A true apology is more than just acknowledgement（承认）of a mistake. It’s recognition that something you’ve said or  36  has damaged a relationship - and that you  37  enough about that relationship to want it  38 .
  It’s never  39  to acknowledge yon are in the wrong. Being human, we all need the art of apology. Look hack and think how  40  you’ve judged roughly（草率），said  41  things，pushed yourself  42  at the expense（在使某人受损的情况下）of a friend. Some deep thought in us know that when  43  a small mistake has been made, your  44  will stay out of balance until the mistake is acknowledged and your regret is  45 .
  I remember a doctor friend,  46  me about a man who came to him with  47  illnesses: headache, insomnia（失眠）,stomachaches and so on. No physical  48  could be found. Finally the doctor said to the man,“  49  you tell me what’s on your conscience（良心）,I can’t help you.”
After a short silence, the man told the doctor that he  50  all the money that his father gave to his brother, who was  51  His father had died, so only he himself knew the matter. The old doctor made the man write to his brother making an  52  and enclosing（附寄）a 53 .In the post office, the man dropped the letter into the mail box. As the letter disappeared, the man  54  into team. “Thank you, doctor,” he said, “I think I'm all right now.” And he  55 .

A true apology is more than just acknowledgement (承认) of a mistake. It’s recognition that something you’ve said or done has (1) a relationship—and that you (2) enough about the relationship to want it (3).

It’s never (4) to acknowledge you are in the wrong. Being human, we all need the art of apology. Look back and think how (5) you’ve judged roughly, said (6) things, pushed yourself ahead at the (7) of a friend. Some deep thought in us know that when (8) a small mistake has been made, your feeling will stay out of (9) until the mistake is acknowledged and your regret is (10).

I remember a doctor friend, (11) me about a man who came to him with (12) illnesses: headache, insomnia (失眠), stomachaches and so on. No Physical (13) could be found. Finally the doctor said to him, “(14) you tell me what’s on your conscience, I can’t help you.”

After a short silence, the man told the doctor that he (15) all the money that his father gave to his brother, who was (16).  His father had died, so only he himself knew the matter. The old doctor made the man write to his brother making an (17) and enclosing (附寄) a (18). In the post office, the man dropped the letter into the mail box. As the letter disappeared, the man (19) into tears. “Thank you, doctor,” he said, “I think I’m all right now.” And he (20).

1．A．damaged               B．destroyed            C．injured                D．ruined

2．A．lost                       B．care                    C．advise                 D．heard

3．A．built                      B．formed                C．repaired               D．picked

4．A．difficult                 B．easy                    C．foolish                D．shy

5．A．long                      B．often                   C．much                  D．soon

6．A．unusual                 B．harmful               C．precious              D．unkind

7．A．expense                B．worth                  C．value                   D．bargain

8．A．still                       B．even                    C．only                    D．such

9．A．conscience            B．friendship            C．mind                   D．balance

10．A．shown                B．explained             C．offered                D．expressed

11．A．asking                 B．telling                  C．requiring             D．setting

12．A．strange                B．serious                C．various                D．much

13．A．signs                   B．reason                 C．cause                  D．marks

14．A．Whenever            B．Unless                 C．Suppose              D．Although

15．A．stole                   B．accepted              C．seized                 D．wasted

16．A．mad                    B．lost                     C．abroad                D．dead

17．A．order                  B．excuse                C．agreement           D．apology

18．A．note                    B．card                    C．check                 D．photo

19．A．joyed                  B．burst                   C．laughed               D．cried

20．A．should               B．did                      C．had                        D．was

If you want to teach your children how to say sorry, you must be good at saying it yourself, especially to your own children. But how you say it can be quite tricky.

　　If you say to your children “I’m sorry I got angry with you, but …” what follows that “but” can render the apology ineffective: “I had a bad day” or “your noise was giving me a headache ” leaves the person who has been injured feeling that he should be apologizing for his bad behavior in expecting an apology.

　　Another method by which people appear to apologize without actually doing so is to say “I’m sorry you’re upset”; this suggests that you are somehow at fault for allowing yourself to get upset by what the other person has done.

　　Then there is the general, all covering apology, which avoids the necessity of identifying a specific act that was particularly hurtful or insulting, and which the person who is apologizing should promise never to do again. Saying “I’m useless as a parent” does not commit a person to any specific improvement.

　　These pseudo-apologies are used by people who believe saying sorry shows weakness. Parents who wish to teach their children to apologize should see it as a sign of strength, and therefore not resort to these pseudo-apologies.

