4．Some children are natural-born bosses．They have a strong need to make decisions，manage their environment，and lead rather than follow．Stephen Jackson，a Year One student，"operates under the theory of what's mine is mine and what's yours is mine，"says his mother．"The other day I bought two new Star Wars light sabers（剑）．Later，I saw Stephen with the two new ones while his brother was using the beat-up ones．"
"Examine the extended family，and you'll probably find a bossy grandparent，aunt，uncle or cousin in every generation．It's an inheritable trait，"says Russell Barkley，a professor at the Medical University of South Carolina．Other children who may not be particularly bossy can gradually gain dominance（支配地位） when they sense their parents are weak，hesitant，or in disagreement with each other．
Whether it's inborn nature or developed character at work，too much control in the hands of the young isn't healthy for children or the family．"Fear is at the root of a lot of bossy behaviour，"says family psychologist John Taylor．"Children，"he says in his book From Defiance to Cooperation，"have secret feelings of weakness and a desire to feel safe．It's the parents'role to provide that protection．"
When a"boss child"doesn't learn limits at home，the stage is set for a host of troubles outside the family．The overly willful and unbending child may have trouble obeying teachers or coaches，for example，or trouble keeping friends．It can be pretty lonely as the top dog if no one likes your bossy ways．
"I see more and more parents giving up their power，"says Barkley，who has studied bossy behavior for more than 30years．"They bend too far because they don't want to be as strict as their own parents were．But they also feel less confident about their parenting skills．Their kids，in turn，feel more anxious．"
So for the sake of the children，parents should be strict with them in a suitable way and get more knowledge to be good parents．
Title（71）Bossy children
"Examine the extended family，and you'll probably find a bossy grandparent，aunt，uncle or cousin in every generation．It's an inheritable trait，"says Russell Barkley，a professor at the Medical University of South Carolina．Other children who may not be particularly bossy can gradually gain dominance（支配地位） when they sense their parents are weak，hesitant，or in disagreement with each other．
Whether it's inborn nature or developed character at work，too much control in the hands of the young isn't healthy for children or the family．"Fear is at the root of a lot of bossy behaviour，"says family psychologist John Taylor．"Children，"he says in his book From Defiance to Cooperation，"have secret feelings of weakness and a desire to feel safe．It's the parents'role to provide that protection．"
When a"boss child"doesn't learn limits at home，the stage is set for a host of troubles outside the family．The overly willful and unbending child may have trouble obeying teachers or coaches，for example，or trouble keeping friends．It can be pretty lonely as the top dog if no one likes your bossy ways．
"I see more and more parents giving up their power，"says Barkley，who has studied bossy behavior for more than 30years．"They bend too far because they don't want to be as strict as their own parents were．But they also feel less confident about their parenting skills．Their kids，in turn，feel more anxious．"
So for the sake of the children，parents should be strict with them in a suitable way and get more knowledge to be good parents．
Title（71）Bossy children
| Kinds | ?（72）Natural-born bossy children with an inheritable trait； ?developed bossy children． | |
Behaviors | ?having a strong need to make decisions； ?（73）managing their environment； ?leading rather than following； ?not （74）learning limits at home． | |
（75）Causes/Reasons | Children | Parents |
| ?fear（the basic cause） ?（76）（feeings of）weakness ?a desire to feel safe | ?weakness，hesitation and disagreement with each other； ?less power over the children； ?（77）less confidence about parenting skills． | |
| Influences | ?having trouble dealing with others or keeping friends； ?feeling （78）lonely and anxious． | |
| （79）suggestions/tips/advice for parents | ?being strict with children in a suitable way； ?providing protection； ?learning to be （80）good parents． | |
