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Assertiveness is the ability to confidently express your opinions, feelings,attitudes, and rights, in a way that doesn't infringe（侵犯） the rights of others.
Many of us are taught that it is not nice to consider our own needs above those of others. If someone says or does something that we don't like, we should just be quiet and try to stay away from that person in the future.
Why is Assertiveness important?
If you don't know how to be assertive, you might experience:
•Depression - Anger, a sense of being helpless, hopeless, or of having no control over your life.
•Resentment - Anger at others for taking advantage of you.
•Frustration - Why did I allow that to happen?
Most people find it easier to be assertive in some situations than in others. This makes perfect sense. It's a lot easier to hold your ground with a stranger than with someone you love. But the more important the relationship is to you, the more ｉｍｐｏｒｔａｎｔ it is to be assertive. Assertive behavior leads to increased respect from others！
But before you decide to act assertively, you have to decide if you can live
with the results. Although assertive behavior usually will result in a positive
response (积极的回应)，some people might react differently.
How to be effectively（有效地） assertive:
•Use "I" statements. Keep the focus on the problem you're having. "I'd like to be able to tell my stories without interruption." instead of "You're always interrupting my stories ! "
•Use facts, not opinions. "Did you know that shirt has a hole?" instead of "You're not going out looking like THAT, are you?"
•Express ownership of your thoughts, feelings, and opinions. "I get angry when he breaks his promises. " instead of "He makes me angry. "
• Make clear and direct requirements. Don't invite the person to say no. "Will you please?" instead of 'Would you mind．．．?" or "Why don't you．．．?"
•Keep repeating your point. Use a low level and pleasant voice. Don't try to explain yourself.
1.The writer probably agrees that____________.
A. you should consider others' response before you act assertively
B. you should be assertive if you want to get good marks
C. assertiveness is the ability to infringe others' rights.
D. assertive behavior will bring you bad feelings
2.The expression "hold yourｇround" probably means “_________________”
A. reach an agreement
B. insist on your point
C. keep your word
D. keep on fighting
3.Which of the following helps you to be effectively assertive?
A. Explaining yourself in a soft and sweet voice.
B. Expressing ownership of others' thoughts.
C. Making requirements directly and clearly.
D. Using your opinions instead of facts.
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41 a river there was a very narrow (窄的) bridge. One day a goat was crossing this bridge, just at the middle of the bridge he met another goat. There was no room for them to pass.
"Go back," said one goat to 42 . "There is no room for 43 of us."
"Why should I go back?" asked the other goat. "Why 44 you go back?"
"You must go back," said the first goat, "because I am 45 than you."
"You are not bigger than I." said the second goat.
"We will see about that." said the first goat, and he put down his bores (羊角) 46 .
"Stop!" said the second goat. "If we fight, we shall both 47 into the river and be drowned (淹死). 48 , I have a plan--1 shall lie down, and you may walk over me."
Then the wise goat 49 down on the bridge, and the other goat walked 50 over him. So they passed each other, and went on their ways.
41. A. On B. In C. Over D. Under
42. A. other B. the other C. another D. the others
43. A. both B. all C. neither D. none
44. A. not B. don't C. are D. aren't
45. A. strong B. stronger C. thin D. thinner
46. A. fight B. fought C. fighting D. to fight
47. A. feel B. fall C. fell D. felt
48. A. Instead B. Though C. However D. Because
49. A. lie B. lied C. laid D. lay
50. A. light B. lighter C. lightly D. more lightly
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When I was young, I was very naughty. And I often made some trouble. Some people didn't like me, but I didn't know the reason until my grandfather took me to the fishpond(养鱼塘) on the farm. He asked me to throw a stone into the water. I did what I was asked. Then my grandfather told me to watch the waves made by the stone. Moments later, he asked me to think of myself as that stone.
"You may make a lot of splashes(浪花)in your life, but remember the waves that come from those splashes will affect the peace of all your friends beside you," he said."Remember that you are responsible for what you throw into your circle. and that your waves will touch many other circles. Always try to live in a way that allows the good that come from your circle to send the peace of your goodness to other circles. Remember the waves that come from anger and jealousy(嫉妒)will send those feelings to other circles.You are responsible for all the waves." That was the first time I realized each preson creates the inner prece or anger that flows out into the world. We cannot create world peace if we have hatred and anger.
