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In our life, we face situations where we are either asked to choose between trust and disbelief. Many of us would say we have to choose trust over disbelief. Actually we are given intellectual(智力的) power to choose what we want, and what we choose certainly need not be the one that sounds pleasing. That is, we can choose both trust and disbelief, but we have to know when to choose between these two.
We should all realize that we are living in a world which is unfortunately mixed with people of various types. We have been given the power of judging who we are working with and who we are partnering with. We cannot give an excuse for believing a scheming(诡计多端的)person, just because he looked or sounded nice, unless we consider ourselves mentally unskillful.
This world was there before us and it does not owe us a single thing. We are asked to take care of ourselves and our belongings. Trust, too, has to be saved for the deserving(值得的) people. When we give trust universally to all, we end up troubled by the undeserving common cheat. People say trust is life. True! But only wisely exercised trust is life.
When we start a conversation with someone, the first things that we usually notice would be their dress, behavior, style and their language. What sometimes we all forget to look at is the person’s intention. Now how to look at a person’s intention is a lesson everybody has to learn for themselves in their own way -- there is no single standard for it. But it is certainly possible to discover the purpose if we seek a little bit more.
Certainly a false offer of friendship or guidance cannot stand undiscovered for long; we are therefore called to exercise disbelief over trust at least momentarily till we find out that we certainly are in agreement with a mutual(相互的)good-willed person.
The world teaches you lots of lessons and if we are willing, we can learn all that we want.
【小题1】In the first paragraph, the author ________.
| A.concentrates on the reason why we make different choices |
| B.focuses on how to choose between trust and disbelief |
| C.suggests that trust should be wisely exercised |
| D.implies that people are forced to make the choice |
| A.people who we are working with are in fact those who we are partnering with |
| B.the first thing we notice tends to mislead our judgment |
| C.the mentally healthy people will not judge a person by his looks |
| D.the standards of looking at a person’s intention are not various |
| A.trust and disbelief go hand in hand with each other. |
| B.disbelief is necessary if you aren’t wise |
| C.trust is established if two people know each other |
| D.doubt may serve as the precondition for trust |
| A.Trust or Disbelief? | B.Trust Is Life. |
| C.Trust over Disbelief? | D.Disbelief over Trust? |
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You must have been troubled by when to say “I love you” because it is one of the greatest puzzles in our life.
What if you say it first and your partner doesn’t love you back? Or if they do say it but you don’t feel they mean it? Being the first to declare your love can be nerve racking(紧张)and risky and can leave you feeling as vulnerable as a turtle with no shell. But is the person who says it first really in a position of weakness? Doesn’t it pay to hold back, play it cool and wait until the other half has shown their hand fast?
A really good relationship should be about “being fair and being equal,” says psychologist Sidney Crown. “But love is seldom equal.” All relationships go through power struggles but, he says, if a love imbalance continues for years, the rot will set in. “That feeling of ‘I’ve always loved you more’ may be subverted(颠覆,破坏) for a time, but it never goes away completely and it often emerges in squabbling(大声争吵).” In love, at least, the silent, withholding type is not always the most powerful. “The strongest one in a relationship is often the person who feels confident enough to talk about their feelings,” says educational psychologist Ingrid Collins. Psychosexual therapist Paula Hall agrees. “The one with the upper hand is often the person who takes the initiative. In fact, the person who says ‘I love you’ first may also be the one who says ‘I’ m bored with you’ first.” Hall believes that much depends on how “I love you” is said and the motivation of the person saying it
. “Is it said when they’re drunk? Is it said before their partner files off on holiday, and what it really means is ‘Please don’ t be unfaithful to me’ ?” By saying ‘I love you’, they are really saying ‘Do you love me?’ If so, wouldn’t it just be more honest to say that. Collins agrees tha
t intention is everything. “It’s not what is said, but how it’s said. What it comes down to is the sincerity of the speaker.”
【小题1】 What is the main idea of this passage?
| A.The importance of “I love you” |
| B.The meaning of “I love you” |
| C.The time of saying “I love you” |
| D.The place of saying “I love you” |
| A.it is easy to say “I love you” |
| B.it is hard to say “I love you” |
| C.we have many troubles in our life |
| D.people usually do not know when to say “I love you” |
| A.fair and equal | B.fair and kind |
| C.powerful and equal | D.confident and fair |
| A.being low in spirit | B.having only one hand |
| C.being active | D.being passive |