3．After winning a big game，athletes are often asked how they feel．Usually athletes say how （36）Cit is to win this big game．On the contrary，the fact is that losing a big game，or in my case，all the games，can be even harder．
From the spectators'point of view，last year's basketball（37）Dfor my high school team was nothing（38）Aof an embarrassment．An（39）B 0 and 20 is certainly nothing to be proud of，that season had a bigger impact on me than any other．As a team captain，I knew it probably wouldn't be the（40）Dyear，but did I ever think we would lose every game？Of course not．Since six of our top players had graduated，it was clear that we were a （n）（41）Cteam who would struggle．The struggle began earlier than expected，（42）B，as our team center was suspended （禁赛） for the season，and two key members decided to（43）Afor some reason．At this point，dropping out probably passed through every player's mind，but in the end，we all stuck if out，（44）Bto work still harder．
Then there came a time when even our（45）Dand given up on us．Personally，I felt like it was（46）Dworthwhile giving my all．I thought，if even the coach doesn't believe in us，whyshould I？But just as my hope began to（47）A，a teammate called a meeting．He said，"Nobody thinks we are going to win，but，as teammates and friends，we（48）Ait to each other to go all out every game．"
It was that moment that（49）Cme how to be a leader．It hit me that I certainly didn't（50）Bthe role．As a leader you can never quit（51）Cthe team who looks up to you．It is one（52）Dto be named captain，feel great and go through the motions，but it is quite another to be a real captain and make sure everyone realizes their full（53）Aall the time．
I am sure it is great to go through without losing and bringing home awards．But in all honesty，I（54）Bthe fact that my team lost every game last year．It may not help me to become a better basketball player，but it already has made me a better leader，and （55）C．
From the spectators'point of view，last year's basketball（37）Dfor my high school team was nothing（38）Aof an embarrassment．An（39）B 0 and 20 is certainly nothing to be proud of，that season had a bigger impact on me than any other．As a team captain，I knew it probably wouldn't be the（40）Dyear，but did I ever think we would lose every game？Of course not．Since six of our top players had graduated，it was clear that we were a （n）（41）Cteam who would struggle．The struggle began earlier than expected，（42）B，as our team center was suspended （禁赛） for the season，and two key members decided to（43）Afor some reason．At this point，dropping out probably passed through every player's mind，but in the end，we all stuck if out，（44）Bto work still harder．
Then there came a time when even our（45）Dand given up on us．Personally，I felt like it was（46）Dworthwhile giving my all．I thought，if even the coach doesn't believe in us，whyshould I？But just as my hope began to（47）A，a teammate called a meeting．He said，"Nobody thinks we are going to win，but，as teammates and friends，we（48）Ait to each other to go all out every game．"
It was that moment that（49）Cme how to be a leader．It hit me that I certainly didn't（50）Bthe role．As a leader you can never quit（51）Cthe team who looks up to you．It is one（52）Dto be named captain，feel great and go through the motions，but it is quite another to be a real captain and make sure everyone realizes their full（53）Aall the time．
I am sure it is great to go through without losing and bringing home awards．But in all honesty，I（54）Bthe fact that my team lost every game last year．It may not help me to become a better basketball player，but it already has made me a better leader，and （55）C．
| 36．A．exciting | B．pleasant | C．tough | D．significant |
| 37．A．game | B．event | C．league | D．season |
| 38．A．short | B．full | C．lacking | D．sufficient |
| 39．A．as | B．while | C．since | D．now that |
| 40．A．most interesting | B．dullest | C．most difficult | D．easiest |
| 41．A．unique | B．adventurous | C．young | D．untrained |
| 42．A．meanwhile | B．though | C．instead | D．somehow |
| 43．A．quit | B．stay | C．resign | D．rest |
| 44．A．hoping | B．swearing | C．claiming | D．wishing |
| 45．A．fans | B．classmates | C．sponsor | D．coach |
| 46．A．only too | B．more than | C．not a little | D．no longer |
| 47．A．fade | B．gain | C．destroy | D．grow |
| 48．A．owe | B．think | C．demand | D．recommend |
| 49．A．reminded | B．told | C．taught | D．guided |
