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20£®Have you ever wondered what goes through your mind when you choose where to sit in a new classroom£¿Or in a waiting room full of strangers£¿Or on a bus£¿Researchers have found out some interesting facts£®£¨36£©DGirls sit by girls and boys sit by boys£®Adults sit together and young people choose another young person to sit near£®But it goes further than this£®£¨37£©E Peple with glasses are more likely to sit near other people with glasses£®People with long hair sit closer to other people with long hair£®
We seem to believe that people with similar habits or hobbies will share similar attitude and we are more likely to be accepted by people like ourselves or even£¬we think we may be safer with people who look like us£®Sometimes that's true but it's a pity if we always stick to the same people£¬the same group£®The danger in always staying in our comfort zone £¨ÊæÊÊÇø£©is that we just recycle the same opinions£¬the same tastes and the same ideas£®£¨38£©G£®
When we always stick to the same people£¬how can we ever break down the barriers which prevent us from getting to know people with different ideas£¿And how can we avoid the ignorance £¨ÎÞÖª£©£¬which too often leads to prejudice £¨Æ«¼û£© and even fear£¿If instead you want to live in a society that opens to changes and new things and different opinions£¬£¨39£©B£®
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Follow the four tips to avoid the common mistakes that turn good roommate relationships sour£º
You've heard it before£ºCommunication is key£®If something happens£¬sit down with your roommate and have a face-to-face conversation£®I've seen roommate relationships fall apart because something happens and£¬instead of talking to each other£¬the two start complaining about their roommates behind their backs£®This method creates nothing but awkward situations and general unhappiness£®
Some roommates become the best of friends£¬and some don't£®Don't put pressure on yourself or your roommate to reach this level£¬especially when you first meet£®Remember£¬you'v e trying to make a new friend£¬not scare your roommate away£®And if your roommate doesn't end up being your best friend£¬don't worry about it£®My first-year roommate and I didn't end up becoming best friends£¬but we are friends---and I couldn't have been happier with my roommate situation£®
Everyone hates dirty places£®If you make a mess£¬don't leave it for someone else to clean up£®This should go without saying£®Don't be a slob £¨ÀÁºº£©£®Make sure you do your fair share of dormitory chores£¬such as taking out the trash and recycling£¬and cleaning the washroom£®Or£¬at last£¬just don't bury your roommate in your clothes and garbage and you should be all right£®Most people I've encountered£¨ÔâÓö£©in college are messy£®You don't have all the time in the world to clean your room and keep it organized£®But being considerate with where you put your stuff will help you avoid conflict£®
If you want to lose a friend£¬borrow everything without asking£®If you want to keep the relationship going£¬show you roommate that you have respect for what is his or hers by asking first£®Even if you both agree to share everything£¬you should still ask whenever you want to reach for snacks£¬clothes£¬supplies and anything else that you don't own£®An d upon moving into the dorm£¬you need to make clear which items you both feel comfortable sharing£®
If you want a good roommate£¬you have to be a good roommate£¬Yes£¬there are exceptions£®Sometimes being a good person and reaching out to your roommate simply isn't enough£®Sometimes you get stuck with someone who has tons of negative energy or just isn't happy and doesn't want any sort of relationship£®Whatever the case may be£¬the name of the game is always the same£ºrespect£®If you can't give it£¬you definitely don't deserve to get it£®
Four £¨66£©Tips/Suggestions/Waysto Be a Great Roommate
Dormitory life is a usually one of the most cherished parts of one's time at college£®Get ready to avoid the common mistakes£® | |
Have a friendly conversation | Instead of burying your feelings or £¨67£©complainingabout each other£¬you'd better communicate with your roommate frankly to get along well with each other£® |
Don't expect the roommates to be your best friends£® | Sharing the same dorm doesn't necessarily mean you have to be best friends for each other£¬but it's better to make a friend than an enemy to experience college £¨68£©happily/positively/smoothly |
Clean up after yourself£®Or£¬at least£¬keep your mess on your side£® | It is believed that in a shared space£¬all roommates should help in keeping the room tidy instead of putting the burden on just one while the others do whatever they want£® |
Never take anything£¨ 69£©withoutasking£® | To keep belongings safe and avoid fighting late£¬let each other know in a polite way if you have to share the other's items£®This rule applies to any situation£® |
If your work fails to win you a good roommate and you get stuck with someone who doesn't appreciate your kindness£¬it is not the end of the world£®No matter what happens£¬showing £¨70£©respectalways make sense£® |