When you are at odds with someone close to you, the One-Minute Drill can show you how to express your feelings effectively – and how to listen more skillfully. All it requires is two individuals who are committed to improving their relationship.

  Set aside at least ten minutes, and then sit facing each other. Decide who will be the Talker and who will be the Listener. It makes no difference, because later you will change roles.

How to perform the One-Minute Drill

  For approximately 30 seconds, the Talker can say anything he or she wants. Your job will be to express your thoughts and feelings. You can discuss problems you've had a hard time talking about. Remember to limit yourself to about 30 seconds. When the Talker finishes, the Listener will summarize what the Talker just said, as well as how the Talker was feeling inside, as accurately as possible.

  The Talker now gives the Listener a grade between 0 and 100 per cent to indicate how accurate the summary was. If the rating is 95 per cent or more, you can change roles; the new Talker can continue with the same topic or move on to something entirely new.

  However, if the grade is below 95 per cent, the Talker should point out what the Listener missed or got wrong, and repeat the process until the overall rating is 95 per cent or more. Then you can change roles and repeat the exercise for as long as you both like.

How it works

  Thirty seconds of emotionally charged information is sufficiently challenging for anyone. Express your feelings in strong, clear, direct language, but as your partner will be listening attentively, you won't need to shout, exaggerate or put your partner down.

  The Listener should sit and listen respectfully without interrupting. Look into your partner's eyes, but avoid using negative body language. If you like, take a few notes.

  So the Talker might say: "When I come home from work, I feel tired and I need some quiet time. But you tell me I'm supposed to spend time with the kids. This makes me feel frustrated. I work hard and I'm exhausted at the end of the day. I feel like I deserve a little time to relax, not listen to more demands."

  In response, the Listener might summarize like this: "You just told me that you feel exhausted when you come home at night because you've been working hard all day. When I tell you I want you to spend time with the kids, you feel frustrated and ticked off because you're tired and you need time to relax. You see me as very demanding, and you're probably feeling like I don't appreciate you."

  The first time you attempt the One-Minute Drill, you may get a low score. Don't worry, because you'll get up to speed quickly. Once you've tried this exercise a few times, you'll find that you can nearly always get ratings of 95 per cent or better on the first or second try.

Who is the One-Minute Drill intended for?

A. Those who are to act some roles in a certain play for the first time in their life.

B. Those who are preparing for the interview in order to make a good first impression.

C. Those who have difficulty communicating with their colleagues or family members.

D. Those who have troubled relationships with their friends or family members and try to improve them.

Which of the following is NOT true?

A. In the One-Minute Drill, the Talker and the Listener change roles in the process.

B. The Talker should talk about his / her thoughts and feelings in a brief way.

C. The Listener should listen carefully, respectfully and later summarize accurately.

D. After the Talker finishes talking, the Listener is to give him / her a grade.

From the example given in “How it works,” we can guess that the talk might be between _____.

A. husband and wife   B. father and son   C. mother and daughter   D. sister and brother

What does the underlined part “ticked off” probably mean in this reading?

A. fast asleep                           B. very angry

C. burst into tears                   D. marked with a symbol

Children today would rather toy with new technologies. The role of children has changed as well as that of teens. The world has truly evolved (进化)throughout the years.
Today,a typical day in the life of a five year old is entirely different from what it once was. A few decades ago children used to work. They did the kind of work parents do today. Today there are shows on which children are putting pounds of makeup on and have flashing things all over their bodies. This makes a child want to paper over all of their imperfections. They think they have to look perfect all the time.
Teens have changed as well. My grandma got married when she was thirteen. Girls who had an arranged marriage had no time to play because they were expected to cook, clean,take care of the kids, and do housework every single day. Today,we go to school every morning, maybe participate in some after-school activities, and possibly go to work for extra cash. Then we go home and do homework, and eat. After all of this we have to find the time to socialize by texting, talking on the phone, or logging on to social networking sites. We enjoy ourselves a lot.
The generation before us complains about how they did not have the things we have now. They say we are not appreciative and do not value life or just do not care about our futures anymore. Let's make a change! The youth have the power to work on whatever they believe in and make a difference in the world. Take advantage of your resources. It is never too late to make a positive change in our world.
【小题1】The role of children and teens has changed mainly because _____.

A.new technologies are developing and widely used
B.they don't have to work hard as their parents did
C.their world has truly evolved
D.they look perfect all the time
【小题2】The underlined phrase (in the 2nd Para. ) probably means to _____.
A.put up with B.make up for C.put aside D.cover up
【小题3】We can learn from the text that nowadays teenagers _____.
A.do housework as their parents did
B.are having a social life in richer ways
C.are seldom satisfied with what they have
D.don't appreciate and value life
【小题4】The author's attitude towards changes of teen’s life is _____.
A.critical B.neutral C.optimistic D.complaining

阅读下面短文并回答问题(请注意问题后的词数要求 )

[1] You can never get to peace and security without first knowing all of the good things in your life. So you need to learn how to appreciate your life and here are some simple steps you can take to achieve this goal.

Work hard to have an attitude of gratitude.

[2] As you learn to appreciate the small things in your life, you’ll find a sense of happiness. You’ll also find it easier to appreciate the big things in your life, which will help you appreciate your life as a whole.

