Several years ago, I had a huge falling out with one of my best friends. So huge, in fact, that now I can’t even remember what happened.

In the past nine years, I’ve seen her twice, and each time we’ve been polite but distant. And that troubles me because we were once that close to each other. I’d like nothing more than to go back nine years, and continue our friendship. But how? How do you reconnect with friends you’ve lost throughout the years?

Linking to your past

The desire to reconnect with lost friend isn’t unusual. Why? Because friends link us to the past. Friends from years ago are custodians(监护人) of our past, says Sandy Sheehy, author of Connecting” The Enduring Power of Female Friendship.

Although you can’t share information about your past with friends you’ve met recently, you don’t have a shared history with them. So you wind up only telling them about your past, rather than sharing it with them.

But many people never try to reconnect. Women especially have trouble taking the first step. Shyness or fear that the other person doesn’t want to reconnect often stops many women. And that shouldn’t be. Your friends probably want to be in touch with you as much as you want to be in touch with them.

Searching for friends

Fortunately, finding lost friends isn’t as difficult as it once was, thanks to tools like the Internet. Our experts offer these suggestions for locating contact information:

Search Internet sites designed to locate people like classmates.com and switchboard.com.

Contact your high school or college alumni(校友)office to request current address information.

Surf online yellow pages. Check current phone records from your friend’s hometown.

Network with other friends who might have known your friend.

Get in touch with any of her relatives(亲戚), if you know where they live. If you know where she works, find the company’s web site and search the directory of personnel.

1.What ‘s the subject discussed in the passage?

A. How to make new friends.               B. How to rediscover friendships.

C. How to develop healthy friendships     D. How to keep in touch with friends.

2.The underlined sentence “Friends from years ago are custodians of our past” means _____.

A. many years ago old friends kept something for us

B. in the past old friends took care of us

C. old friends are part of our life history

D. old friends know what wrong things we did in the past

3.What makes us unwilling to reconnect old friends?

A. Lack of money                    B. Shortage of time        

C. Regret and shame                 D. Fear and shyness

4.How can we make contact with the lost friends?

A. By asking other friends of the information on your lost friends.

B. By searching your friends’ telephone number in the net.

C. By asking the local post office about your friends’ new address.

D. By putting an ad in your friends’ local town.

 

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Being healthy means taking care of yourself physically and mentally. Here are some of my best tips on how to do both:

Break a bad habit. You don’t really “break” habits. You replace the unwanted behavior with something that prevents you from doing it and that doesn’t have unhealthy side effects. So if your problem is that you eat too much when you get home from work, find something new to do that is incompatible(不能共存的)with what you usually do. You can’t walk around the track at the school and pig out in your kitchen at the same time.

Grow your marriage. Relationships are negotiated, and the negotiation never stops. It’s always a give-and-take, always requires work. It’s like if you planted a garden and came back six months later----you wouldn’t even be able to find it. You have to tend it, feed it, weed it, deal with the problems.

Beat stress.  My dog, Maggie, is the best anti – stress tool I have. A few minutes petting, scratching or playing with her, and                            . Exercise also helps. Just about every day, I’m on the tennis court. It’s a great workout, and if I don’t have that, I don’t cope as well, sleep as well or think as well.

Refocus your anger. Expressing your anger is just not that good an idea. You say things you don’t mean. Instead, recognize that anger is usually a symptom of hurt, fear or frustration(挫折), and deal with the causes rather than blow up. When you do that, you’re a problem solver.

Don’t medicate with food.

It never, ever works. You’re denying your issue by eating your way through it, instead of saying, Hey, I’ve got a problem.

1.What’s the best title? (Answer within 10 words.)

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2.Fill in the blank in the passage in your own words.(Answer within 10 words.)

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3.Complete the following statement with proper words.(no more than 4words).

Marriages are much like gardens. You need to _______________ your marriage as you do to your garden. It takes much effort to maintain your marriage. If there is a problem, you should deal with it immediately

4.What does the word “it” (paragraph 2) probably refer to? (no more than 3 words)

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5.How to refocus your anger according to the whriter? ( Answer within 30 words.)

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