Next time a customer comes to your office, offer him a cup of coffee. And when you're doing your holiday shopping online, make sure you're holding a large glass of iced tea. The physical sensation (感觉)  of warmth encourages emotional warmth, while a cold drink in hand prevents you from making unwise decisions-those are the practical lesson being drawn from recent research by psychologist John A. Bargh.

Psychologists have known that one person's perception (感知) of another's "warmth" is a powerful determiner in social relationships. Judging someone to be either "warm" or "cold" is a primary consideration, even trumping evidence that a "cold" person may be more capable. Much of this is rooted in very early childhood experiences, Bargh argues, when babies' conceptual sense of the world around them is shaped by physical sensations, particularly warmth and coldness. Classic studies by Harry Harlow, published in 1958, showed monkeys preferred to stay close to a cloth "mother" rather than one made of wire, even when the wire "mother" carried a food bottle. Harlow's work and later studies have led psychologists to stress the need for warm physical contact from caregivers to help young children grow into healthy adults with normal social skills. Feelings of "warmth" and "coldness" in social judgments appear to be universal. Although no worldwide study has been done, Bargh says that describing people as "warm " or "cold" is common to many cultures, and studies have found those perceptions influence judgment in dozens of countries.

To test the relationship between physical and psychological warmth, Bargh conducted an experiment which involved 41 college students. A research assistant who was unaware of the study's hypotheses (假设) , handed the students either a hot cup of coffee, or a cold drink, to hold while the researcher filled out a short information form: The drink was then handed back. After that, the students were asked to rate the personality of "Person A" based on a particular description. Those who had briefly held the warm drink regarded Person A as warmer than those who had held the iced drink.

" We are grounded in our physical experiences even when we think abstractly," says Bargh.

The author mentions Harlow's experiment to show that _________ .

A. adults should develop social skills         B. babies need warm physical contact

C. caregivers should be healthy adults        D. monkeys have social relationships

In Bargh’s experiment, the students were asked to _________ .

A. evaluate someone's personality                B. write down their hypotheses

C. fill out a personal information form        D. hold coffee and cold drink alternatively

We can infer from the passage that _________ .

A. abstract thinking does not come from physical experiences

B. feelings of warmth and coldness are studied worldwide

C. physical temperature affects how we see others

D. capable persons are often cold to others

What would be the best title for the passage?

A. Drinking for Better Social Relationships 

B. Experiments of Personality Evaluation

C. Developing Better Drinking Habits

D. Physical Sensations and Emotions

  When you are at odds with someone close to you, the One-Minute Drill can show you how to express your feelings effectively – and how to listen more skillfully. All it requires is two individuals who are committed to improving their relationship.

  Set aside at least ten minutes, and then sit facing each other. Decide who will be the Talker and who will be the Listener. It makes no difference, because later you will change roles.

How to perform the One-Minute Drill

  For approximately 30 seconds, the Talker can say anything he or she wants. Your job will be to express your thoughts and feelings. You can discuss problems you've had a hard time talking about. Remember to limit yourself to about 30 seconds. When the Talker finishes, the Listener will summarize what the Talker just said, as well as how the Talker was feeling inside, as accurately as possible.

  The Talker now gives the Listener a grade between 0 and 100 per cent to indicate how accurate the summary was. If the rating is 95 per cent or more, you can change roles; the new Talker can continue with the same topic or move on to something entirely new.

  However, if the grade is below 95 per cent, the Talker should point out what the Listener missed or got wrong, and repeat the process until the overall rating is 95 per cent or more. Then you can change roles and repeat the exercise for as long as you both like.

How it works

  Thirty seconds of emotionally charged information is sufficiently challenging for anyone. Express your feelings in strong, clear, direct language, but as your partner will be listening attentively, you won't need to shout, exaggerate or put your partner down.

  The Listener should sit and listen respectfully without interrupting. Look into your partner's eyes, but avoid using negative body language. If you like, take a few notes.

  So the Talker might say: "When I come home from work, I feel tired and I need some quiet time. But you tell me I'm supposed to spend time with the kids. This makes me feel frustrated. I work hard and I'm exhausted at the end of the day. I feel like I deserve a little time to relax, not listen to more demands."

  In response, the Listener might summarize like this: "You just told me that you feel exhausted when you come home at night because you've been working hard all day. When I tell you I want you to spend time with the kids, you feel frustrated and ticked off because you're tired and you need time to relax. You see me as very demanding, and you're probably feeling like I don't appreciate you."

  The first time you attempt the One-Minute Drill, you may get a low score. Don't worry, because you'll get up to speed quickly. Once you've tried this exercise a few times, you'll find that you can nearly always get ratings of 95 per cent or better on the first or second try.

Who is the One-Minute Drill intended for?

A. Those who are to act some roles in a certain play for the first time in their life.

B. Those who are preparing for the interview in order to make a good first impression.

C. Those who have difficulty communicating with their colleagues or family members.

D. Those who have troubled relationships with their friends or family members and try to improve them.

Which of the following is NOT true?