| 50．A．act | B．deserve | C．play | D．take |
| 51．A．with | B．alongside | C．on | D．for |
| 52．A．matter | B．aspect | C．issue | D．thing |
| 53．A．potential | B．goal | C．enthusiasm | D．confidence |
| 54．A．hate | B．treasure | C．admit | D．recognize |
| 55．A．character | B．captain | C．person | D．figure |
2．Having lived in the house for so long，we found our kitchen looked old．We decided it was time to （1）D the kitchen，and my husband and I were discussing （2）B colors．The children，sitting nearby，suddenly all spoke together："Not the measuring stick．"
"No，"I （3）A them．"Not the measuring stick．"
The measuring stick isn't a （an） （4）C stick but the kitchen side of the door between our kitchen and dining room．Along the edge we've （5）C each child's growth by making a mark showing his or her （6）Don every birthday．Over the years so many colored pens，pencils and markers have been used，that now，this white door is somewhat like an abstract painting．
Names and dates show different （7）B，and I can tell by the script（手迹） who measured whom．An eight-year-old measured her three-year-old sister，a grandchild measured her grandmother，my husband measured me．At the parties，when this door （8）D back and forth frequently，friends stop to （9）B the names and dates．When we ask if they would like to be always remembered，they usually smile （10）C and go back right up into place，（11）A to be measured．
Many of those listed on the door are still （12）A； some have stopped．Some remain with us only in （13）D．When my mother came to see my eldest daughter graduate from university，we measured her too．It was her last visit to our home．
We haven't （14）C the new kitchen color plan yet，but one thing is certain：whatever color we choose，the back of the kitchen door will always remain （15）C，with lots of names and dates in various colors．
"No，"I （3）A them．"Not the measuring stick．"
The measuring stick isn't a （an） （4）C stick but the kitchen side of the door between our kitchen and dining room．Along the edge we've （5）C each child's growth by making a mark showing his or her （6）Don every birthday．Over the years so many colored pens，pencils and markers have been used，that now，this white door is somewhat like an abstract painting．
Names and dates show different （7）B，and I can tell by the script（手迹） who measured whom．An eight-year-old measured her three-year-old sister，a grandchild measured her grandmother，my husband measured me．At the parties，when this door （8）D back and forth frequently，friends stop to （9）B the names and dates．When we ask if they would like to be always remembered，they usually smile （10）C and go back right up into place，（11）A to be measured．
Many of those listed on the door are still （12）A； some have stopped．Some remain with us only in （13）D．When my mother came to see my eldest daughter graduate from university，we measured her too．It was her last visit to our home．
We haven't （14）C the new kitchen color plan yet，but one thing is certain：whatever color we choose，the back of the kitchen door will always remain （15）C，with lots of names and dates in various colors．
| 1．A．restore | B．rebuild | C．sell | D．repaint |
| 2．A．comfortable | B．possible | C．available | D．changeable |
| 3．A．promised | B．repeated | C．followed | D．responded |
| 4．A．false | B．wonderful | C．actual | D．obvious |
| 5．A．kept | B．witnessed | C．recorded | D．accompanied |
| 6．A．age | B．weight | C．name | D．height |
| 7．A．information | B．handwriting | C．style | D．characteristic |
| 8．A．adjusts | B．shuts | C．opens | D．swings |
| 9．A．copy | B．read | C．appreciate | D．remove |
| 10．A．proudly | B．automatically | C．shyly | D．calmly |
| 11．A．ready | B．voluntary | C．able | D．unwilling |
| 12．A．growing | B．contributing | C．studying | D．working |
| 13．A．sight | B．design | C．amazement | D．memory |
| 14．A．concerned about | B．approved of | C．decided on | D．relied on |
| 15．A．fresh | B．old | C．white | D．original |
1．I graduated from a small public school in Michigan．One day，Mr．Ledy，our football coach，asked me to play football．I couldn't help （1）C：me，play football？I was six feet tall and was not much over a hundred pounds in weight．I thought that they might just need another fool to increase the number of the players．However，he was persistent（坚持的） and （2）DI joined the football team．That turned out to be one of my best decisions as a kid．
