If you want to teach your children how to say sorry, you must be good at saying it yourself, especially to your own children. But how you say it can be quite tricky.

　　If you say to your children “I’m sorry I got angry with you, but …” what follows that “but” can render the apology ineffective: “I had a bad day” or “your noise was giving me a headache ” leaves the person who has been injured feeling that he should be apologizing for his bad behavior in expecting an apology.

　　Another method by which people appear to apologize without actually doing so is to say “I’m sorry you’re upset”; this suggests that you are somehow at fault for allowing yourself to get upset by what the other person has done.

　　Then there is the general, all covering apology, which avoids the necessity of identifying a specific act that was particularly hurtful or insulting, and which the person who is apologizing should promise never to do again. Saying “I’m useless as a parent” does not commit a person to any specific improvement.

　　These pseudo-apologies are used by people who believe saying sorry shows weakness. Parents who wish to teach their children to apologize should see it as a sign of strength, and therefore not resort to these pseudo-apologies.

　　But even when presented with examples of genuine contrition, children still need help to become aware of the complexities of saying sorry. A three-year-old might need help in understanding that other children feel pain just as he does, and that hitting a playmate over the head with a heavy toy requires an apology. A six-year-old might need reminding that spoiling other children’s expectations can require an apology. A 12-year-old might need to be shown that raiding the biscuit tin without asking permission is acceptable, but that borrowing a parent’s clothes without permission is not.

1.According to the author, saying “I’m sorry you’re upset” most probably means “_______”.

2.We learn from the last paragraph that in teaching children to say sorry _______.

3.It can be inferred from the passage that apologizing properly is _______.

What should you think about when you try to find your career? You are probably better at some school subjects than others．These may show strengths that you can use in your work．A boy who is good at mathematics can use that in engineering career．A girl who spells well and likes English may be good at office work．So it is important to know the subjects you do well in at school．On the other hand, you may not have any specially strong or weak subjects but your records show a general satisfactory standard．Although not all subjects can be used directly in a job, they may have indirect value.

　　Your school may have taught you skills, such as typing or technical drawing, which you can use in your work．You may be good at mental work or cookery and look for a job where you can improve these skills.

　　If you have had a part - time job on Saturday or in the summer, think what you gained from it．If nothing else, you may have learned how to get to work on time, to follow instructions and to get on with older workers．You may have learned to give correct change in a shop, for example．Just as important, you may become interested in a particular industry or career you see from the inside in a part - time job.

　　Facing your weak points is also part of knowing yourself．You may be all thumbs when you handle tools; perhaps you are a poor speller or cannot add up a column of figures．It is bitter to face any weaknesses than to pretend they do not exist．Your school record, for instance, may not be too good, yet it is an important part of your background．You should not feel sorry about it but instead recognize that you will have a chance of a fresh start at work.

The first paragraph of the passage is mainly about ________.

　A．the indirect value of school work　　

B．the importance of being good at all subjects

　C．knowing one's strong or weak subjects at school

　D．using school performance to help to choose a career

In the writer's opinion, for a student to have a part - time job is probably ________.

　A．a good way to find out his weak points　

B．one of the best ways of earning extra money

　C．of great use for his work in the future　

D．a waste of time he could have spent on study

If a student's school record is not good, according to the passage, he________ .

　A．may do well in his future work　　

B．won't be able to find a suitable job

　C．may be a complete failure in the future　

D．will regret not having worked harder at school

The whole passage centers around ________.

　A．knowing oneself in looking for a job　　

B．developing one's abilities useful in school

　C．gaining much knowledge by working hard at school

　D．choosing a career according to what one is skilled in

 ----- shall I sit this end or _____ of the boat?　　　　-----_______ if you keep still.

　 A. another; Either 　 B. the other; either

　 C. another; Both 　  D. the other; Both

It is difficult for parents of nearly every family to teach their children to be responsible （有责任的）for housework, but with one of the following suggestions, you really can get your children to help at home.
　　If you give your children the impression that they can never do anything quite right, then they will regard themselves as unfit or unable persons. Unless children believe they can succeed, they will never become totally independent.
　　My daughter Carla’s fifth - grade teacher made every child in her class feel special. When students received less than a prefect test score, she would point out what they had mastered and declared firmly they could learn what they had missed.
　　You can use the same technique when you evaluate （评价）your child’s work at home. Don’t always scold and give lots of praise instead. Talk about what he has done right, not about what he hasn’t done. If your child completes a difficult task, promise him a Sunday trip or a ball game with Dad.
　　Learning is a process（过程）of trying and failing and trying and succeeding. If you teach your children not to fear a mistake of failure, they will learn faster and achieve success at last.
【小题1】The whole passage deals with ________.