Making Peace with Your Parents

As a teen，you're going through big changes physically and mentally. Your interests are expanding.   __71__

Here is the challenge：Kids need to explore the world in new ways, and parents need to protect them from the dangers in that world. These conflicts can easily set off fireworks in otherwise calm houses. Sometimes conflicts can't be avoided. But by paying attention to the building blocks of successful relationships, you can work towards making home a happy and healthy place for you and your parents.

For instance，try to find a time to talk when your parents are not angry, tired, distracted or hungry. A good time to talk is when you're all relaxed. Timing is everything. If the conversation begins to turn into an argument, you'd better calmly and coolly ask to stop the conversation—for now.    __72__    Listen  to  what  your parents are saying, and repeat it back to them. This shows them that you're listening.   __73__

Respect is the building block of good communication. People who respect each other and care about each others' feelings can disagree without things getting ugly.

__74__   How do you build trust? Trust comes by actually doing what you say you're going to do. Some teens find that doing fun activities with their parents can improve their relationships. Sometimes we forget that parents are more than rule­makers—they're interesting people who like to watch movies and go shopping—just like their teenagers!

What do you do if you are trying your best, but your relationship with your parents continues to be rocky?    __75__   You can find supportive adults，such as a teacher or a coach，who can lend an ear.

Remember you can only change your own behavior. Your parents are the only ones who can change theirs.

A. It also gives them a chance to clear things up if    you're not on the same page.

B. You can pick it up again when everyone's more relaxed.

C. And then you'll be able to accept what your parents say.

D. Faced with the challenge, children don't know what to do.

E. You are more likely to get along with your parents and have more independence if your parents believe    in you.

F. And your desire to take control of your own life is growing.

G. You may consider seeking outside help

“When one of the doctors criticizes(批评) me, I get defensive. I feel like a child again, being scolded, and I want to explain that I’m not wrong,” says Viola, a nurse. This is a common reaction（反应） to criticism, but not a good one. There are better ways of dealing with criticism.
Try to be objective(客观的).When Sol was criticized by his new employer for not having made a sale, Sol’s reaction was to feel sorry for himself. “I had put everything I had into making that sale,” Sol says. “And I felt that I had failed as a person.I had to learn through experience not to react like that to each failure.”
Take time to cool down. Rather than react at once to criticism, take some time to think over what was said. Your first question should be whether the criticism is fair from the other person’s position. The problem may be a simple misunderstanding of what you did or your reasons for doing it.
Take positive（积极的） action. After you cool down, consider what you can do about the situation. The best answer may be “nothing”. “I finally realized that my boss was having personal problems and taking  them out on me because I was there ,” says Sheila. “His criticisms didn’t really have anything to do with my work, so nothing I said or did was going to change them.” In Sheila’s case, the best way to deal with it was to leave her job However, that’s an extreme(极端的) reaction.
You may simply explain your opinion without expecting an in-depth（深入的） discussion. You may even decide that the battle isn’t worth fighting this time. The key, in any case , is to have a reasonable plan.
64. When Sol was criticized by his employer, he________.
A. argued bitterly with his employer
B. was angry and gave up his job
C. was sorry for what he did
D. was sad and self-pitying
65. According to the writer, you should take time to think about criticism because ________.
A. people may have a mistaken idea of what you did
B. you should welcome other people’s opinions
C. people may discuss it with you in depth
D. you need time to understand yourself
66. When the writer says that “The best answer may be ‘ nothing’ ”,he means you may
decide _________.
A. to take no notice of the criticism          B. to argue with your boss    
C. you need to change your job             D. you’ve done nothing wrong
67.The writer thinks Sheila might decide to leave her job because her boss______.
A.didn’t like her appearance         B. refused to change his opinion
C.made an unreasonable critcism    D.refused to talk to her about the criticism

“When one of the doctors criticizes(批评) me, I get defensive. I feel like a child again, being scolded, and I want to explain that I’m not wrong,” says Viola, a nurse. This is a common reaction（反应） to criticism, but not a good one. There are better ways of dealing with criticism.