Our worst game ever was the one against Crystal Falls．They beat us 56to 6．Yeah!That was a football not a basketball （3）D．We played them again when we were seniors．They （4）Cus again but the score was much more （5）D，30to 20．
Coach Ledy would not let that （6）Aagain．He encouraged us to beat them，to pay them back．And we did so in the last game we played before （7）C．I had scored 6points alone in the game．Coach Ledy praised me．It was a huge （8）A for me．
Was I a football hero？Ha!Ha!No，I couldn't （9）B it without our team．The thing I learned through football was （10）C．We won as a team and we （11）D as a team．
I think Mr．Ledy would be proud of me if he knew that I had broken the athletic （12）Bat the University of Michigan．I'm （13）Bto him as I would not have today's honor without him．I'll （14）Alife's final war with pain to win the victory；I'll seek the lights of glory wholeheartedly and I'll （15）D on working hard so as not to let him down．
Our worst game ever was the one against Crystal Falls．They beat us 56to 6．Yeah!That was a football not a basketball （3）D．We played them again when we were seniors．They （4）Cus again but the score was much more （5）D，30to 20．
Coach Ledy would not let that （6）Aagain．He encouraged us to beat them，to pay them back．And we did so in the last game we played before （7）C．I had scored 6points alone in the game．Coach Ledy praised me．It was a huge （8）A for me．
Was I a football hero？Ha!Ha!No，I couldn't （9）B it without our team．The thing I learned through football was （10）C．We won as a team and we （11）D as a team．
I think Mr．Ledy would be proud of me if he knew that I had broken the athletic （12）Bat the University of Michigan．I'm （13）Bto him as I would not have today's honor without him．I'll （14）Alife's final war with pain to win the victory；I'll seek the lights of glory wholeheartedly and I'll （15）D on working hard so as not to let him down．
| 1．A．shouting | B．screaming | C．laughing | D．applauding |
| 2．A．immediately | B．secretly | C．personally | D．finally |
| 3．A．game | B．team | C．story | D．score |
| 4．A．won | B．met | C．beat | D．fought |
| 5．A．accessible | B．comfortable | C．sensitive | D．acceptable |
| 6．A．happen | B．succeed | C．spread | D．develop |
| 7． A．liberation | B．closing | C．graduation | D．school |
| 8． A．honor | B．hope | C．success | D．surprise |
| 9．A．take | B．manage | C．solve | D．explain |
| 10．A．courage | B．devotion | C．teamwork | D．contribution |
| 11．A．united | B．appeared | C．prepared | D．lost |
| 12．A．time | B．record | C．date | D．ability |
| 13．A．pleased | B．grateful | C．hopeful | D．loyal |
| 14．A．fight | B．join | C．desire | D．enjoy |
| 15．A．take | B．put | C．rely | D．keep |
19．How often do you let other people's nonsense change your mood？Do you let a bad driver，impolite waiter，rude boss，or an insensitive employee（36）Byour day？
Sixteen years ago I learned this lesson in the back of a New York City taxi cab．One day I was in a taxi and we headed（37）Dthe airport．We were driving in the（38）Blane when suddenly a black car drove out of a parking space right in front of us．My taxi driver slammed on his（39）A．slide sideways．and at the very last moment our car stopped and（40）Cthe other car by just inches!The driver of the ther car，the guy who almost caused a big accident，looked around and started（41）Dat us．
My taxi driver just（42）Band waved at the guy．And I mean，he was（43）Aso I said，"Why did you just do that？This guy almost ruined your car and sent us to the hospital!"This is when my taxi driver aught me what I now call"The Law of the Garbage Truck"．
He said，"Many people are like garbage trucks．They run around full of（44）C，fall of frustration，full of anger，and fall of disappointment．As their garbage （45）Dup，they need a place to dump it and sometimes they'll dump it on（46）C．Don't take it personally； Just smile，wave，wish them well，and move on．Believe me．You'll be（47）B．"
So I started thinking，how often do I let Garbage Trucks run right over me？And how often do I take their garbage and（48）Ait to other people at work，at home，or on the street？It was then that I said，"I don't want their garbage and I'm not going to spread it anymore．"
