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You must have been troubled by when to say “I love you” because it is one of the greatest puzzles in our life.
What if you say it first and your partner doesn’t love you back? Or if they do say it but you don’t feel they mean it? Being the first to declare your love can be nerve racking(紧张）and risky and can leave you feeling as vulnerable as a turtle with no shell. But is the person who says it first really in a position of weakness? Doesn’t it pay to hold back, play it cool and wait until the other half has shown their hand fast?
A really good relationship should be about “being fair and being equal,” says psychologist Sidney Crown. “But love is seldom equal.” All relationships go through power struggles but, he says, if a love imbalance continues for years, the rot will set in. “That feeling of ‘I’ve always loved you more’ may be subverted(颠覆，破坏) for a time, but it never goes away completely and it often emerges in squabbling(大声争吵).” In love, at least, the silent, withholding type is not always the most powerful. “The strongest one in a relationship is often the person who feels confident enough to talk about their feelings,” says educational psychologist Ingrid Collins. Psychosexual therapist Paula Hall agrees. “The one with the upper hand is often the person who takes the initiative. In fact, the person who says ‘I love you’ first may also be the one who says ‘I’ m bored with you’ first.” Hall believes that much depends on how “I love you” is said and the motivation of the person saying it. “Is it said when they’re drunk? Is it said before their partner files off on holiday, and what it really means is ‘Please don’ t be unfaithful to me’ ?” By saying ‘I love you’, they are really saying ‘Do you love me?’ If so, wouldn’t it just be more honest to say that. Collins agrees that intention is everything. “It’s not what is said, but how it’s said. What it comes down to is the sincerity of the speaker.”
What is the main idea of this passage?
A. The importance of “I love you”
B. The meaning of “I love you”
C. The time of saying “I love you”
D. The place of saying “I love you”
In the first sentence the author means that _________.
A. it is easy to say “I love you”
B. it is hard to say “I love you”
C. we have many troubles in our life
D. people usually do not know when to say “I love you”
According to the expert, a good relationship should be _______.
A. fair and equal B. fair and kind
C. powerful and equal D. confident and fair
In the third paragraph, the phrase “with the upper hand” means _________.
A. being low in spirit B. having only one hand
C. being active D. being passive
查看习题详情和答案>>You must have been troubled by when to say “I love you” because it is one of the greatest puzzles in our life.
What if you say it first and your partner doesn’t love you back? Or if they do say it but you don’t feel they mean it? Being the first to declare your love can be nerve racking(紧张）and risky and can leave you feeling as vulnerable as a turtle with no shell. But is the person who says it first really in a position of weakness? Doesn’t it pay to hold back, play it cool and wait until the other half has shown their hand fast?
A really good relationship should be about “being fair and being equal,” says psychologist Sidney Crown. “But love is seldom equal.” All relationships go through power struggles but, he says, if a love imbalance continues for years, the rot will set in. “That feeling of ‘I’ve always loved you more’ may be subverted(颠覆，破坏) for a time, but it never goes away completely and it often emerges in squabbling(大声争吵).” In love, at least, the silent, withholding type is not always the most powerful. “The strongest one in a relationship is often the person who feels confident enough to talk about their feelings,” says educational psychologist Ingrid Collins. Psychosexual therapist Paula Hall agrees. “The one with the upper hand is often the person who takes the initiative. In fact, the person who says ‘I love you’ first may also be the one who says ‘I’ m bored with you’ first.” Hall believes that much depends on how “I love you” is said and the motivation of the person saying it. “Is it said when they’re drunk? Is it said before their partner files off on holiday, and what it really means is ‘Please don’ t be unfaithful to me’ ?” By saying ‘I love you’, they are really saying ‘Do you love me?’ If so, wouldn’t it just be more honest to say that. Collins agrees that intention is everything. “It’s not what is said, but how it’s said. What it comes down to is the sincerity of the speaker.”
1. What is the main idea of this passage?
A. The importance of “I love you”
B. The meaning of “I love you”
C. The time of saying “I love you”
D. The place of saying “I love you”
2. In the first sentence the author means that _________.
A. it is easy to say “I love you”
B. it is hard to say “I love you”
C. we have many troubles in our life
D. people usually do not know when to say “I love you”
3. According to the expert, a good relationship should be _______.
A. fair and equal B. fair and kind
C. powerful and equal D. confident and fair
4. In the third paragraph, the phrase “with the upper hand” means _________.
A. being low in spirit B. having only one hand
C. being active D. being passive
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阅读理解
Did you ever think someone was scary (可怕的) because they looked different or ate strange food? Well, they might think the same about you! One of the things we all need to do is to celebrate variety. We shouldn't think badly of people from other cultures because they are different from our own.
