So many times I hear people say that they will be happy once a certain event occurs. They think that once they move into a new house, start their new job, travel or retire they will be happy. But it doesn’t work that way.

If you truly want to be happy, here’s what to do.

You are not just a victim of circumstances or your emotions. Think about it this way. If you are in a horrible argument with someone, and the person you most respect enters the room, what will happen? The fighting will likely stop immediately, your mood will change, and so will your behavior. You do have control, and you are the one who decides how you will face the day!

We are never disappointed unless we have expectations. If you base your emotions on the need for certain things to happen, you will likely be let down most of the time. Instead, work hard, and treat everything good that happens as a bonus for which you can be thankful.

Don’t get too wrapped up in issues involving friends or family. We are each responsible for our own lives, and even when someone makes a bad mistake, it is not up to you to make things better. And remember that worry doesn’t help anyone!

You might not be satisfied with your income, but there’s no point complaining about it. Improve your diploma so that you can get a better job in the future. You may have an incurable illness, such as diabetes, but the fact that it’s incurable doesn’t mean that it cannot be managed.

   You don’t have to be a Pollyanna(盲目乐观者)about life, but you can see the bright side of almost every situation if you just make a point of looking for it. Happiness is not an uncatchable mouse! Once you have made up your mind that you are going to be happy despite what is going on around you, the task becomes easier. One of the key things to remember is that happiness doesn’t come from outside but begins on the inside and actually spread outward, and can influence everyone around you in a positive manner.

When we think of leadership, we often think of strength and power. But what are these really, and how do they operate?

Leadership today is not about forcing others to do things. If this is even possible, it is short-term, and tends to backfire. If you order someone to do something against their will, they may do it because they feel they must, but the anger they feel will do more harm in the long-term. They will also experience fear.

Fear causes the thinking brain to shut down, making the person unable to function at his or her best. If they associate you with this emotion of fear, they will become less functional around you, and you will have succeeded in not only shooting yourself in the foot, but possibly making a very good employee or partner unable to perform effectively. Fear has no place in leadership.

    The way we influence people in a lasting way is by our own character, and our understanding and use of emotion. We can order someone to do something, which may be part of the work day; or we can employ them at the emotional level, so they became fully devoted to the projects and provide some of their own motivation(积极性). Today’s work place is all about relationships. Anyone works harder in a positive environment in which they’re recognized and valued as a human being as well as a worker. Everyone produces just a bit more for someone they like. Leaders understand the way things work. They know the pay check is not the single most motivating factor (因素) in the work life of most people.

The true strength of leadership is an inner strength that comes from the confidence of emotional intelligence---knowing your own emotions, and how to handle them, and those of others. Developing your emotional intelligence is the single best thing you can do if you want to develop your relationships with people around you, which is the key to the leadership skills.

1. The underlined phrase “shooting oneself in the foot” means _____ in this passage.

A. throw or walk in a specific direction or towards a specific objective

B. to injure or harm one's own interests 

C. to move or pass suddenly or swiftly 

D. to grow forth(向前) from the ground

2. An employee may have a feeling of fear in the work place when___.

A. he is forced to do things        B. he cannot work at his best

C. he feels his brain shut down     D. he thinks of his work as too heavy

3. Which of the following is TRUE according to the passage?

A. People tend to associate leadership with fear.

B. Working conditions affect people’s physical health.

C. Good relationship is the key to business success.

D. Smart people are more functional in the work place.

4. To positively influence employees, a leader should first of all ____.

A. provide better suggestions        B. develop his own personality

C. give his employees a pay raise     D. hide his own emotion of fear

5. Good leadership is mainly seen in a leader’s ability to_____.

A. provide a variety of project for employees

B. help raise employees’ living standards

C. give employees’ specific instructions（指导）     

D. deal wisely with employees’ emotions

When we think of leadership, we often think of strength and power. But what are these really, and how do they operate?

Leadership today is not about forcing others to do things. If this is even possible, it is short-term, and tends to backfire. If you order someone to do something against their will, they may do it because they feel they must, but the anger they feel will do more harm in the long-term. They will also experience fear.

Fear causes the thinking brain to shut down, making the person unable to function at his or her best. If they associate you with this emotion of fear, they will become less functional around you, and you will have succeeded in not only shooting yourself in the foot, but possibly making a very good employee or partner unable to perform effectively. Fear has no place in leadership.

    The way we influence people in a lasting way is by our own character, and our understanding and use of emotion. We can order someone to do something, which may be part of the work day; or we can employ them at the emotional level, so they became fully devoted to the projects and provide some of their own motivation (积极性). Today’s work place is all about relationships. Anyone works harder in a positive environment in which they’re recognized and valued as a human being as well as a worker. Everyone produces just a bit more for someone they like. Leaders understand the way things work. They know the pay check is not the single most motivating factor (因素) in the work life of most people.

The true strength of leadership is an inner strength that comes from the confidence of emotional intelligence---knowing your own emotions, and how to handle them, and those of others. Developing your emotional intelligence is the single best thing you can do if you want to develop your relationships with people around you, which is the key to the leadership skills.

The underlined phrase “shooting oneself in the foot” means _____ in this passage.

A. throw or walk in a specific direction or towards a specific objective

B. to grow forth (向前) from the ground

C. to move or pass suddenly or swiftly 

D. to injure or harm one's own interests 

An employee may have a feeling of fear in the work place when ___.