Life's too short to wake up in the morning with（49）D．The mark of your success is how quickly you can refocus on what's （50）Bin your life．See，Roy Baumeister，a psychology researcher from Florida State University，found in his extensive research that you（51）Abad things more often than good things in your life．You store the bad memories more easily，and you（52）Cthem more frequently．So love the people who treat you right．Ignore the ones who don't．Life is ten percent what you make it and ninety percent how you（53）Bit!The odds are against you when a Garbage Truck comes your way，but when you follow"The Law of the Garbage Truck"，you take back control of your life．You make room for the good by（54）Ago of the bad．
Have a Garbage-Free Day!Have a marvelous，garbage-free day!The seeds you plant today （55）Dthe harvest you reap tomorrow．
Sixteen years ago I learned this lesson in the back of a New York City taxi cab．One day I was in a taxi and we headed（37）Dthe airport．We were driving in the（38）Blane when suddenly a black car drove out of a parking space right in front of us．My taxi driver slammed on his（39）A．slide sideways．and at the very last moment our car stopped and（40）Cthe other car by just inches!The driver of the ther car，the guy who almost caused a big accident，looked around and started（41）Dat us．
My taxi driver just（42）Band waved at the guy．And I mean，he was（43）Aso I said，"Why did you just do that？This guy almost ruined your car and sent us to the hospital!"This is when my taxi driver aught me what I now call"The Law of the Garbage Truck"．
He said，"Many people are like garbage trucks．They run around full of（44）C，fall of frustration，full of anger，and fall of disappointment．As their garbage （45）Dup，they need a place to dump it and sometimes they'll dump it on（46）C．Don't take it personally； Just smile，wave，wish them well，and move on．Believe me．You'll be（47）B．"
So I started thinking，how often do I let Garbage Trucks run right over me？And how often do I take their garbage and（48）Ait to other people at work，at home，or on the street？It was then that I said，"I don't want their garbage and I'm not going to spread it anymore．"
Life's too short to wake up in the morning with（49）D．The mark of your success is how quickly you can refocus on what's （50）Bin your life．See，Roy Baumeister，a psychology researcher from Florida State University，found in his extensive research that you（51）Abad things more often than good things in your life．You store the bad memories more easily，and you（52）Cthem more frequently．So love the people who treat you right．Ignore the ones who don't．Life is ten percent what you make it and ninety percent how you（53）Bit!The odds are against you when a Garbage Truck comes your way，but when you follow"The Law of the Garbage Truck"，you take back control of your life．You make room for the good by（54）Ago of the bad．
Have a Garbage-Free Day!Have a marvelous，garbage-free day!The seeds you plant today （55）Dthe harvest you reap tomorrow．
| 36．A．enrich | B．ruin | C．spare | D．obtain |
| 37．A．through | B．to | C．in | D．for |
| 38．A．latter | B．right | C．opposite | D．free |
| 39．A．brakes | B．door | C．window | D．seat |
| 40．A．knocked | B．overtook | C．missed | D．lost |
| 41．A．laughing | B．throwing | C．glancing | D．yelling |
| 42．A．wondered | B．smiled | C．ignored | D．guessed |
| 43．A．friendly | B．angry | C．tired | D．disappointed |
| 44．A．expectation | B．passengers | C．garbage | D．goods |
| 45．A．turns | B．pushes | C．holds | D．piles |
| 46．A．roads | B．children | C．you | D．dustbin |
| 47．A．upset | B．happy | C．pitiful | D．frightened |
| 48．A．spread | B．share | C．explain | D．contribute |
| 49．A．surprise | B．pleasure | C．doubt | D．regrets |
| 50．A．funny | B．important | C．strange | D．embarrassing |
| 51．A．remember | B．forget | C．value | D．appreciate |
| 52．A．enjoy | B．exchange | C．recall | D．imagine |
| 53．A．inspire | B．take | C．mend | D．notice |
| 54．A．letting | B．consisting | C．making | D．dreaming |
| 55．A．distinguish | B．deserve | C．deliver | D．determine |
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76．B
It's been said that"everybody lies sometimes．"And it's true．Everyone does lie from time to time．Men lie； women lie．Husbands lie，friends lie，wives lie，and believe it or not，your mother might lie．A recent study showed that 91% of all people lie on a regular basis，and people tell at least 13major lies a week．
77．A