　　But even when presented with examples of genuine contrition, children still need help to become aware of the complexities of saying sorry. A three-year-old might need help in understanding that other children feel pain just as he does, and that hitting a playmate over the head with a heavy toy requires an apology. A six-year-old might need reminding that spoiling other children’s expectations can require an apology. A 12-year-old might need to be shown that raiding the biscuit tin without asking permission is acceptable, but that borrowing a parent’s clothes without permission is not.

1.According to the author, saying “I’m sorry you’re upset” most probably means “_______”.

2.We learn from the last paragraph that in teaching children to say sorry _______.

3.It can be inferred from the passage that apologizing properly is _______.

If you want to teach your children how to say sorry, you must be good at saying it yourself, especially to your own children．But how you say it can be quite tricky．

       If you say to your children “I am sorry I got angry with you, but …” what follows that “but” can make the apology ineffective: “I had a bad day” or “your noise was giving me a headache” leaves the person who has been injured feeling that he should be apologizing for his bad behavior in expecting an apology．

       Another method by which people appear to apologize without actually doing so is to say “I’m sorry you’re upset”; this suggests that you are somehow at fault for allowing yourself to get upset by what the other person has done．

       Then there is the general, all-covering apology, which avoids the necessity of identifying a specific act that was particularly hurtful or insulting, and which the person who is apologizing should promise never to do again．Saying “I’m useless as a parent” does not commit a person to any specific improvement．

       These pseudo-apologies are used by people who believe saying sorry shows weakness．Parents who wish to teach their children to apologize should see it as a sign of strength, and therefore not resort to these pseudo-apologies．

       But even when presented with examples of genuine contrition （悔悟），children still need help to become aware of the complexities of saying sorry．A three-year-old might need help in understanding that other children feel pain just as he does, and that hitting a playmate over the head with a heavy toy requires an apology．A six-year-old might need reminding that spoiling other children’s expectations can require an apology．A 12-year-old might need to be shown that raiding the biscuit tin without asking permission is acceptable, but that borrowing a parent’s clothes without permission is not．

1．According to the author, “tricky” means __________．

       A．simple             B．complicated             C．cautious              D．various

2．It is not advisable to use the general, all-covering apology because _______．

       A．it is only an empty promise                   B．it is not necessary

       C．it is neither clear nor effective               D．it is hurtful and insulting

3．In teaching children to say sorry ______．                                  

       A．parents should often say “sorry” to their children 

B．parents should be patient and tolerant

       C．the significance of it should be involved

 D．their ages should be taken into account

4．According to the passage, apologizing properly is ________．       

       A．a social issue calling for immediate attention 

       B．a big problem faced by every family

       C．a sign of social progress

       D．not as simple as it seems

If you want to teach your children how to say sorry, you must be good at saying it yourself, especially to your own children. But how you say it can be quite tricky.

　　If you say to your children “I’m sorry I got angry with you, but …” what follows that “but” can render the apology ineffective: “I had a bad day” or “your noise was giving me a headache ” leaves the person who has been injured feeling that he should be apologizing for his bad behavior in expecting an apology.

　　Another method by which people appear to apologize without actually doing so is to say “I’m sorry you’re upset”; this suggests that you are somehow at fault for allowing yourself to get upset by what the other person has done.

　　Then there is the general, all covering apology, which avoids the necessity of identifying a specific act that was particularly hurtful or insulting, and which the person who is apologizing should promise never to do again. Saying “I’m useless as a parent” does not commit a person to any specific improvement.

　　These pseudo-apologies are used by people who believe saying sorry shows weakness. Parents who wish to teach their children to apologize should see it as a sign of strength, and therefore not resort to these pseudo-apologies.

　　But even when presented with examples of genuine contrition, children still need help to become aware of the complexities of saying sorry. A three-year-old might need help in understanding that other children feel pain just as he does, and that hitting a playmate over the head with a heavy toy requires an apology. A six-year-old might need reminding that spoiling other children’s expectations can require an apology. A 12-year-old might need to be shown that raiding the biscuit tin without asking permission is acceptable, but that borrowing a parent’s clothes without permission is not.

60. According to the author, saying “I’m sorry you’re upset” most probably means “_______”.
　　A. You have good reason to get upset
　　B. I’m aware you’re upset, but I’m not to blame
　　C. I apologize for hurting your feelings
　　D. I’m at fault for making you upset

61. We learn from the last paragraph that in teaching children to say sorry _______.
　　A. the complexities involved should be ignored
　　B. their ages should be taken into account
　　C. parents need to set them a good example
　　D. parents should be patient and tolerant

62. It can be inferred from the passage that apologizing properly is _______.
　 A. a social issue calling for immediate attention B. not necessary among family members
　 C. a sign of social progress　　　　　　　　　 D. not as simple as it seems