A. he cannot work at his best                       B. he is forced to do things

C. he feels his brain shut down                    D. he thinks of his work as too heavy

Which of the following is TRUE according to the passage?

A. People tend to associate leadership with fear.

B. Working conditions affect people’s physical health.

C. Smart people are more functional in the work place.

D. Good relationship is the key to business success.

To positively influence employees, a leader should first of all ____.

A. develop his own personality                  B. provide better suggestions

C. give his employees a pay raise                D. hide his own emotion of fear

Good leadership is mainly seen in a leader’s ability to_____.

A. provide a variety of project for employees

B. help raise employees’ living standards

C. deal wisely with employees’ emotions     

D. give employees’ specific instructions（指导）

When we think of leadership, we often think of strength and power. But what are these really, and how do they operate?

Leadership today is not about forcing others to do things. If this is even possible, it is short-term, and tends to backfire. If you order someone to do something against their will, they may do it because they feel they must, but the anger they feel will do more harm in the long-term. They will also experience fear.

Fear causes the thinking brain to shut down, making the person unable to function at his or her best. If they associate you with this emotion of fear, they will become less functional around you, and you will have succeeded in not only shooting yourself in the foot, but possibly making a very good employee or partner unable to perform effectively. Fear has no place in leadership.

    The way we influence people in a lasting way is by our own character, and our understanding and use of emotion. We can order someone to do something, which may be part of the work day; or we can employ them at the emotional level, so they became fully devoted to the projects and provide some of their own motivation (积极性). Today’s work place is all about relationships. Anyone works harder in a positive environment in which they’re recognized and valued as a human being as well as a worker. Everyone produces just a bit more for someone they like. Leaders understand the way things work. They know the pay check is not the single most motivating factor (因素) in the work life of most people.

The true strength of leadership is an inner strength that comes from the confidence of emotional intelligence---knowing your own emotions, and how to handle them, and those of others. Developing your emotional intelligence is the single best thing you can do if you want to develop your relationships with people around you, which is the key to the leadership skills.

The underlined phrase “shooting oneself in the foot” means _____ in this passage.

A. throw or walk in a specific direction or towards a specific objective

B. to grow forth (向前) from the ground

C. to move or pass suddenly or swiftly 

D. to injure or harm one's own interests 

An employee may have a feeling of fear in the work place when ___.

A. he cannot work at his best                  B. he is forced to do things

C. he feels his brain shut down                D. he thinks of his work as too heavy

Which of the following is TRUE according to the passage?

A. People tend to associate leadership with fear.

B. Working conditions affect people’s physical health.

C. Smart people are more functional in the work place.

D. Good relationship is the key to business success.

To positively influence employees, a leader should first of all ____.

A. develop his own personality                     B. provide better suggestions

C. give his employees a pay raise                   D. hide his own emotion of fear

Good leadership is mainly seen in a leader’s ability to_____.

A. provide a variety of project for employees

B. help raise employees’ living standards

C. deal wisely with employees’ emotions     

D. give employees’ specific instructions（指导）

When we think of leadership, we often think of strength and power. But what are these really, and how do they operate?

Leadership today is not about forcing others to do things. If this is even possible, it is short-term, and tends to backfire. If you order someone to do something against their will, they may do it because they feel they must, but the anger they feel will do more harm in the long-term. They will also experience fear.

Fear causes the thinking brain to shut down, making the person unable to function at his or her best. If they associate you with this emotion of fear, they will become less functional around you, and you will have succeeded in not only shooting yourself in the foot, but possibly making a very good employee or partner unable to perform effectively. Fear has no place in leadership.

    The way we influence people in a lasting way is by our own character, and our understanding and use of emotion. We can order someone to do something, which may be part of the work day; or we can employ them at the emotional level, so they became fully devoted to the projects and provide some of their own motivation(积极性). Today’s work place is all about relationships. Anyone works harder in a positive environment in which they’re recognized and valued as a human being as well as a worker. Everyone produces just a bit more for someone they like. Leaders understand the way things work. They know the pay check is not the single most motivating factor (因素) in the work life of most people.

The true strength of leadership is an inner strength that comes from the confidence of emotional intelligence---knowing your own emotions, and how to handle them, and those of others. Developing your emotional intelligence is the single best thing you can do if you want to develop your relationships with people around you, which is the key to the leadership skills.

1. The underlined phrase “shooting oneself in the foot” means _____ in this passage.

A. throw or walk in a specific direction or towards a specific objective

B. to injure or harm one's own interests 

C. to move or pass suddenly or swiftly 

D. to grow forth(向前) from the ground

2. An employee may have a feeling of fear in the work place when___.

A. he is forced to do things        B. he cannot work at his best

C. he feels his brain shut down     D. he thinks of his work as too heavy

3. Which of the following is TRUE according to the passage?

A. People tend to associate leadership with fear.

B. Working conditions affect people’s physical health.

C. Good relationship is the key to business success.

D. Smart people are more functional in the work place.

4. To positively influence employees, a leader should first of all ____.

A. provide better suggestions        B. develop his own personality

C. give his employees a pay raise     D. hide his own emotion of fear

5. Good leadership is mainly seen in a leader’s ability to_____.

A. provide a variety of project for employees

B. help raise employees’ living standards

C. give employees’ specific instructions（指导）     

D. deal wisely with employees’ emotions