Several years ago, I had a huge falling out with one of my best friends. So huge, in fact, that now I can’t even remember what happened.
In the past nine years, I’ve seen her twice, and each time we’ve been polite but distant. And that troubles me because we were once inseparable. I’d like nothing more than to go back nine years, and continue our friendship. But how? How do you reconnect with friends you’ve lost throughout the years?
Linking to your past
The desire to reconnect with lost friends isn’t unusual. Why? Because friends link us to the past. “Friends from years ago are custodians (监护人) of our past,” says Sandy Sheehy.
Although you can share information about your past with friends you’ve met recently, you don’t have a shared history with them. So you wind up only telling them about your past, rather than sharing it with them.
But many people never try to reconnect. Women especially have trouble taking the first step. Shyness or fear that the other person doesn’t want to reconnect often stops many women. And that shouldn’t be. Your friends probably want to be in touch with you as much as you want to be in touch with them.
Searching for friends
Fortunately, finding lost friends isn’t as difficult as it once was, thanks to tools like the Internet. Our experts offer these suggestions for locating contact information:
Search Internet sites designed to locate people like classmates.com and switchboard.com.
Contact your high school or college alumni (校友) office to request current address information.
Surf online yellow pages. Check current phone records from your friend’s hometown.
Network with other friends who might have known your friend.
Get in touch with any of her relatives, if you know where they live. If you know where she works, find the company’s website and search the directory of personnel.
【小题1】What is the subject discussed in the passage?

A.How to make new friends.
B.How to rebuild friendship.
C.How to develop healthy friendship.
D.How to keep in touch with friends.
【小题2】The underlined sentence “friends from years ago are custodians of our past” in Paragraph 3 means _____.
A.years ago old friends kept something for us
B.in the past old friends took care of us
C.old friends are part of our life history
D.old friends know what wrongs we did
【小题3】What makes us unwilling to reconnect old friends?
A.Lack of money.B.Busy time. C.Regret and shame.D.Fear and shyness.
【小题4】How can we make contact with the lost friends?
A.By asking other friends of the information on your lost friends.
B.By searching your friends’ telephone number on the Net.
C.By asking the local post office about your friends’ new address.
D.By putting an advertisement in your friends’ local town.

Having friends may well keep you healthier and help you deal with stress better. Some studies show that people with close friends have a greater ability to fight disease than people who are alone.

Place friendship in the first place. Find the time to be with friends even if it means letting the lawn go unmowed or the dishes unwashed for a while. When you can’t get together, use the phone to keep in touch.

Open up to close friends. Keeping a deep friendship requires a level of “heartfelt” intimacy (亲密).Don’t be afraid to express your inner fears and disappointments. Listen to your friends when they have problems,but offer advice only when it’s wanted. Help raise friends’ self­esteem when they are sad about a job loss, or other such events.

Have different friends for different activities, such as going to the movies,singing in a choir,and joining in a bowling league.

Don’t wait for a friend to ask for helps. When a friend has the flu,offer to go to the store or drive his or her children to their after­school activities.

Never take a friendship for granted. Like a good marriage,friendship needs care and patience. Become a joiner. Find a group that matches your interests.

Talk to strangers. Conversations started in museums, laundry rooms,or bookstores can lead to firm friendship.

Enroll in an adult­education course. A classroom is an ideal place to meet others with similar interests.

1.People with close friends have a        ability to fight disease than people who are alone.

A. less   B. greater      C.poorer         D. little

2.According to the passage,you’d better offer advice to your friends       .

A. at any moment

B. only when they are happy

C. only when they want it

D. only when you are glad

3.What we should do to have friends according to the author?

A. Make friendship a priority.

B. Open up to close friends.

C. Never take a friendship for granted.

D. All the above.

4.Which of the statements is TRUE according to the passage?

A. You should have different friends for the same activities.

B. You should wait for a friend to ask a favor.

C. You should avoid talking with strangers in museums, laundry rooms, or bookstores.

D. You should never take a friendship for granted.

5.The underlined word “enroll” in the last paragraph means         .

A. give  B. join   C. get    D. catch

 

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