We show the feelings and thoughts that we hold inside, whether we tell them or not. Whatever is inside of us is flowing out into the world and touching all the other circles of life. We must remember that we aren't single, so we must be responsible for everyone beside us.
46.. The writer'sgrandfather asked him to_____
A.stop the waves B.see himself as the wave
C.make a lot of splashes D.regard himself as a stone
47. The wave will affect the peace of all our friends beside us,so we should_____
A.not make a lot of splashes.
B.not touch many other circles.
C.not be full of anger and jealousy.
D.be responsible for what we throw into our circle.
48. The underlined phrase “flow out” in the passage means?（原创）
A. blow out B. take out C. go out D.bring out
49.According to the passgae we know the writer's grandfather was very ______
A. wise B.old C.strict D.funny
50. This passage mainly tells us that______
A.we are the stones
B.we can make some splashes
C.people can affcet each other in our life
D.the writer likes playing by the fishpond
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41 a river there was a very narrow (窄的) bridge. One day a goat was crossing this bridge, just at the middle of the bridge he met another goat. There was no room for them to pass.
"Go back," said one goat to 42 . "There is no room for 43 of us."
"Why should I go back?" asked the other goat. "Why 44 you go back?"
"You must go back," said the first goat, "because I am 45 than you."
"You are not bigger than I." said the second goat.
"We will see about that." said the first goat, and he put down his bores (羊角) 46 .
"Stop!" said the second goat. "If we fight, we shall both 47 into the river and be drowned (淹死). 48 , I have a plan--1 shall lie down, and you may walk over me."
Then the wise goat 49 down on the bridge, and the other goat walked 50 over him. So they passed each other, and went on their ways.
41. A. On B. In C. Over D. Under
42. A. other B. the other C. another D. the others
43. A. both B. all C. neither D. none
44. A. not B. don't C. are D. aren't
45. A. strong B. stronger C. thin D. thinner
46. A. fight B. fought C. fighting D. to fight
47. A. feel B. fall C. fell D. felt
48. A. Instead B. Though C. However D. Because
49. A. lie B. lied C. laid D. lay
50. A. light B. lighter C. lightly D. more lightly
查看习题详情和答案>>When I was young, I was very naughty. And I often made some trouble. Some people didn't like me, but I didn't know the reason until my grandfather took me to the fishpond(养鱼塘) on the farm. He asked me to throw a stone into the water. I did what I was asked. Then my grandfather told me to watch the waves made by the stone. Moments later, he asked me to think of myself as that stone.
"You may make a lot of splashes(浪花)in your life, but remember the waves that come from those splashes will affect the peace of all your friends beside you," he said."Remember that you are responsible for what you throw into your circle. and that your waves will touch many other circles. Always try to live in a way that allows the good that come from your circle to send the peace of your goodness to other circles. Remember the waves that come from anger and jealousy(嫉妒)will send those feelings to other circles.You are responsible for all the waves." That was the first time I realized each preson creates the inner prece or anger that flows out into the world. We cannot create world peace if we have hatred and anger.
We show the feelings and thoughts that we hold inside, whether we tell them or not. Whatever is inside of us is flowing out into the world and touching all the other circles of life. We must remember that we aren't single, so we must be responsible for everyone beside us.
46.. The writer'sgrandfather asked him to_____
A.stop the waves B.see himself as the wave
C.make a lot of splashes D.regard himself as a stone
47. The wave will affect the peace of all our friends beside us,so we should_____
A.not make a lot of splashes.
B.not touch many other circles.
C.not be full of anger and jealousy.
D.be responsible for what we throw into our circle.
48. The underlined phrase “flow out” in the passage means?
A. blow out B. take out C. go out D.bring out
49.According to the passgae we know the writer's grandfather was very ______
A. wise B.old C.strict D.funny
50. This passage mainly tells us that______
A.we are the stones B.we can make some splashes
C.people can affcet each other in our life D.the writer likes playing by the fishpond
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