题目内容
Only then______ what she meant.
A．I understood B．have I understood
C．had I understood D．did I understand
D
I failed in the final examination last term and only then_____ the importance of studies.
| A．I realized | B．I had realized | C．had I realized | D．did I realize |
As you probably know, J．Paul Getty was one of the richest and moat successful American industrialists in history．Quite ambitious from an early age, Getty made his first million at age 23 in 1916．He later went on to found the Getty oil company, In 1957, Fortune magazine named him the richest living American and in 1966, the Guinness Book of Records named him as the world's richest private citizen．
Although he is highly regarded by vast numbers of people for his financial success, as a younger man, his drive to acquire power and money had a detrimental impact on other aspects of his life, particularly in his relationships with women．He was, at one point quoted assaying "A lasting relationship with a woman is only possible if you are a business failure．” He married five times, having children with four of these wives．He couldn’t seem to keep a marriage going for very long．His obsession with having a fortune and power alienated （疏远） each of his wives, eventually driving them away． His marriage with his first wife Jeanette lasted for only three years, with Allene for two years, Adolphine, four years, Ann, four years, and finally Louise, nineteen years．
Perhaps as a young man, Getty was willing to pay whatever price for financial success．Yet Paul came to feel some regret in regard to his life priorities as he approached his later years when he Wrote: "I hate and regret the failure of my marriages．I would gladly give all of my millions for just one lasting marriage success．"
At the end of Getty's life, all of the wealth that he had got meant very little to him．It was only then that he became wise enough to understand what really mattered most．Despite all of his accomplishments, he died with great regret．
It' s a sad story and a cautionary tale for those of us who may have chosen to make career building our highest priority（优先权）, thereby ignoring our relationships．Like any other living organism, relationships require care and attention in order to grow．Even the strongest relationships will he damaged, if there is not enough care．
【小题1】What is Paragraph l mainly about?
| A．People' s admiration for J．Paul Getty． |
| B．How J．Paul Getty led his life． |
| C．J． Paul Getty's achievements． |
| D．How J．Paul Getty became rich． |
| A．harmful | B．interesting | C．positive | D．demanding |
| A．Ann | B．Adolphine | C．Allene | D．Louise |
| A．business | B．politics | C．marriage | D．education |
| A．Young people should focus an career - building． |
| B．The strongest relationships between people won't be damaged． |
| C．We should attend to the needs in relationships． |
| D．Successful people don't care about relationships with others． |
D
When Mary Moore began her high school in 1951, her mother told her, "Be sure and take a typing course so when this show business thing doesn't work out, you'll have something to rely on." Mary responded in typical teenage fashion. From that moment on, "the very last thing I ever thought about doing was taking a typing course," she recalls.
The show business thing worked out, of course. In her career, Mary won many awards. Only recently, when she began to write Growing Up Again, did she regret ignoring her mom," I don't know how to use a computer," she admits.
Unlike her 1995 autobiography, After All, her second book is less about life as an award-winning actress and more about living with diabetes (糖尿病). All the money from the book is intended for the Juvenile Diabetes Research Foundation (JDRF), an organization she serves as international chairman. "I felt there was a need for a book like this," she says." I didn't want to lecture, but I wanted other diabetics to know that things get better when we're self-controlled and do our part in managing the disease."
But she hasn't always practiced what she teaches. In her book, she describes that awful day, almost 40 years ago, when she received two pieces of life-changing news. First, she had lost the baby she was carrying, and second, tests showed that she had diabetes. In a childlike act, she left the hospital and treated herself to a box of doughnuts (甜甜圈). Years would pass before she realized she had to grow up ---again---and take control of her diabetes, not let it control her. Only then did she kick her three-pack-a-day cigarette habit, overcome her addiction to alcohol, and begin to follow a balanced diet.
Although her disease has affected her eyesight and forced her to the sidelines of the dance floor, she refuses to fall into self-pity. "Everybody on earth can ask, 'why me?' about something or other," she insists. "It doesn't do any good. No one is immune (免疫的) to heartache, pain, and disappointments. Sometimes we can make things better by helping others. I've come to realize the importance of that as I've grown up this second time. I want to speak out and be as helpful as I can be."
【小题1】We can know that before 1995 Mary ___________.
| A．had two books published |
| B．received many career awards |
| C．knew how to use a computer |
| D．supported the JDRF by writing |
| A．living with diabetes |
| B．successful show business |
| C．service for an organization |
| D．remembrance of her mother |
| A．lost control of herself | B．began a balanced diet |
| C．meant to get a treatment | D．behaved in an adult way |
| A．Mary feels pity for herself. |
| B．Mary has recovered from her disease. |
| C．Mary wants to help others as much as possible. |
| D．Mary determines to go back to the dance floor. |
每空限填1个单词。
How to be a good listener
Everyone loves a good listener. But there are more reasons to develop the skill of listening than to win hearts or popularity contests.
Listening heals hurts and builds bridges. It gives us the ability to understand and empathize, to view the world from our own point. It can bring us wisdom over and above mere intelligence. But most importantly, it allows us to give the people around us the gifts they crave (渴望) most—a sense of worth.
As it turns out, there’s more to good listening than just keeping quiet and allowing someone to speak. Effective listening is actually a combination of two key communication skills: listening and verifying (确认).
Even when we’ve managed to hear a person’s entire message, we often interpret it wrong—according to our own understanding, experience, or prejudice. As an effective listener, your goal is to hear and absorb what another has to say……in exactly the way they mean it to be understood. Only then can you respond properly. This is much easier read than done, so here are a few helpful tips:
1. Give the speaker your full attention.
Stop talking and remove all distractions. Turn off the TV, your phone, or computer. Watch your body language. The way you look at the speaker, or the way you stand or sit, makes a huge difference. The right listening body language communicates that we are listening openly and attentively, and puts the other person at ease.
2. Be patient.
Not everyone is a gifted speaker. Some people take longer to find the right word to make a point. Others are too worried to get their message across properly. If necessary, ask the speaker to explain further. It will help him / her speak more exactly and it will help you hear and understand better.
3. Keep your emotions in check.
If what someone is saying creates an emotional response in you, make an extra effort to listen carefully. When we’re angry, frightened or upset, we often miss key parts of what is being said.
4. Hold your fire.
Don’t jump to conclusions immediately. A good listener doesn’t react until comprehension is complete. If you respond in a way that makes the other person defensive, even if you “win” the argument, you may lose something far more valuable.
5. Even if you think you understand. VERIFY.
Never assume you got the message right. Pause, think about what was said, and then ask “Is this what you meant?” or “Am I understanding this right?”
6. Empathize
Take a moment to stand in the other person’s shoes, to look at the situation from his / her point of view……especially when you’re being told something personal or painful, or something you strongly disagree with. The more shoes you are able to successfully stand in within your life time, the less puzzled you’ll find your life and relationships to be.
| 【小题1】__________ of good listening | 【小题2】__________ hurts. Building 【小题3】__________. Allowing us to【小题4】__________ and empathize, and viewing the world in an all-round way. Bringing us wisdom over and above mere intelligence. 【小题5】_________ the people around us feel worthy. |
| Components of effective listening | ● Good listening consists of two key communication skills: 【小题6】__________ and verifying. |
| 【小题7】__________ to be a good listener | Listening to the speaker 【小题8】_________. Trying to be a 【小题9】 _______ listener. Avoiding being affected by your emotions. Waiting before you take【小题10】_________. Verifying. Empathizing |