willing to build trust in a relationship(人际关系) again,we have some steps you can take to get you there.

3. Having confidence in yourself will help you make better choices because you can see what the best outcome结果 would be for your well-being幸福.

4.If you’ve been betrayed(如果你遭遇了背叛),you are the victim(受害者) of your circumstance(客观环境).But there’s a difference between being a victim and living with a “victim mentality”(“受害者的心态”).At some point in all of our lives,we’ll have our trust tested or violated. 被破坏

You didn’t lose “everything”.Once trust is lost,what is left? Instead of looking at the situation from this hopeless angle角度,look at everything you still have and be thankful for all of the good in your life.5.Instead,it’s a healthy way to work through the experience to allow room余地 for positive growth and forgiveness(宽恕).

A.Learn to really trust yourself.

B.It is putting confidence in someone(对某人寄托信任).

C.Stop regarding yourself as the victim.

D.Remember that you can expect the best in return.

AB.They’ve been too badly hurt and they can’t bear to let it happen again. .(他们曾经受过严重伤害,不能容忍这种事情再次发生。)

AC.This knowledge carries over in their attitude toward their future relationships.

AD.Seeing the positive(积极的) side of things doesn’t mean you’re ignoring(忽视) what happened.

Two recent studies have found that punishment is not the best way to influence behavior.

One showed that adults are much more cooperative if they work in a system based on rewards. Researchers at Harvard University in the United States and the Stockholm School of Economics in Sweden did the study.

They had about two hundred college students play a version of the game known as the Prisoner’s Dilemma. The game is based on the tension between the interests of an individual and a group. The students played in groups of four. Each player could win points for the group, so they would all gain equally. But each player could also reward or punish each of the other three players. Harvard researcher David Rand says the most successful behavior proved to be cooperation. The groups that rewarded the most earned about twice as much in the game as the groups that rewarded the least. And the more a group punished itself, the lower its earnings. The study appeared last month in the journal Science.

The other study involved children. It was presented last month in California at a conference on violence and abuse(虐待). Researchers used intelligence tests given to two groups. More than eight hundred children were aged two to four the first time they were tested. More than seven hundred children were aged five to nine. The two groups were retested four years later, and the study compared the results with the first test. Both groups contained children whose parents used physical punishment and children whose parents did not.

The study says the IQs of the younger children who were not spanked were five points higher than those who were. In the older group, the difference was almost three points. The more they are spanked, the slower their mental development.

1.Which of the following is TRUE according to the second study?

A. Children’s IQs have much to do with physical punishment.

B. The study is about violence and cooperation of children.

C. The children tested were divided into groups of four.

D. Children’s mental development only relies on their IQs.

2.What does the underlined word “spanked” refer to?

A. punished B. blamed

C. tested D. praised

3.What might be the best title for the text?

A. The Best Way to Correct Misbehavior

B. Punishment Is the Best Way of Education

C. Cooperation Is the Most Successful Behavior

D. Punishment or Reward: Which Works Better on Behavior?

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