Sometimes we judge people from other countries unfairly, because one person from that culture did something bad. Well, has your class ever been punished just because a few kids were causing trouble? Has your whole family ever been blamed for something your little sister did? It doesn't seem fair, does it? It's just as unfair to blame a whole culture for what two or three people do.
So here are some things that you can do to help yourself understand other cultures.
1．Find common ground! Remember that even though some people look different on the outside, it doesn't change what they look on the inside. They still have the same feelings!
2．Don't blame everyone because of one! So let's say someone from another culture is being mean (卑劣的) and you decide to avoid everyone from that culture. Well, think about it. Why are you blaming them for something they didn't have anything to do with? Put yourself in their shoes. How would you feel? Trying to understand how a person thinks can be a very good way to understand why they are acting that way. Remember, other people may not think the same way.
3．Try to make friends with people from other cultures. You could ask them what they know about their culture, or what it was like in their country. Try foods from that culture, or ask them if they know any words in that language. You might be surprised at how pure other cultures can be! You can have great discussions and have lots of fun doing new things.
4．Know that people always judge other people. If you know what you are thinking then you can help make things easier. Pay attention to what you think about other people. It helps!
1．What is mainly discussed in this passage?
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A．Why there are differences between people.
B．What to do to understand other cultures.
C．How people feel when they meet people from other cultures.
D．Where differences between people lie.
2．In the author's opinion, one mistake when we treat cultural differences is that we ________.
[ ]
A．cannot see and share what peoples have in common
B．believe that other people may certainly think badly of us
C．don't want to learn anything valuable in other cultures
D．try to find the reason for the differences
3．The underlined word“celebrate”here most probably means ________.
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4．The author believes that ________.
[ ]
A．some people are actually kind though but they sometimes do something bad
B．one person cannot stand for the real culture he is in
C．some people really have nothing to do with their culture
D．if you judge someone badly he will do the same to you.
5．By saying“… then you can help make things easier.” the author means you will ________.
[ ]
A．make more friends
B．know more about the world
C．have more fun in life
D．find less difference between you and others
查看习题详情和答案>>He met her at a party. She was so outstanding that many guys were chasing after her, while he was so ordinary. At the end of the party, he invited her to have coffee with him. She was surprised but due to being being polite, she promised.
They sat in a nice coffee shop, he was too nervous to say anything, and she felt uncomfortable, too. Suddenly he asked the waiter, “Would you please give me some salt? I’d like to put it in my coffee.” Everybody stared at him. It was so strange! His face turned red but still, he put the salt in his coffee and drank it. She asked him curiously, “Why do you have this hobby?” He replied, “When I was a little boy, I lived near the sea, I liked playing in the sea, I could feel the taste of the sea, just like the taste of the salty coffee. Now every time I have the salty coffee, I always think of my childhood, my hometown, and my parents who are still living there.” While saying that tears filled his eyes. She was deeply touched. Then she also started to speak, speaking about her faraway hometown, her childhood, and her family.
That was a really nice talk, also a beautiful beginning of their love. They continued to date. She found that actually he was a man who met all her demands. He had tolerance, kind-hearted, warm and careful. Thanks to his salty coffee! They married. And, every time she made coffee for him, she put some salt in the coffee, as she knew that was the way he liked it. After 40 years, he passed away and left her a letter which said, “My dearest, please forgive my whole life’s lie. Remember the first time we dated? I was so nervous at that time, actually I wanted some sugar, but said salt. It was hard for me to change so I just went ahead. I didn’t like the salty coffee then, what a strange bad taste! But I have had the salty coffee for my whole life, for it was prepared by you.”
The man was nervous at the coffee shop, because _______.
A. everybody stared at him at that time
B. many guys chased after the woman
C. he didn’t feel himself a match for the woman
D. he had the strange habit of drinking salty coffee
From this passage, we can infer that ________.
A. the man’s lie won the woman’s love
B. the man’s parents onced lived near the sea
C. the woman talked with the man, for they had the same experience
D. the woman realised what salty coffee had to do with a good man
What can be concluded about the man?
A. He had intended to give his wife a surprise at his death
B. He unwillingly developed a taste for salty coffee after marriage
C. He was so stubborn as to drink for a life what he didn’t like
D. He enjoyed his lifelong bitter salty coffee out of love
Which of the following could be the best title for this passage?
A. A Foolish Lie B. Salty Coffee
C. A Sad Love Story D. Love in a Coffee Shop
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