We are not born doubting ourselves. We learn to do it. In fact, we are usually taught to doubt ourselves. We can learn some ways that allow us to become more accepting of ourselves. Following are two behaviors that might explain the reasons why you can't move towards greater self-acceptance．

One thing that might cause you not to accept yourself is over-generalizing about something you've done that you don't like. For example, if you fail a test you might generalize and say, "I'm really a stupid person．"When you do this you are making a statement about all of you all of the time and not just about this one situation at this time. Instead, you might decide that your grade on this test in this subject at this time was indeed poor, and then go on to decide what you want to do about your poor grade, if anything. Getting stuck in over-generalizing discourages you from taking steps that might allow you to do better on the next exam and to build an expectation of future failure．
　 Having standards that are impossibly high is a second way you can not accept yourself. It may not come as a surprise to you that most of us are more demanding of ourselves than we are of others. Somehow we can tolerate the fact that other people fail, that they aren't always kind, that they've done things they aren't proud of, but we have difficulty accepting those very human aspects of our-selves. The need to be perfect is another way to set yourself up for failure and enhance the feeling that you are not acceptable. We all make mistakes. Accepting less than perfection simply means recognizing the limitations natural in being born a human being. Learn to value who you are rather than who you could become. Wouldn't it be overpowering if we always had to do what we imagine we could do? Nobody has the time and energy to do all of that．We must make choices about what we will pursue and do them the best we can under the circumstances, which aren't always ideal, by the way．
54．Which of the following is true according to the passage?
A．We can feel that we are perfect when we set ourselves up for success．
B．We can tolerate the fact that we've done things we aren't proud of．
C．Over-generalizing might encourage you to expect the future．
D．Over-generalizing might cause you not to accept yourself．
55．What is the author's attitude according to the passage?
A．It's necessary for people to be perfect．

B．It's acceptable for people to be imperfect．

C．It's strange for people to be born with limitation．

D．It's possible for people to do what they imagine．
56．What has caused the lack of self-acceptance?
A．Tolerance and high-level．　　　　　

B．Limitation and expectation．
C．Over-generalization and high-standard．

D．Extreme difficulty and complete failure．
　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　

I stood there listening to my father shout at the top of his voice. “ Which one of you did this?” He asked with a sharp voice.

We all looked down at the floor containing the art of a child’s handwriting in chalk. I stood there, trembling and had hoped that no one else could see it. Would he know it was me? I secretly wondered. The look on his face failed me to bring myself to tell him. Scared, the only words that came from my mouth were，“Not me, Dad.”

The others denied(否认) it as well. But without saying a word , he disappeared for only minutes and came back with a piece of paper and a pencil. He was so determined to find the truth!

“I want each of you to write exactly what you see on the step.” I was not a stupid kid, though, and when my turn came, I deliberately wrote the words differently. So you can imagine what the result was.

He gathered up our pieces of paper and looked at them, “Since none of you will admit to having done it, then you all get a spanking (打屁股) .”What? Still, I stood there and said nothing.

“I did it. ” I looked around to see my sister step forward . Huh? She did it? No ,she didn’t because I did . Why was she taking the blame for something I did? Feeling guilty, yet still scared to confess（承认）, I stood there , letting it happen.

We joked about it now---all of us, including my sister. Because of it, I always felt guilty. That was the last time I let anyone take the blame for me.

66. The three children were blamed by the father because of______________.

　 A. their dirtying the floor　　　　 B. their bad handwriting

　 C. their wasting chalks　　　　　 D. their lying to the father

67. Why did the author not tell the truth according to the text?

　 A. he sensed he would be spanked

　 B. Because he knew someone would tell the truth.

　 C. Because he was frightened by his father’s serious look.

　 D. Because he thought no one else could notice the handwriting.

68. By saying “ I was not a stupid kid, though”, the author probably means he__________.

　 A. was cleverer than his father

　 B. was cleverer than his father expected

　 C. knew what to do to avoid being recognized

　 D. learned his father was determined to find the truth

69. The author felt guilty______________.

　 A. when his father came back with a piece of paper and a pencil

　 B. when his father found the floor with the art of handwriting

　 C. after he realized they would all be given a spanking

　 D. after his sister took the blame for him

70. We can learn from the text that___________.

　 A. the author would take the blame for his mistakes ever after

　 B. the author knew his father treated him strictly out of love

　 C. the author wouldn’t do anything wrong ever since

D. the author still wonders why his sister helped him

  In this article you will discover several techniques you can use to improve your interpersonal relations with friends, family, coworkers ,and employees. In fact , you can use these techniques to influence others to have a positive attitude toward you in just about any type of relationship.

  1. Don’t criticize or complain about people.

There’s no faster way to create resentment (忿恨）toward you than to criticize or complain about a person. Instead of telling people they’re doing something wrong , consider asking them questions to try to find out why they do what they do. Offer them an alternative in a way that comes across as (给人以.....印象）trying to help. Show them how doing things the way you would like them done can benefit them or lead to reward.

2.Appreciate people.

I’ll let you know a secret that can vastly improve your interpersonal relations very quickly : whenever you see someone, imagine them wearing a flashing sign on their chest that says APPRECIATE ME,PLEASE! Then , give them what they want.

3. Be genuinely interested in others.

You’ll make a lot of friends by being interested in others. Not everyone will admit it , but the truth is ,most people’s favorite subject is themselves. Use this to your advantage. Become genuinely interested in other people. Ask them questions . Talk to them about things they’re interested in .Put the focus on them. You’ll quickly gain their friendship.

4. Be a good listener.

This goes back to the principle of focusing on the other person. Listen more than you speak and encourage others to talk about themselves and you’ll quickly develop good interpersonal relations with them.

5. Make others feel important.

If someone is important to you in any way, tell them so! This goes for any type of interpersonal relationship!People like to feel important. Give them what they want and they will love you for it.

56. When your friends do something wrong , you are advised to _____.

   A . Point out their mistakes          B . Correct their mistakes

   C . Put forward a new plan           D . Solve the problem for them

57 . What’s the purpose of an imagined flashing sign on people’s chest?

   A. To attract others’ attention

   B . To remind people to talk to them.

   C. To remind people to praise them .

   D. To help people to remember them .

58 . What should we do if we want to improve interpersonal relations according to the text?

   A. Listen more than we speak.

   B . Try to argue when we are right.

   C. Get people to be interested in us .

   D. Talk more about things we’re interested in.