In a class I teach for adults, I recently did the “unpardonable．” I gave the class homework!

The assignment （任务） was to “go to someone you love   36   the next week and tell them you love them．It   37   to be someone you have never   38   those words to before or at least haven’t shared those words with for a long time．” That doesn’t   39   like a very tough assignment,   40   you stop to realize that most of the men  were over 35 and were   41   in the generation of men that were taught that expressing emotions is not “macho （男子汉气概的）．” Showing feelings or crying （heaven forbid!） was just not done   42  this was a very threatening assignment for some．

At the   43   of our next class, I asked if someone wanted to   44   what happened when they told someone they loved them．I fully expected one of the   45   to volunteer, as was usually the   46  , but on this evening one of the men raised his hand．He appeared quite moved and a bit   47  ．As he unfolded out of his chair, he began by saying, “Dennis．I was quite   48   with you last week when you gave us the assignment．I didn’t think that I had   49  to say those words to and   50  , who were you to tell me to do something that personal? But as I began driving home my conscience （良知） started talking to me．It was telling me that I   51   exactly who I needed to say I love you to．You see, five years ago, my father and I had a heated   52   and really never resolved it since that one．We   53   seeing each other unless we absolutely had to at Christmas or other family gatherings．But   54   then, we hardly spoke to each other．So last．Tuesday   55   I got home, I had convinced myself．I was going to tell my father I loved him．”

A．after          B．before          C．for             D．within

A．has to        B．ought to        C．had better     D．can

A．told           B．said           C．talked           D．spoken

A．look          B．hear          C．listen           D．sound

A．when         B．until            C．that             D．unless

A．born          B．grown          C．raised           D．risen

A．And           B．But             C．So             D．For

A．beginning      B．end           C．middle          D．stating

A．announce      B．share           C．answer          D．ask

A．men           B．adults           C．students         D．women

A．case           B．thing           C．story            D．experience

A．afraid        B．shaken          C．terrible         D．worried

A．happy        B．pleased         C．angry           D．satisfied

A．everybody     B．nobody          C．someone       D．anyone

A．else           B．except          C．beside           D．besides

A．thought      B．considered       C．knew         D．guessed

A．disagreement B．encouragement C．disappointment D．discouragement

A．imagined       B．risked           C．avoided         D．escaped

A．still               B．even            C．just           D．only

A．by the time    B．at the time       C．for the time      D．during the time

In a class I teach for adults, I recently did the “unpardonable.” I gave the class homework!

The assignment（任务） was to “go to someone you love   1  the next week and tell them you love them. It   2    be someone you have never   3   those words to before or at least haven't shared those words with for a long time.” That doesn't   4  like a very tough assignment   5  you stop to realize that most of the men were over 35 and were   6  in the generation of men that were taught that   7  emotions is not “macho（男子汉气概的）.” Showing feelings or crying (heaven forbid!) was just not done. So this was a very threatening assignment for some.

At the   8  of our next class, I asked if someone wanted to  9   what happened when he told someone he loved them. I fully expected one of the   10  to volunteer, as was usually the  11  , but on this evening one of the men raised his hand. He appeared quite moved and a bit   12  . As he unfolded out of his chair, he began by saying, "Dennis, I was quite   13  with you last week when you gave us this assignment. I didn't feel that I had   14  to say those words to, and  15  ,　who were you to tell me to do something that personal? But as I began driving home my conscience started talking to me. It was telling me that I   16  exactly who I needed to say I love you to. You see, five years ago, my father and I had a heated  17  and really never resolved it since that time. We   18  seeing each other unless we absolutely had to at Christmas or other family gatherings. But  19  then, we hardly spoke to each other. So last Tuesday   20  I got home I had convinced myself. I was going to tell my father I loved him.”