The first thing one has to understand about lying is that there are at least five different types of liars：the model of absolute integrity，the real straight-shooter，the pragmatic fibber，a real Pinocchio and the compulsive liar，according to sociologist-anthropologist Dr．Gina Graham Scott．
78．E
Dr．Robert G．Newby，the professor of sociology at Central Michigan University，believes that men are more likely to tell lies than women．"Men are more concerned about how they present themselves in public，the impression they make on people and things like that，"he says．"Men are always trying to impress people in the work and want to make sure that their presentation of self is one that makes them look good．"Women，on the other hand，Dr．Newby believes，are more private people and their relationship tends to be more interpersonal，as opposed to having to put on a public face．Women are more vulnerable and they are not as likely to try to pull the wool over someone's eyes like men．
79．C
Dr Ronn Elmore，Los Angeles-based relationship counselor，does not believe that lying is based on gender．"But I believe when women lie it tends to be verbal，plain old-fashioned lies with words．But when men lie，it is often nonverbal，as in doing what he says he would not do or not doing what he promised he would do．Either way，it's a lie，male version or female version．It is the opposite of integrity．"
80．F
Vesta Callender，psychotherapist in New York City，also agrees that one's gender does not play a role in lying，but men and women do lie differently．"Women concern more while lying．They plan better，"Callender notes．"They create a history around the lie，and they try to project into the future what might happen if the lie is detected．With a woman，a lie has a beginning，a middle and an end．It's a real entanglement．"Callender believes that men"tend to lie for the moment or to get out of a situation．Men think less about how the lie can be detected．"
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| A．Classifications of liars B．Everyone lies，more or less C．Gender impacts ways of lying D．Purposes of telling lies E．Reason why men lie more F．Women，more careful liars |
It's been said that"everybody lies sometimes．"And it's true．Everyone does lie from time to time．Men lie； women lie．Husbands lie，friends lie，wives lie，and believe it or not，your mother might lie．A recent study showed that 91% of all people lie on a regular basis，and people tell at least 13major lies a week．
77．A
The first thing one has to understand about lying is that there are at least five different types of liars：the model of absolute integrity，the real straight-shooter，the pragmatic fibber，a real Pinocchio and the compulsive liar，according to sociologist-anthropologist Dr．Gina Graham Scott．
78．E
Dr．Robert G．Newby，the professor of sociology at Central Michigan University，believes that men are more likely to tell lies than women．"Men are more concerned about how they present themselves in public，the impression they make on people and things like that，"he says．"Men are always trying to impress people in the work and want to make sure that their presentation of self is one that makes them look good．"Women，on the other hand，Dr．Newby believes，are more private people and their relationship tends to be more interpersonal，as opposed to having to put on a public face．Women are more vulnerable and they are not as likely to try to pull the wool over someone's eyes like men．
79．C
Dr Ronn Elmore，Los Angeles-based relationship counselor，does not believe that lying is based on gender．"But I believe when women lie it tends to be verbal，plain old-fashioned lies with words．But when men lie，it is often nonverbal，as in doing what he says he would not do or not doing what he promised he would do．Either way，it's a lie，male version or female version．It is the opposite of integrity．"
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Vesta Callender，psychotherapist in New York City，also agrees that one's gender does not play a role in lying，but men and women do lie differently．"Women concern more while lying．They plan better，"Callender notes．"They create a history around the lie，and they try to project into the future what might happen if the lie is detected．With a woman，a lie has a beginning，a middle and an end．It's a real entanglement．"Callender believes that men"tend to lie for the moment or to get out of a situation．Men think less about how the lie can be detected．"