Question

It was a lovely day at the park and Stella Bianchi was enjoying the sunshine with her two children when a young boy, aged about four, approached her two-year-old son and pushed him to the ground.

¡°I¡¯d watched him for a little while and my son was the fourth or fifth child he¡¯d pushed,¡± she says. ¡°I went over to them, picked up my son, turned to the boy and said, firmly, ¡®No, we don¡¯t push.¡¯¡± What happened next was unexpected.

¡°The boy¡¯s mother ran toward me from across the park,¡± Stella says, ¡°I thought she was coming over to apologize, but instead she started shouting at me for blaming her child. All I did was let him know his behavior was unacceptable. Was I supposed to sit back while her kid did whatever he wanted and hurt other children?¡±

Getting your own children to play nice is difficult enough. Dealing with other people¡¯s children has become a hidden danger.

In my house, jumping on the sofa is not allowed. In my sister¡¯s house it¡¯s encouraged. I find myself saying ¡°no¡± a lot when her kids are over at mine. That¡¯s OK between sisters but becomes dangerous when you¡¯re talking to the children of friends or acquaintances.

¡°Kids aren¡¯t all raised the same,¡± agrees Professor Naomi White of Monash University.¡± But there is still an idea that they¡¯re the property of the parent. We see our children as a mirror of ourselves, so if you¡¯re saying that my child is behaving improperly, then that¡¯s somehow a criticism(ÅúÆÀ) of me.¡±

In those situations, it¡¯s difficult to know whether to approach the child directly or the parent first. There are two opinions.

¡°I¡¯d go to the child first,¡± says Andrew Fuller, author of Tricky Kids. ¡°Usually a quiet reminder that ¡®we don¡¯t do that here¡¯ is enough. Kids have antennae (Ö±¾õ) for how to behave in different settings.¡±

He points out bringing it up with the parent first may make them feel careless, which could cause problems. Of course, approaching the child first can bring its own headaches, too.

This is why White recommends that you approach the parents first. Raise your concerns with the parents and ask them to deal with it,¡± she says.   

Asked how to approach a parent in this situation, psychologist Meredith Fuller answers: ¡°Explain your needs as well as stressing the importance of the friendship. Start with something like: ¡®I know you¡¯ll think I¡¯m silly but in my house I don¡¯t want¡­¡¯¡± 

1.What did Stella Bianchi expect the young boy¡¯s mother to do when she talked to him?

       A. Make an apology             B. Come over to stop her     

       C. Blame her own boy          D. Take her own boy away

2.What does the author say about dealing with other people¡¯s children?

       A. It¡¯s important not to hurt them in any way

       B. It¡¯s no use trying to stop their wrongdoing

       C. It¡¯s advisable to treat them as one¡¯s own kids

       D. It¡¯s possible for one to get into lots of trouble

3.According to professor Naomi White, when one¡¯s kids are criticized, their parents will probably feel ______.

       A. discouraged       B. hurt    C. puzzled      D. affected

4. What should one do when seeing other people¡¯s kids misbehave according to Andrew Fuller?

       A. Talk to them directly in a mild way  B. Complain to their parents politely

       C. Simply leave them alone            D. Punish them lightly

 

Answer 1

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1.A

2.D

3.B

4.A

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