Try to be objective(客观的).When Sol was criticized by his new employer for not having made a sale, Sol’s reaction was to feel sorry for himself. “I had put everything I had into making that sale,” Sol says. “And I felt that I had failed as a person.I had to learn through experience not to react like that to each failure.”

Take time to cool down. Rather than react at once to criticism, take some time to think over what was said. Your first question should be whether the criticism is fair from the other person’s position. The problem may be a simple misunderstanding of what you did or your reasons for doing it.

Take positive（积极的） action. After you cool down, consider what you can do about the situation. The best answer may be “nothing”. “I finally realized that my boss was having personal problems and taking  them out on me because I was there ,” says Sheila. “His criticisms didn’t really have anything to do with my work, so nothing I said or did was going to change them.” In Sheila’s case, the best way to deal with it was to leave her job However, that’s an extreme(极端的) reaction.

You may simply explain your opinion without expecting an in-depth（深入的） discussion. You may even decide that the battle isn’t worth fighting this time. The key, in any case , is to have a reasonable plan.

64. When Sol was criticized by his employer, he________.

A. argued bitterly with his employer

B. was angry and gave up his job

C. was sorry for what he did

D. was sad and self-pitying

65. According to the writer, you should take time to think about criticism because ________.

A. people may have a mistaken idea of what you did

B. you should welcome other people’s opinions

C. people may discuss it with you in depth

D. you need time to understand yourself

66. When the writer says that “The best answer may be ‘ nothing’ ”,he means you may

decide _________.

A. to take no notice of the criticism          B. to argue with your boss    

C. you need to change your job             D. you’ve done nothing wrong

67.The writer thinks Sheila might decide to leave her job because her boss______.

A.didn’t like her appearance         B. refused to change his opinion

C.made an unreasonable critcism    D.refused to talk to her about the criticism

 “When one of the doctors criticizes(批评) me, I get defensive. I feel like a child again, being scolded, and I want to explain that I’m not wrong,” says Viola, a nurse. This is a common reaction（反应） to criticism, but not a good one. There are better ways of dealing with criticism.

  Try to be objective(客观的).When Sol was criticized by his new employer for not having made a sale, Sol’s reaction was to feel sorry for himself. “I had put everything I had into making that sale,” Sol says. “And I felt that I had failed as a person.I had to learn through experience not to react like that to each failure.”

   Take time to cool down. Rather than react at once to criticism, take some time to think over what was said. Your first question should be whether the criticism is fair from the other person’s position. The problem may be a simple misunderstanding of what you did or your reasons for doing it.

   Take positive（积极的） action. After you cool down, consider what you can do about the situation. The best answer may be “nothing”. “I finally realized that my boss was having personal problems and taking  them out on me because I was there ,” says Sheila. “His criticisms didn’t really have anything to do with my work, so nothing I said or did was going to change them.” In Sheila’s case, the best way to deal with it was to leave her job However, that’s an extreme(极端的) reaction.

   You may simply explain your opinion without expecting an in-depth（深入的） discussion. You may even decide that the battle isn’t worth fighting this time. The key, in any case , is to have a reasonable plan.

64. When Sol was criticized by his employer, he________.

A. argued bitterly with his employer

B. was angry and gave up his job

C. was sorry for what he did

D. was sad and self-pitying

65. According to the writer, you should take time to think about criticism because ________.

A. people may have a mistaken idea of what you did

B. you should welcome other people’s opinions

C. people may discuss it with you in depth

D. you need time to understand yourself

66. When the writer says that “The best answer may be ‘ nothing’ ”,he means you may

decide _________.

  A. to take no notice of the criticism          B. to argue with your boss    

C. you need to change your job             D. you’ve done nothing wrong

67.The writer thinks Sheila might decide to leave her job because her boss______.

A.didn’t like her appearance         B. refused to change his opinion

C.made an unreasonable critcism    D.refused to talk to her about the criticism