[3] To begin with, find five things to be grateful for each day. Call this your “Gratitude List,” and write it down before bedtime. At first,      to find even just five things to be grateful for. That’s okay. You won’t learn how to appreciate your life over night, just like you didn’t become dissatisfied over night either. List small things, and go from there. The longer you keep a “Gratitude List,” the easier it will be to find things to put on it. Soon you’ll be able to list more things than you thought!

Learn to appreciate others.

[4] Take note when someone does something nice for you. If anyone does a job that’s normally yours, stop and thank them sincerely. Value the moment, and look for other opportunities to find the good in others. This will help you appreciate the people around you, who are also part of your life.

Appreciate yourself.

[5] This can be extremely hard, especially with all the criticism we hear from others. Appreciation also includes respect and you can’t appreciate or truly enjoy your life if you don’t respect yourself . So, think of one small thing you can appreciate about yourself every day, and take the time to really enjoy it. Be thankful for it, and know you’re learning how to really appreciate your life.

[6] It takes 30 fays of doing something before it becomes a habit. But after this, keeping a “Gratitude List,” appreciating others, and admiring yourself will become second nature to you. In no time, you’ll realize you know how to appreciate your life.

1.What is the main idea of the text?(no more than 10 words)

                                                                           

2.Complete the following statement with words from Paragraph 2.(no more than 5 words)

                                                                           

3.How can we learn to appreciate others around us?(no more than 10 words)

                                                                           

4.Fill in the blank in Paragraph 3 with proper words.(no more than 4 words)

                                                                           

5.What does the word “it”(Line 4, Paragraph 5 ) probably refer to?(no more than 4 words)

                                                                           

 

How Many Lies Do the Children Tell You?

    Mothers who feel their children don' t appreciate them can add another grievance to the list: half the time, their children are lying to them. A study designed to expose the truth about lying shows that undergraduates lie to their mothers in 46% of their conversations. Still, mums should feel better than total strangers, who are told lies an astonishing 77 % of the time.

    Bella Depaulo and a team of psychologists from the University of Virginia, Charlottesville, asked 77 undergraduates to keep a record of all their conversations for a week, and write down whether they lied at any time. DePaulo named lying broadly, as "when you intentionally try to mislead someone", so she would catch the smallest of lies.

    The students told an average of two lies a day. They said they had been studying when they had been out drinking. One told his parents that a textbook cost $50 rather than $20 so that they would send him extra money. Female students constantly told their plain-looking roommates that they were pretty. "They are everyday lies," says DePaulo.

    DePaulo and her colleagues conclude that people tend to tell fewer lies to those they feel closest to. College students lied to their best friends 28% of the time but lied to acquaintances 48% of the time. In close relationships, people were more likely to tell "kind-hearted" lies, designed to protect feelings, rather than self-serving lies.

    Romantic(浪漫的)partners lie somewhere between close friends and acquaintances. Students lied to romantic partners about a third of the time. DePaulo thinks that unmarried lovers can expect less honesty than best friends because of the insecurity that comes with romance.

    Mothers can take heart from one other finding. They may have been lied to, but at least their children talked to them. The students were recorded telling few lies to their fathers because they had little interaction with them.

1. What is the meaning of the underlined word "grievance" in Paragraph 1?

A. opinion.       B. complaint.           C. belief.        D. difficulty.

2. According to the passage, college students felt closest to ______ .

A. mothers         B. best friends        C. acquaintances                  D. romantic partners

3. Female students lied to their roommates to           .

A. get money from them                    B. offer them the services

C. gain more security                     D. make them happy

4. What is the purpose of this article?

A. To present a fact.                     B. To argue an idea.

C. To tell a story.                       D. To explain a theory.

 

 

Nowadays, millions of lonely singles are now going online instead.The World Wide Web is quickly becoming the world’s most popular matchmaker(媒人).

Singles are flocking(涌向)to the Internet mainly because their busy lifestyles leave them little time to look for a significant other.Using dating sites(约会网址)is quick and convenient.Many singles say the regular dating scene has just led them from one bad experience to another and are ready to try something else.Dating sites also make it easy to avoid someone you are not interested in.In the real world, however, ignoring someone you don’t like can be difficult.

Despite all the advantages, online dating also presents its own set of problems.People aren’t always those who they declare to be in their online description.Safety is another concern.You are just likely to find a criminal online as you are Mr.Or Miss Right.

Online dating experts recommend following a few safety tips:

Guard your personal information.Never give out your personal information online.This includes your last name, phone number, home address and place of work.

Watch for red flags.Do any of the people you are chatting with make disrespectful comments? Do they try to control you? Do they give false information about themselves? If so, forget them!

Meet in a safe place.When meeting someone in person, choose a public location with other people around.

Following these tips and you might be able to find the person of your dreams.

1.The underlined words in the second paragraph “a significant other” mean “________”.

A.a true friend        B.a matchmaker     C.a marriage partner  D.a happy family

2.According to the passage, many lonely singles don’t appreciate the regular dating scene because it is

    _________.

A.unpopular                                B.troublesome     

C.convenient                               D.forgettable

3.From this passage, we can infer that ____________.

A.there are mostly homely and unemployed people online

B.the police had better find criminals online

C.we can find love only through the dating sites

D.following safety tips ensures a safe online dating experience.

4.Which of the following is NOT a suitable place for meeting someone you get to know through the Internet for the first time?

    A.At his / her house. B.At the museum.                 

    C.At McDonald’s.      D.At the bookstore.

 

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