Most people say “yes” much more readily than “no”.

A friend is moving house this weekend and would like some help, and you agree. But, what you really wanted was a couple of quiet days relaxing at home. Or a roommate spends the entire weekends playing video games and wants to borrow your homework for “reference”. But, you’ve just finished it after taking a whole day to work hard.

Many people say “yes” to these kinds of requests. They tend not to consider their own interests and feelings, and are often angry with themselves afterwards.

Saying “no” requires courage and considerable practice, in fact, according to psychologists.

“Everyone wants to be liked,” says Gabriele Steinki, a German psychologist. “Saying ‘no’ risks losing the affection of the person asking the favor or even a job.”

The result is that many people say “yes” just for keeping the peace. But experts say this is regrettable. Anyone should have the right to say “no”.

In fact, rejecting a request can even help to strengthen a relationship because it expresses a true feeling.

But, for people used to agreeing to every request, changing can be a long and uncomfortable learning process.

Most people believe that “If I say ‘no’, I’ll lose the affection of the person. But the affection is important to me.” This way of thinking can be replaced by this: “If he only likes me because I always do what suits him , then the price of his affection is too high in the long term.”

Steinki says the key is talking to the other person to find a mutual (相互的) solution. “One needs to present the situation from one’s own point of view, and to suggest how the situation can be dealt with to the advantage of both parties. The other person must have the feeling that his interests are being considered.”[

When the refusal is not accepted, Steinki advises giving the reasons calmly again until the person gets the message.

1.Most people say “yes” much more readily than “no” because ________.[

A. they don’t care about their own interests and feelings

B. they don’t know they will regret afterwards

C. they have already been used to saying “yes”

D. they care more about others’ affection

2.In the opinion of experts, _________ .

A. people need a lot of practice to say “no”

B. people should say “yes” to keep the peace

C. saying “no” means losing a job

D. people have the right to be liked

3.According to the writer, what should you do if you want to refuse the other person’s request?

A. Just say you can’t help him.

B. Say sorry to him.

C. Refuse him clearly.

D. Talk to the other person to find a mutual way.

4.According to the writer, what should you do if your refusal is not accepted?

A. Say yes to him.                 B. Repeat your reason for his acceptance

C. Just go away                 D. Say no to him

5.What is the best title of the passage?

A. You Need Courage To Say “No”        B. “Yes” More Than “No”

C. Nobody Has the Right To Say “No”     D. It’s Easy To Say “Yes”

Nobody has the right to go there to have dinner free,____?

A. hasn’t it          B. has it        C. haven’t they           D. have they

根据汉意或所给首字母填写单词（5分）。
【小题1】This d_______ of the culture is not surprising when you know the history of California.
【小题2】Cloning plants is straightforward while cloning animals is very c________.
【小题3】I could see he was terrified of being a_________ by us.
【小题4】Nobody has the right to s______ in the street.
【小题5】However, he was f___________ by the Guinness Book of World Records
【小题6】The necklace was well _________ (保存).
【小题7】This time with great __________(谨慎，小心) I bent down to examine the snakes and found them very sleepy.
【小题8】Eliza is a poor flower girl who has _________ (雄心勃勃) to improve herself
【小题9】Luckily, Tom could be our ____________(翻译)
【小题10】How ________( 难为情) to be discovered by her friend, Claire thought.

We are not born doubting ourselves. We learn to do it. In fact, we are usually taught to doubt ourselves. We can learn some ways that allow us to become more accepting of ourselves. Following are two behaviors that might explain the reasons why you can’t move towards greater self-acceptance.

One thing that might cause you not to accept yourself is over-generalizing about something you've done that you don’t like．For example, if you fail a test you might generalize and say, “I’m really a stupid person.” When you do this you are making a statement about all of you all of the time and not just about this one situation at this time. Instead, you might decide that your grade on this test in this subject at this time was indeed poor, and then go on to decide what you want to do about your poor grade, if anything. Getting stuck in over-generalizing discourages you from taking steps that might allow you to do better on the next exam and to build an expectation of future failure.

Having standards that are impossibly high is a second way you can not accept yourself. It may not come as a surprise to you that most of us are more demanding of ourselves than we are of others. Somehow we can tolerate the fact that other people fail, that they aren’t always kind, that they’ve done things they aren’t proud of, but we have difficulty accepting those very human aspects of ourselves. The need to be perfect is another way to set yourself up for failure and enhance the feeling that you are not acceptable. We all make mistakes. Accepting less than perfection simply means recognizing the limitations natural in being born a human being. Learn to value who you are rather than who you could become. Wouldn’t it be overpowering if we always had to do what we imagine we could do? Nobody has the time and energy to do all of that. We must make choices about what we will pursue and do them the best we can under the circumstances, which aren’t always ideal, by the way.

60．Which of the following is true according to the passage?

A. We can feel that we are perfect when we set ourselves up for success.

B. We can tolerate the fact that we’ve done things we aren’t proud of.

C. Over-generalizing might encourage you to expect the future.

D. Over-generalizing might cause you not to accept yourself.

61．What is the author’s attitude according to the passage?

A. It’s necessary for people to be perfect.

B. It’s acceptable for people to be imperfect.

C. It’s strange for people to be born with limitation.

D. It’s possible for people to do what they imagine.

62．What has caused the lack of self-acceptance?

A. Tolerance and high-level.

B. Limitation and expectation.

C. Over-generalization and high-standard.

D. Extreme difficulty and complete failure.

根据汉意或所给首字母填写单词（5分）。

1.This d_______ of the culture is not surprising when you know the history of California.

2.Cloning plants is straightforward while cloning animals is very c________.

3.I could see he was terrified of being a_________ by us.

4.Nobody has the right to s______ in the street.

5.However, he was f___________ by the Guinness Book of World Records

6.The necklace was well _________ (保存).

7.This time with great __________(谨慎，小心) I bent down to examine the snakes and found them very sleepy.

8.Eliza is a poor flower girl who has _________ (雄心勃勃) to improve herself

9.Luckily, Tom could be our ____________(翻译)

10.How ________( 难为情) to be discovered by her friend, Claire thought.