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Six Secrets of High-Energy People

　　There’s an energy crisis in America, and it has nothing to do with fossil fuels．Millions of us get up each morning already weary over the day holds．“I just can’t get started．” People say．But it’s not physical energy that most of us lack．Sure, we could all use extra sleep and a better diet．But in truth, people are healthier today than at any time in history．I can almost guarantee that if you long for more energy, the problem is not with your body．

　　What you’re seeking is not physical energy．It’s emotional energy．Yet, sad to say life sometimes seems designed to exhaust our supply．We work too hard．We have family obligations(义务)．We encounter(遭遇)emergencies and personal crises．No wonder so many of us suffer from emotional fatigue(疲劳), a kind of utter exhaustion of the spirit．

　　And yet we all know people who are filled with joy, despite the unpleasant circumstances of their lives．Even as a child I observed people who were poor or disabled or ill, but who nonetheless faced life with optimism and vigor(活力)．Consider Laura Hillenbrand, who despite an extremely weak body wrote the best-seller Seabiscuit．Hillenbrand barely had enough physical energy to drag herself out of bed to write．But she was fueled by having a story she wanted to share．It was emotional energy that helped her succeed．

　　Unlike physical energy, which is finite(有限的)and diminishes(减少)with age, emotional energy is unlimited and has nothing to do with genes or upbringing．So how do you get it? You can’t simply tell yourself to be positive．You must take action．Here are six practical strategies that work．

　　Very little that’s new occurs in our lives．The impact of this sameness on our emotional energy is gradual, but huge：It’s like a tire with a slow leak．You don’t notice it at first, but eventually you’ll get a flat．It’s up to you to plug the leak－even though there are always a dozen reasons to stay stuck in your dull routines of life．That’s where Maura, 36, a waitress, found herself a year ago．

　　Fortunately, Maura had a lifeline－a group of women friends who meet regularly to discuss their lives．Their lively discussions spurred Maura to make small but nevertheless life altering changes．She joined a gym in the next town．She changed her look with a short haircut and new black T-shirts．Eventually, Maura gathered the courage to quit her job and start her own business．

　　Here’s a challenge：If it’s something you wouldn’t ordinarily do, do it．Try a dish you’ve never eaten．Listen to music you’d ordinarily tune out．You’ll discover these small things add to your emotional energy．

　　So many of my patients tell me that their lives used to have meaning, but that somewhere along the line things went stale(厌倦的)．

　　The first step in solving this meaning shortage is to figure out what you really care about, and then do something about it．A case in point is Ivy, 57, a pioneer in investment banking．“I mistakenly believed that all the money I made would mean something．” she says．“But I feel lost, like a 22-year-old wondering what to do with her life．” Ivy’s solution? She started a program that shows Wall Streeters how to donate time and money to poor children．In the process, Ivy filled her life with meaning．

　　Most of us grown-ups are seriously fun-deprived．High-energy people have the same day-to-day work as the rest of us, but they manage to find something enjoyable in every situation．A real estate broker I know keeps herself amused on the job by mentally redecorating the houses she shows to clients．“I love imagining what even the most run-down house could look like with a little tender loving care,” she says．“It’s a challenge－and the least desirable properties are usually the most fun．”

　　We all define fun differently, of course, but I can guarantee this：If you put just a bit of it into your day, you energy will increase quickly．

　　Everyone’s past is filled with regrets that still cause pain．But from an emotional energy point of view, they are dead weights that keep us from moving forward．While they can’t merely be willed away, I do recommend you remind yourself that whatever happened in the past, nothing can change that．Holding on to the memory only allows the damage to continue into the present．

　　Say you’ve been thinking about cutting your hair short．Will it look stylish－or too extreme? You endlessly think it over．Having the decision hanging over your head is a huge energy drain．Every time you can’t decide, you burden yourself with alternatives．Quit thinking that you have to make the right decision; instead, make a choice and don’t look back．

　　Emotional energy has a kind of magical quality：the more you give, the more you get back．This is the difference between emotional and physical energy．With the latter．You have to get it to be able to give it．With the former, however, you get it by giving it．

　　Start by asking everyone you meet, “How are you?” as if you really want to know, and then listen to the reply．Be the one who hears．Most of us also need to smile more often．If you don’t smile at the person you love first thing in the morning, you’re sucking energy out of your relationship．Finally, help another person－and make the help real, concrete．Give a massage to someone you love, or cook her dinner, Then, expand the circle to work．Try asking yourself what you’d do if your goal were to be helpful rather than efficient．

　　After all, if it’s true that what goes around comes around, why not make sure that what’s circulating around you is the good stuff?

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　　There is, for many of us, a moment in life when we make a choice that changes us forever．This moment marks a turning point, when we realize that the life we're living is not a mirror of who we really are．

　　For some, the moment comes as a result of something dramatic：the sudden loss of a job, or the death of a loved one．For others, they have to deal with difficult situations, such as financial hardship．In these challenging times, it's more critical(关键时刻的)than ever for us to seize the possibility of positive change．As I travel and talk to people about their lives, I often see a distant, vacant look in their eyes－a look that says“I'm so busy trying to survive my life that no soul left to live it”．

　　As a result, we end up feeling lonely．Yet we keep on going the way we've been going．We tolerate high levels of stress at work, take important relationships for granted, or put our health needs on hold．We get so caught up in the details of living that our busyness becomes an excuse from the inner voice that begs us to listen．When you finally pay attention to that little voice and begin to make even small changes, you will slowly improve yourself．

　　To start positive change, you need the power of your mind．I've come up with a five-step strategy that will help you．You will be able to identify what you want and then go after it．It's easier than you might think．

　　1．Reset your happiness set point．Don't limit yourself!When I decided that I wanted more control over my life, I set goals in physical, emotional, financial, professional, material, and play．I challenged myself to consider every possible choice．Imagine things you've never believed you could achieve．Don't let your past determine your future．

　　2．Trust your courage．Too often, when you're first learning to take control of your life, you doubt yourself．It's important to develop a strong connection with your inner guidance system．I've heard many stories about the persistent voice inside your head．

　　3．Take action．Once you have set goals, adjusted your beliefs, and got ready, you can start making things happen．Again, turn to those people you respect－the ones achieving what you desire－for support and guidance．They will both inspire you and give you practical advice on what steps you need to take．

　　4．Have faith．Believe that the positive energy of grace will support your efforts to improve your life．When you've done all you can, let go and trust that the right result will occur．When we have faith, we give up the need to be in control, and we set ourselves up to actually enjoy the process of change．

　　5．Be patient．This can be the toughest step．It's not easy to trust that your life will improve in a best way．Remind yourself of the benefits of patience．In my experience, those life changes are always worth the wait．