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Whichever it is, many parents today readily admit to buying off their children, who get goodies(好东西) for anything from behaving in a restaurant to sleeping all night in their own beds.
That’s what worries parenting experts.
“I think that reward systems have a time and a place and work really well in certain situations,” says Marcy Safyer, director of the Adelphi University Institute for Parenting.
“But what often gets lost for people is being able to figure out how to communicate to their kids that doing the thing is rewarding enough,” Safyer says.
Parents and experts alike agree that the dynamic(动力) is partly a reflection of the world we live in. It’s unrealistic to think a parent wouldn’t reward their children with material things sometimes, says Robin Lanzi, a clinical psychologist and mother of four who’s the research director at the Center on Health and Education at Georgetown University.
“But you want to make sure that they match the behavior, so it’s not something huge for something small,” Lanzi says.
She recalls hearing about a father who offered his child a Nintendo Wii game system for scoring a couple goals in a soccer game.
Elizabeth Powell, a mother of two young daughters in Austin, Texas, knows what she means.
“You want to raise them in a way that they’re respectful and appreciate things,” Powell says of her children. “But sometimes, you wonder now if kids appreciate even a new pair of shoes. ”
- 1.
Parenting experts are worried that ____ .
- A.today’s children are fed up with material things
- B.parents are rewarding their kids improperly
- C.today’s children are more and more demanding(苛求的)
- D.there is lack of communication between parents and children
- A.
- 2.
What Safyer says suggests that ____ .
- A.reward systems are quite limited in developing abilities
- B.reward systems work well regardless of(不管) time and place
- C.reward systems are still not made full use of to develop abilities
- D.reward systems are often used at the wrong time and place
- A.
- 3.
What can we learn from what Robin Lanzi says?
- A.She holds a different opinion from other parenting experts.
- B.She thinks children can’t behave well without being rewarded.
- C.She holds a similar belief to Safyer and gives further explanation.
- D.She doesn’t believe in rewarding children for good behavior.
- A.
- 4.
The father who offered his child a Nintendo Wii game system can be regarded as
_____.- A.over-rewarding his child
- B.giving his child proper reward
- C.respecting and appreciating his child
- D.giving something small for something huge
- A.
I lived in Dallas, Texas nearly all my life with my mom, dad and older sister. We were 41 to respect others, value education, and get all that we could out of life. My parents always say, “ 42 hard and the world is yours.” They are never without a 43 word of advice or a bit of encouragement when life gets tough.
My parents always 44 me to go to college. However, when I 45 at 16 years old that I’d rather get married to a man than go to college, they 46 stopped telling me they loved me and I could anything I wanted to. 47 , they persuaded me. I graduated from high school and currently 48 the University of Oklahoma studying medicine. I want to make the 49 a better place to live in.
Every time I call home to tell them about a 50 I received in Chemistry Lab or Microeconomics or whichever 51 it is that I’m working hardest for at the moment, they tell me how 52 of me they are. I know there are college kids out there that have no one to call home when they an “A” on a project and I feel incredibly 53 to have my parents.
Don’t get me wrong: We’ve had our share of 54 . I was the angry teenager and they were the awful 55 that wouldn’t let me stay out all night or let me get my tongue pierced(扎洞).But somehow, we 56 to work through those issues. They never 57 loving in me or believing in me.
I 58 everything I am to my parents. Without their 59 love and encouragement, I wouldn’t believe I can change the world. My parents taught me to always 60 for what I believe in. So I’m working toward something really great and can only hope I continue to make them proud.
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Most of us long for relationships in which we are loved and accepted. Our hearts’ desire is to give and receive love in relationships that make us feel that even if others disagree with what we do or say, they still love us, accept us, and appreciate what we give to the world. While it would be wonderful to have these types of relationships with all people, we know that’s hard to do. However, we can have such relationships with some others, but only when we first have them with ourselves—and, strangely, this is often the hardest relationship of all.
Do you love yourself? You may think you do, but do you really? There’s only one way to find out— by taking a close look at what you think, say, and do. You may not like some of what you find, but if you are serious about really loving yourself, you can use this insight to do some positive inner work. Here’re three ways for gaining greater personal insight for deeper love:
Listen Closely to Your Thoughts
Your thoughts will determine your actions. One thing helping you to listen to your thoughts is keeping a journal. It is not necessary for you to write in it every day, but it helps to record various insights you gain as you go about your life. Instead of using a big notebook, you might use a small notepad that you can keep in your pocket for easy access to record your thoughts as they occur to you. Whichever method you choose, what’s most important is that you write your thoughts down. It will help you know what’s in your heart.
Be Honest with Yourself
To do this, you should pay attention to your actions. Actions speak louder than words, and they always tell the truth. If you say you love your job, but your actions say otherwise, which do you think is more reliable? On the other hand, if you say you’re not good at a certain job, but your actions say otherwise, that’s also important. What do you do with this insight? You can use it to make more positive choices in your life. By being honest with yourself, you will act according to truth instead of just what you tell yourself.
Take Quiet Time to Listen to Your Inner Voice
This is similar to the first point, but it takes a step further— beyond the natural mind to the heart that cannot be seen. You may want to use your quiet time to think deeply. However you use this time, the key is to shut out all of the noise around you by focusing deep within yourself. Breathing deeply during quiet time will also help you focus. I know it’s hard to find quiet time during a particularly busy day, but it’s so important— even if it’s just 10 minutes a day and you have to hide somewhere to get it. Quiet time can really make a difference in your life.
Despite what your mind may be telling you, you can have love with no limits. The key is to unconditionally love yourself first.
【小题1】. By looking deep into what we think, say, and do, we can .
A.know whether we really love ourselves |
B.appreciate what we give to the world |
C.realize what type of relationship we long for |
D.know whether we are loved and accepted by others |
A.do some positive inner work |
B.keep a journal wherever you go |
C.look closely at what others say about us |
D.pay attention to our thoughts |
A.focus our attention on our jobs |
B.make more positive choices in our life |
C.act according to the truth |
D.tell the differences between our words and our actions |
A.be honest with ourselves anytime |
B.give our love to others generously |
C.love ourselves unconditionally |
D.take quiet time and think deeply |