My husband and I insisted that our children were old enough to clean their rooms and make their beds. But they thought   1 . My complaints, even self-justified（自有道理）  2 , were always landing on   3  ears. Very often a whole hour’s scolding would end with their   4  into tears. I felt very frustrated. I realized I needed to   5  my method of “mothering”.
One day when they were at school, I spent some time tidying their rooms. On their desks, in plain   6 , I left the cards: “Dear Bill(the other card was   7  to Sarah), your room was messy this morning and I’m sure you like it clean. Love, the Room Fairy.”   8  arriving back, the children were   9  excited to receive the little note from the Room Fairy. The next day, their rooms were fairly tidy. Sure enough, there was another note from the Room Fairy   10  for them, thanking them for their nice “gift” of a clean room and   11  asking them to play a certain violin   12 . Each day, thank-you notes would be written differently to keep the ideas   13 ．
Sometimes the Room Fairy would propose a little   14 : “If you can finish your homework and go over your lessons before dinner, I’d like to watch a particular television program with you tonight.” Sometimes some colored markers or other little items would be left in   15  of well-done jobs the day  16 .
 17  I can’t remember how long “the Room Fairy” continued leaving her love notes. When they were age appropriate, we used various versions of Post-Its （贴条）. The bathroom mirror became the  18  centre of our home. Appointments, notices about visiting relatives, lesson schedules, and changes in plans could be  19 .
We all benefited from and   20  the idea of sharing reminders and daily details of life through notes. I believe the true advantage of the Room Fairy notes survives in our frequent and enjoyable communication．

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Successful people are nicer to those who are jealous of them, psychologists have found.
　　　The fear that they may become the target of malicious（恶意的）envy makes people act more helpfully toward people who they think might be jealous of them.
　　　Previous research found jealousy could be divided into benign and malicious envy. Those with benign envy were motivated to improve themselves, to do better so they could be more like the person they envied.52--------　The Dutch researchers then set out to question the effect on the target of the envy.
In lab experiments a group of people were made to feel like they would be maliciously envied by being told they would receive an award of five euros（欧元）53-------The researchers thought that the deserved prize would lead to benign envy, while the undeserved prize would lead to malicious envy.
　　　Then the volunteer was asked to give time-consuming advice to a potentially envious person.People who had reason to think they would be the target of malicious envy were more likely to take the time to give advice than targets of benign envy.
　　　In another experiment, an experimenter dropped a number of erasers on the floor as the volunteer was leaving.54--------　He said: 'This sort of serves a useful group function. We all think better-off people should share with others but that's not something we are inclined to do when we are better off..55----------　　

I had the privilege to visit the Bridge of Forgiveness in Palawan during the time when I was on the summer’s team.
After the long and exciting week,we had a chance to  21  the place where we were assigned(指定).We  22  the narrow hanging bridge made of two bamboos and a long rope which you can hold  23  for your life as you cross it. I was so afraid of  24 , especially here ,and I think most of us were not  25  to crossing so high a bridge  26 ,our team leader told us that we must cross this bridge in order to see the splendid falls that lie out on the other  27 .
“As you cross this bridge,think about  28  difficult,but it is possible”.
Many times in our lives we face 29 that we don’t expect---broken relationships,betrayal(背叛)of a friend, etc.,and all we can do is  30 . But I noticed that life must go on, and all the burdens must be  31  through forgiveness---forgiveness of yourself and others.
I didn’t understand my cousin  32  she told me I should  33  all those unfriendly guys with  34 . But as I grow older,I realize that lying in the past  35  and guilt will not serve me well.
Once I forgave serious  36  ,I noticed that I couldn’t forget them but every time I remembered them, I  37 . There aer no more pains brought just by the thought of them.
After all,life is good   38  all the hardships pains and difficulties,life teaches me to be   39  in facing and adversity（逆境）while at the same time it makes me  40  to those who suffer, If somebody does something terrible to me,I have to think back the bridge of forgiveness---difficult but possible.

Recently, I have begun to do rides with a group of guys who ride professionally (老练地). The first day, I finished the ride with great   36 , though I tried hard to keep up with one guy for most the ways. To my   37 , I did a little better the second time.
I decided to work harder to   38 . Yesterday, I   39  so much on my ride that I missed the short route (路线) I usually take;   40 , I stayed on the long route. I had never used this route, so I wasn’t really sure about which   41  I should take. Thankfully, a group of four riders   42 , and I just followed them.
A few minutes later, one of the guys got a flat tire (爆了的轮胎), and, with the help of the others, he had it   43  in about a minute. We all waited there   44  he changed his tire. After we started riding again, I noticed something   45 . The guy at the front would ride   46  for a couple of minutes, then he would move over to the side,   47  his way to the end of the line, and the guy behind him would move into the lead position. The process (过程) would   48  every few minutes. This was a lot easier than riding alone, trying to   49  the first rider. This time I had a great time – and I think it is the   50  I’ve ever gone.
This made me realize how important teamwork is, and the   51  of having a great team. The point is that you don’t have to be at your best   52 . You give it your all for a while, and then you let the guy   53  you do the same. The entire team improves because you don’t have to be the   54  all the time. You get your time to shine, and so does everyone else. You cannot get anywhere – or even make any worthwhile improvement – without a   55 . Who else will stop and help you to change your flat tire?

We all know what it is like to be unable to turn your head because of a cold in the muscles (肌肉) of your neck, or because an unexpected twist（扭曲）has made your neck ache. The slightest move makes you jump with pain. Nothing could be worse than a pain in the neck.
That is why we use the phrase to describe some people who give you the same feeling. We have all met such people.
One is the man who always seems to be clapping his hands—often at the wrong time—during a performance in the theater. He keeps you from hearing the actors.
Even worse are those who can never arrive before the curtain goes up and the play begins. They come hurrying down to your row of seats. You are comfortably settled down, with your hat and heavy coat in your lap. You must stand up to let them pass. You are proud of yourself-control after they have settled into their seats…Well, what now…God, one of them is up again. He forgot to go to the men’s room, and once more you have to stand up, hanging on to your hat and coat to let him pass. Now, that is “a pain in the neck”.
Another, well—known to us all, is the person sitting behind you in the movies. His mouth is full of popcorn (爆米花); he is chewing（嚼）loudly, or talking between bites to friends next to him. None of them remain still. Up and down, back and forth, they go—for another bag of popcorn, or something to drink.
Then, there is the man sitting next to you at lunch, smoking. He wants you to enjoy it too, and blows smoke across your food into your mouth.
We must not forget the man who comes into a bus or subway and sits down next to you, just as close as you will let him. You are reading the newspaper and he gets closer so that he can read the paper with you. He may even turn the paper to the next page before you are ready for it.
We also call such a person a “rubber neck”, always getting close to where it does not belong, like neighbors who watch all your visitors. They enjoy learning about your personal business. People have a strong dislike for “rubber necks”. They hate being watched secretly.
【小题1】Where can you find this passage?