1．A．after                     B．before                 C．for                      D．within

2．A．has to                   B．ought to              C．had better            D．can

3．A．told                      B．said                     C．talked                  D．spoken

4．A．look                      B．hear                    C．listen                   D．sound

5．A．when                    B．until                    C．that                     D．unless

6．A．born                     B．grown                 C．raised                  D．risen

7．A．exchanging            B．conveying            C．express               D．explaining

8．A．beginning              B．end                     C．middle                 D．starting

9．A．announce              B．share                   C．answer                D．ask

10．A．men                    B．adults                  C．students              D．women

11．A．case                    B．thing                   C．story                   D．experience

12．A．afraid                  B．shaken                C．terrible                D．worried

13．A．annoying             B．pleased                C．angry                  D．satisfied

14．A．something           B．nobody                C．someone             D．anyone

15．A．besides                B．beside                 C．except                 D．else

16．A．thought               B．considered           C．knew                  D．guessed

17．A．disagreement       B．encouragement     C．disappointment     D．discouragement

18．A．imagined             B．risked                  C．avoided               D．escaped

19．A．still                     B．even                    C．just                     D．only

20．A．by the time          B．at the time           C．for the time         D．during the time

In a class I teach for adults, I recently did the “unpardonable.” I gave the class homework!

The assignment (任务) was to “go to someone you love 　36 the next week and tell them you love them. It 　37 to be someone you have never 　38 those words to before or at least haven’t shared those words with for a long time.” That doesn’t 　39 like a very tough assignment, 　40 you stop to realize that most of the men were over 35 and were 　41 in the generation of men that were taught that expressing emotions is not “macho (男子汉气概的).” Showing feelings or crying (heaven forbid!) was just not done 　42 this was a very threatening assignment for some.

At the 　43 of our next class, I asked if someone wanted to 　44 what happened when they told someone they loved them. I fully expected one of the 　45 to volunteer, as was usually the 　46 , but on this evening one of the men raised his hand. He appeared quite moved and a bit 　47 . As he unfolded out of his chair, he began by saying, “Dennis. I was quite 　48 with you last week when you gave us the assignment. I didn’t feel that I had 　49 to say those words to and 　50 , who were you to tell me to do something that personal? But as I began driving home my conscience (良知) started talking to me. It was telling me that I 　51 exactly who I needed to say I love you to. You see, five years ago, my father and I had a heated 　52 and really never resolved it since that one. We 　53 seeing each other unless we absolutely had to at Christmas or other family gatherings. But 　54 then, we hardly spoke to each other. So last. Tuesday 　55 I got home, I had convinced myself. I was going to tell my father I loved him.”