A. In the One-Minute Drill, the Talker and the Listener change roles in the process.

B. The Talker should talk about his / her thoughts and feelings in a brief way.

C. The Listener should listen carefully, respectfully and later summarize accurately.

D. After the Talker finishes talking, the Listener is to give him / her a grade.

From the example given in “How it works,” we can guess that the talk might be between _____.

A. husband and wife   B. father and son   C. mother and daughter   D. sister and brother

What does the underlined part “ticked off” probably mean in this reading?

A. fast asleep                           B. very angry

C. burst into tears                   D. marked with a symbol

I’ll never forget my first daughter, who died too early from a bad accident. During those years, life was   36   . One Christmas I found my 3-year-old daughter   37   with a roll of golden wrapping paper. I had bought the paper to finish a rather important project. So I became   38   and scolded her loudly, “You are not good. And you are   39   your father’s money. You don’t know how hard your parents are working.” She was   40   and cried bitterly, running away.

      41  , she brought a gift, a golden   42   made of golden wrapping paper to me the next morning and said, “This is for you, Daddy.” I was   43   of my earlier hurting words, but my anger rose again when I found out the box was   44  . I shouted at her, “Don’t you know, when you give someone a present, there is supposed to be something inside?” She   45   at me with tears in her eyes and cried, “Oh, Daddy, it’s not empty at all. I blew   46   into the box. They’re all for you, Daddy.”

       I was completely   47  . I put my arms around her and begged for her   48  . A year later, a serious   49   took the life of my daughter. I was so sad that I   50   in bed for three days and three nights, saying nothing with tears rolling down my cheek. From then on, I hated cars and kept the golden box by my bed for many years. Whenever I was   51   , I would take out an imaginary kiss and   52   the love of my daughter who had put it there.

       In a very real   53   , each one of us, as humans beings, has been given a golden container   54   with unconditional love and kisses ... from our children, family members, friends, and God. There are   55   no other possessions that anyone could hold more precious than this.

A. nice         B. hard            C. instructive  D. dull

A. tearing        B. littering          C. cutting           D. busy

A. disappointed   B. curious           C. angry      D. anxious

A. using           B. spending        C. sparing       D. wasting

A. confused      B. frightened        C. amazed      D. calm

A. Therefore           B. However        C. Thus         D. Though

A. box           B. tie              C. car          D. pen

A. scared         B. happy            C. ashamed     D. satisfied

A. full            B. broken               C. cheap       D. empty

A. looked around B. looked away      C. looked up   D. looked down

A. kisses          B. love             C. hearts      D. prays

A. glad           B. touched          C. upset       D. confident

A. thanks          B. gifts            C. forgiveness D. explanation

A. event           B. illness           C. operation    D. accident

A. lay            B. stood            C. knelt        D. sat

A. lost            B. hungry           C. discouraged       D. sick

A. realize          B. remember        C. recognize   D. respond

A. way         B. state            C. direction    D. sense

A. decorated       B. filled            C. covered      D. linked

A. only           B. naturally        C. simply       D. actually

The average person learns most of the 30 000~40 000 words whose meanings he or she recognizes by hearing them or getting familiar with them in the context or simply absorbing them without conscious(意识到的) effort. The best way to build a good vocabulary, therefore, is to read a great deal and to participate in a lot of good talks. There are relatively few words that we learn permanently(永久的)by purposefully referring to dictionaries or keeping word lists. However, even those extra few are of value, and no one will make a mistake by working on developing a larger vocabulary. Here are some suggestions of how to do it.

Read plenty of good books. When you come across a new word, or a new meaning of an old word, stop and see if you can understand it from its context. If you can't, and if you can manage without interrupting the thought of the book too much, look it up in a dictionary or ask somebody and then repeat its meaning to yourself a couple of times. If you are really conscientious(认真的), write the word and its meaning in a personal vocabulary list — preferably using it in a sentence, or you can keep a special vocabulary notebook. Go over the list from time to time. Further, try to use a new word in writing or conversation a few times over the next several days.

Listen to good talks and be alert to new words you hear or to new meanings of words you already know. Then treat them just as you treat the new words you read.

Learn and be alert to the parts of words: prefixes, suffixes and roots. Knowing them enables you to make intelligent guesses about the meaning of words.

If you are studying a foreign language, be alert to words in that language which relate to words in English. English has inherited(继承) or borrowed much of its vocabulary of 500 000~600 000 words from Latin, Greek, French, Spanish and German.

When you meet a new word in reading, what should you do?

A. Guess its meaning.                              B. Ask somebody.

C. Look it up in a dictionary.                     D. All of the above.

According to this passage, the best way to build a good vocabulary is ___.

A. to remember a lot                                 B. to read a great deal

C. to take part in a lot of good talks            D. both B and C

The phrase “be alert to” in the third paragraph may best be replaced by “___”.

A. look at                                               B. pay attention to 

C. write down                                         D. learn by heart

In the fourth paragraph, the word “them” refers to ___.

A. the parts of words                                 B. prefixes

C. suffixes                                                D. roots

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