题目内容
Many parents who welcome the idea of turning off the TV and spending more time with the family are still worried that without TV they would constantly be on call as entertainers for their children. They remember thinking up all sorts of things to do when they were kids. But their own kids seem different, less resourceful, somehow. When there’s nothing to do, these parents observe regretfully, their kids seem unable to come up with anything to do besides turning on the TV.
One father, for example, says, “When I was a kid, we were always thinking up things to do, projects and games. We certainly never complained in an annoying way to our parents. ‘I have nothing to do’.” He compares this with his own children today: “They’re simply lazy. If someone doesn’t entertain them, they’ll happily sit there watching TV all day.”
There is one word for this father’s disappointment: unfair. It is as if he were disappointed in them for not reading Greek though they have never studied the language. He deplores (哀叹) his children’s lack of inventiveness, as if the ability to play were something born that his children are missing. In fact, while the tendency to play is built into the human species, the actual ability to play – to imagine, to invent, to elaborate on reality in a playful way –and the ability to gain fulfillment from it, these are skills that have to be learned and developed.
Such disappointment, however, is not only unjust, it is also destructive. Sensing their parents’ disappointment, children come to believe that they are, indeed, lacking something, and that this makes them less worthy of admiration and respect. Giving children the opportunity to develop new resources, to enlarge their horizons and discover the pleasure of doing things on their own is, on the other hand, a way to help children develop a confident feeling about themselves as capable and interesting people.
According to many parents, if there’s nothing to do, the children would .
A. turn on the TV B. complain to their parents
C. ask their parents to play with them D. do all of the above
Many parents think that, instead of watching a lot of TV their children should .
A. sit silently studying Greek B. think up things to entertain themselves
C. find chances to talk with parents D. enjoy themselves outdoors
The father often blames their children for not being able to entertain themselves. This is unfair because .
A. the children are not really lazy, but there’s nothing for them to do
B. they do not lack the ability to play
C. they have to learn and develop their playing ability gradually
D. the father have done nothing to help the children
When parents show constant disappointment in their children, the children will .
A. lose their confidence and respectability
B. be much more disappointed
C. refuse to learn new things
D. discover the pleasures of doing things on their own
What is the author’s main idea?
A. Today’s children are becoming less capable and independent than before.
B. Parents should give children more help on how to be creative.
C. Turning off the TV will help us solve a lot of family problems.
D. It’s not just for parents and children to complain each other.
【小题1】D【小题1】B【小题1】C【小题1】A【小题1】B
解析:
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For many parents, raising a teenager is like fighting a long war, but years go by without any clear winner. Like a border conflict(冲突)between neighboring countries, the parent-teen war is about boundaries: Where is the line between what I control and what you do?
Both sides want peace, but neither feels it has any power to stop the conflict. In part,this is because neither is willing to admit any responsibility for starting it. From the parents’ point of view, the only cause of their fight is their adolescents’ (青少年)complete unreasonableness. And of course, the teens see it in exactly the same way, except oppositely. Both feel trapped.
In this article, I’ll describe three no-win situations that commonly arise between teens and parents and then suggest some ways out of the trap. The first no-win situation is quarrel on unimportant things. Examples include the color of the teen’s hair, the cleanness of the bedroom, the preferred style of clothing, the child’s failure to eat a good breakfast before school, or his tendency to sleep until noon on the weekends. Second, blaming. The goal of a blaming battle is to make the other admit that his bad attitude is the reason why everything goes wrong. Third, needing to be right. It doesn’t matter what the topic is—politics, the laws of physics, or the proper way to break an egg—the point of these arguments is to prove that you are right and the other person is wrong,for both wish to be considered an authority—someone who actually knows something—and therefore to command respect. Unfortunately, as long as parents and teens continue to assume that they know more than the other, they’ll continue to fight these battles forever and never make any real progress.
【小题1】Why does the author compare the parent teen war to a border conflict?
A.Both can continue for generations. | B.Both are about where to draw the line. |
C.Neither has any clear winner. | D.Neither can be put to an end. |
A.The teens blame their parents for starting the conflict. |
B.The teens agree with their parents on the cause of the conflict. |
C.The teens accuse their parents of misleading them. |
D.The teens tend to have a full understanding of their parents. |
A.give orders to the other | B.know more than the other |
C.gain respect from the other | D.get the other to behave properly |
A.Causes for the parent-teen conflicts | B.Examples of the parent-teen war |
C.Solutions for the parent-teen problems | D.Future of the parent-teen relationship |
Research shows that childhood friendships are important indicators of future success and social adjustment. Children's relationships with peers (同龄人) strongly influence their success in school, and children with fewer friends are more likely dropping out of school, becoming sad and other problems.
Making and Keeping Friends Is More Than Child's Play
When 6-year-old Rachel returned to school on a recent Monday morning, her eyes immediately scanned the playground for her friend Abbie. Though they were only separated by a weekend, the girls "ran right into each other's arms and hugged," recalls Rachel's mother Kathryn Willis of Gilbert. "It was like a scene from a movie."
Most parents instinctively (本能地) know that having friends is good for their child. Experts agree that friendship is not simply child's play, but a powerful predictor of social adjustment throughout life.
A Skill for Life
"Childhood friendships serve as a very important training ground for adulthood," says Dr. Robbie Adler-Tapia, psychologist with the Center for Children's Health & Life Development.
Researcher William Hartup states, "Peer relations contribute significantly to both social and cognitive (认知的) development." Hartup concludes that the single best childhood predictor of adult social adaptation is not school grades or classroom behavior, but rather, how well a child gets along with other children.
The work of Arizona State University proves that just as being able to make and keep friends is beneficial to kids, so is the lack of friends detrimental.
Good Friendships Don't Just Happen
Experts agree that it is basic for children to develop high-quality friendships. But, researchers warn, these friendships don't necessarily just happen. Often, a good friendship begins with involved (卷入,牵连)parents.
Valley psychologist Dr. Lynne Kenney Markan believes kids should be taught social skills in much the same way they are taught math and reading.
Bad Company
Many parents worry about the quality as well as the quantity of their child's friendships. "When she was in 1st grade, her supposed 'best friend' began calling her names and threatening to hurt her," says Mindy Miller. "My daughter wasn't allowed to talk to or even look at other girls in her class. It really crushed (压跨) her spirit. I told my daughter she didn't need a 'friend' like that."
"I'll bend over backwards to help my son get together with a friend I think is good for him," Adler-Tapia says. "I don't look at it as manipulation (操纵), just positive parental involvement. "
【小题1】The example of Rachel and Abbie is used to show that ________.
A.childhood friendship is of great benefit to their growth |
B.a positive friendship helps children solve emotional and physical problems |
C.it is a proven(被证明的) fact that peer friendship is the most rewarding experience throughout life |
D.Rachel missed her friend Abbie very much because of their separation of one weekend |
A.valuable | B.disappointing | C.accurate | D.harmful |
A.social skills and good study habits |
B.school grades and classroom behaviors |
C.academic success and social adaptation |
D.positive parental involvement and social skills |
A.parents should regard making friends as something that just happens |
B.it's wise for parents to support and encourage healthy peer relationships |
C.parents only need to help their children to deal with difficult social situations |
D.parents are supposed to encourage their children to make as many friends as they can |