36．A．after　　　　　　　　　 B．before　　　　　　　　 C．for　　　　　　　　　　 D．within

37．A．has to　　　　　　　　 B．ought to　　　　　　 C．had better　　　　　 D．can

38．A．told　　　　　　　　　　 B．said　　　　　　　　　　 C．talked　　　　　　　　 D．spoken

39．A．look　　　　　　　　　 B．hear　　　　　　　　　 C．listen　　　　　　　　　 D．sound

40．A．when　　　　　　　　 B．until　　　　　　　　　 C．that　　　　　　　　　　 D．unless

41．A．born　　　　　　　　　 B．grown　　　　　　　　 C．raised　　　　　　　　 D．risen

42．A．And　　　　　　　　　 B．But　　　　　　　　　　 C．So　　　　　　　　　　 D．For

43．A．beginning　　　　　 B．end　　　　　　　　　　 C．middle　　　　　　　　 D．stating

44．A．announce　　　　　 B．share　　　　　　　　　 C．answer　　　　　　　 D．ask

45．A．men　　　　　　　　　 B．adults　　　　　　　　 C．students　　　　　　 D．women

46．A．case　　　　　　　　　 B．thing　　　　　　　　　 C．story　　　　　　　　　 D．experience

47．A．afraid　　　　　　　　 B．shaken　　　　　　　 C．terrible　　　　　　　 D．worried

48．A．happy　　　　　　　　 B．pleased　　　　　　　 C．angry　　　　　　　　 D．satisfied

49．A．everybody　　　　　 B．nobody　　　　　　　 C．someone　　　　　　 D．anyone

50．A．else　　　　　　　　　　 B．except　　　　　　　　 C．beside　　　　　　　　 D．besides

51．A．thought　　　　　　　 B．considered　　　　　 C．knew　　　　　　　　 D．guessed

52．A．disagreement　　　 B．encouragement　　 C．disappointment　　 D．discouragement

53．A．imagined　　　　　　 B．risked　　　　　　　　 C．avoided　　　　　　　 D．escaped

54．A．still　　　　　　　　　　 B．even　　　　　　　　　 C．just　　　　　　　　　　 D．only

55．A．by the time　　　　 B．at the time　　　　　 C．for the time　　　　 D．during the time

What is your body language saying to your children? What is their body language telling you? I had the honor of hearing Jan Hargrave speak the other day. She is one of four body language experts in the US. Jan Hargrave says we lie with the right side of our brains, so it is our left hand that gives us away. A person touching his nose, pulling at his ear or rubbing his eye with his left hand might be lying to you. Also, a person who, in any way, crosses any fingers might just be lying. That, she says, is a holdover(遗留物) from childhood, when we crossed our fingers to signal that we didn’t mean what we were saying. When children squint(眨) their eyes, move their body away from you, or can’t seem to make good eye contact, you may need to ask for a little more clarification.
But just as important, children learn early how to read our body language when they are conversing(交谈) with us. Here are some acceptance signals to let them know you are interested when they are talking to you. Lean(倾斜) towards them. Make good eye contact and smile. Open your arms. Let your hands relax with the palms(手掌) showing: an open, upward palm always show acceptance. If your legs are crossed, make sure you are not crossing them away from your child. These are important because they signal to your child that you are focused on them and are accepting and welcoming them into your world.
By paying attention, we can open those lines of important communication with our children and we can see the truth more clearly. I think it would be a mistake to use these tools to lie, but we need to be aware of the signals we are giving so we can show people that they really do matter to us.
【小题1】According to Jan Hargrave, we can tell whether a person is lying by _______.

What is your body language saying to your children? What is their body language telling you? I had the honor of hearing Jan Hargrave speak the other day. She is one of four body language experts in the US. Jan Hargrave says we lie with the right side of our brains, so it is our left hand that gives us away. A person touching his nose, pulling at his ear or rubbing his eye with his left hand might be lying to you. Also, a person who, in any way, crosses any fingers might just be lying. That, she says, is a holdover(遗留物) from childhood, when we crossed our fingers to signal that we didn’t mean what we were saying. When children squint(眨) their eyes, move their body away from you, or can’t seem to make good eye contact, you may need to ask for a little more clarification.

But just as important, children learn early how to read our body language when they are conversing(交谈) with us. Here are some acceptance signals to let them know you are interested when they are talking to you. Lean(倾斜) towards them. Make good eye contact and smile. Open your arms. Let your hands relax with the palms(手掌) showing: an open, upward palm always show acceptance. If your legs are crossed, make sure you are not crossing them away from your child. These are important because they signal to your child that you are focused on them and are accepting and welcoming them into your world.

By paying attention, we can open those lines of important communication with our children and we can see the truth more clearly. I think it would be a mistake to use these tools to lie, but we need to be aware of the signals we are giving so we can show people that they really do matter to us.

1.According to Jan Hargrave, we can tell whether a person is lying by _______.

A．observing his/her left hand’s movements.

B．looking at how he/ she crosses his/ her fingers

C．observing whether he/ she uses body language

D．making good eye contact with him/ her

2.We can learn from the passage that body language _______.

A．is hard to master for children

B．can be understood in different ways

C．may help improve communication

D．is more likely to hide the truth

3.Which of the following does NOT show acceptance to people?

A．Smile while making eye contact.

B．Open your arms to them.

C．Relax your hands with the palms showing.

D．Cross your leg away from them.

4.In the last paragraph, the author seems to suggest that parents_______.

A．spend more time with their children

B．learn to read and use body language

C．pay attention to family communication

D．try to prevent their children from lying