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How to make friends with people from a different culture? The rules are as follows:
Appreciate the Person.
Most Americans like to be recognized as individuals as someone special with unique personalities. Therefore, never say, “You’re from America so I want to be your friend.” Also don’t imply that the reason why you approached them is that you wanted someone to practice your English with. That turns people off. Instead try saying,” You seem like a real nice and interesting person and I would like to get to know you better.” This way, they are much more inclined to be friendly because you see them as a three dimensional person and appreciate them for who they are in the inside. And by doing so, you not only learn about Americans and practice your English, but also gain a real friend in the process.
Quit Calling Us Foreigners.
Please avoid calling a foreigner a foreigner especially in his face. The word makes people feel like an outsider, and even unwelcome, suggesting separation and insurmountable differences, widening an already existing gap in the situation. When Americans travel, they rarely say, “ I’m foreign to your place.” They tend to say, “ I’m new in town. I’m new here.” The reason is because new and unfamiliar things can become old and familiar. But can foreign things become native? Aha? You catch my drift.
Just Do It.
Some students like to be told about American culture but are less interested in spending the time and the effort to actually experience it. As Americans always say, “ Get your hands dirty.” You should have first hand and hands on experience, or you’ll never really know anything.
Find that Common Language.
Now I must stress the importance of finding a common language. By that I don’t mean English, Chinese, German, French, etc. I mean finding something you have in common with another person on a spiritual and philosophical level: likes, dislikes, worldviews, ways of thinking , and attitudes toward life. And to start, you must first enhance your knowledge of the particular culture from which your potential new friend comes form.
【小题1】The underlined sentence “ Get your hands dirty” means .
A.get involved | B.start with dirty work |
C.talk about American culture | D.don’t wash your hands too often |
A.avoid talking about their homeland |
B.recognize their personalities |
C.obey rules of communicating with friends |
D.needn’t practice English while playing together |
A.I am longing to make friends with an American. |
B.This is my friend Tom, who is a foreigner. |
C.There must be a gap between us in many things. |
D.You’ve got a great personality. |
Many countries such as Iraq, Uganda, Guatemala, and many others have been known to abduct(诱拐)children and force them to serve in the army. The reason is that the enemy isn’t likely to suspect children as a real threat. Many non-government organizations are also known to abduct and force children into being child soldiers. Below we have some quotes from former child soldiers.
“The army was a nightmare. We suffered greatly from the cruel treatment we received. We were often beaten, mostly for no reason at all, just to keep us in a state of terror. I still have a scar on my lip and sharp pains in my stomach from being violently kicked by the older soldiers. The food was not enough, and they made us walk with heavy loads, much too heavy for our small bodies. They forced me to learn how to fight the enemy.”
——Emilio, 14
They gave me pills that made me crazy. When the craziness got in my head, I beat people on their heads and hurt them until they bled. When the craziness got out of my head, I felt guilty. If I remembered the person, I went to them and apologized. If they did not accept my apology, I felt bad.
——Michael, 13
As seen in the quotes, the army is not very friendly toward children. Forced to act like adults, kill like adults, and carry an adult’s load, these children sometimes die from exhaustion(筋疲力尽). Below are some facts about child soldiers.
Today, as many as 300,000 children under the age of 18 serve in government forces or armed rebel groups. Some are as young as eight years old. Children are most likely to become child soldiers if they have no money to buy food and clothes. Many children join armed groups because of economic or social pressure, or because children believe that the group will offer food or safety. Child soldiers are used all over the world. Here is a list of where child soldiers are used.
59.Many countries force children to serve in the army because__________.
A.children are brave and strong
B.the enemy doesn’t consider children as a threat
C.there aren’t enough adults to join the army
D.they think children are very easy to control
60.Which of the following words can best describe Emilio’s feeling about his army life?
A.Adventurous B.Happy C.Boring D.Terrible
61.When Michael became crazy, he would_____________.
A.try to kill people B.apologize to people
C.beat people violently D.feel guilty about himself
62.According to the passage, many children who become child soldiers_________.
A.are very poor B.have lost their parents
C.are loyal to their country D.are braver than other children
Many parents have learned the hard way that what sounds like open communication is often the very thing that closes a youngster’s ears and mouth. One common mistake is the Lecture, the long monologue that often starts with “When I was your age….” Eighteen-year-old Kelly calls lectures “long, one-side discussions in which I don’t say much.”
Kids reflexively(条件反射地) shut down in the face of a lecture. Their eyes glaze over, and they don’t register any incoming information. Listen to 13-year-old Sarah describe her least favorite times with her mom and dad. “First, they scream. Then comes the ‘We’re so disappointed’ speech. Then the ‘I never did that to my parents’ lecture begins. After that, even if they realize how ridiculous they sound, they never take it back.”
Lines like “When you have children of your own, you’ll understand” have been seriously said by parents since time immemorial. But many of our expert parents, like Bobby, a registered nurse and mother of three, feel that by falling back on clichés(陈词滥调)to justify our actions, we weaken our position.
Since kids are creatures of here and now, the far-off future has no relevance to them. Therefore, good communicators like Bobby suggest, “Give specific reasons for your actions in present language: ‘I’m not letting you go to the party because I don’t think there will be enough adult supervisions(监护).’”
Betty, who lives in Missiouri, uses an indirect approach. “I find that warnings are accepted more readily if I discuss a news article on a subject I am concerned about. My husband and I talk about it while our children absorb the information. Then they never think I’m preaching(布道).”
This really helped when Betty’s kids began driving. Instead of constantly repeating “Don’t drink; don’t speed,” she would talk about articles in the paper and express sympathy for the victims of a car crash. Betty made no special effort to draw her kids into the conversation. She depended on a teenager’s strong desire to put in his opinions---especially if he thinks he isn’t being asked for them.
【小题1】The purpose of the passage is to _________.
A.compare two ways of parents` communicating with their kids |
B.explain why kids won’t listen to their parents |
C.give parents advice on how to communicate with their kids |
D.introduce kids` reaction to the communication between them and their parents |
A.Kids won’t listen to their parents because they think what their parents say is boring. |
B.Kids don’t like any discussion at all. |
C.Some kids think their parents should apologize when they are wrong. |
D.Many kids think they have no right to express their own opinions. |
A.讨论 | B.对话 | C.插话 | D.独白 |
A.Something related to kids’ present life |
B.Kids possible life in the future |
C.Parents` own experience |
D.What parents have done to their own parents. |
A.tell their kids to listen carefully |
B.arouse kids’ desire to express themselves. |
C.list out as many examples as possible |
D.set out their warnings directly |