题目内容
Many women write to me perplexed (困惑的)about why they,can’t form close friendships. They try new approaches, put themselves in all the right places, see therapists, and read relevant self-help books. They consider themselves interesting, loyal, kind, and friend-worthy people. But for reasons unknown to them, they have a tough time forming intimate relationships. Many admit to not having even one close friend.
A recent study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology offers some clues as to how both nature (personality) and nurture (experience) impact our friendships. Researchers at the University of Virginia and University of Toronto,Mississauga studied more than 7,000 American adults between the ages of 20 and 75 over a period of ten years , looking at the number of times these adults moved during childhood. Their study, like prior ones, showed a link between residential mobility and adult well-being: The more times participants moved as children, the poorer the quality of their adult social relationships.
But digging deeper, the researchers found that personality — specifically being introverted (内向的)or extroverted (外向的) — could either intensify or buffer (缓冲) the effect of moving to a new town or neighborhood during childhood. The negative impact of more moves during childhood was far greater for introverts compared to extroverts.
"Moving a lot makes it difficult for people to maintain long-term close relationships," stated Dr. Shigehiro Oishi, the first author of the study, in a press release from the American Psychological Association, "This might not be a serious problem for outgoing people who can make friends quickly and easily. Less outgoing people have a harder time making new friends. "
Families often have to relocate -- across town, across the country, or across the globe. Yet, in many cases, their kids and young adolescents haven’t yet built up a bank of friendships. So the conventional wisdom is to try to minimize moves for the sake of your child, whenever possible, and to move at the end of the academic year.
64The passage is written mainly to .
A. offer advice to women on how to form intimate relationships
B. tell us how to help children make friends
C. explain how moves during childhood affect children
D. explain how nature and nurture impact our friendships
65. Which of the following is true according to the second paragraph?
A.The more people moved during childhood, the better they adjust to society.
B. The more people moved during childhood, the more friends they have.
C. People who moved less during childhood have better social relationships.
D. There is no link between residential mobility and adult well-being.
66. We learn from the fourth paragraph that moves during childhood .
A. are a big problem for both introverts and extroverts
B. have no impact on an outgoing person
C. have a bigger impact on an introverted person compared to extroverts
D. help children better adapt to new environment
67. We can infer from the passage that .
A.there is some way to minimize the impact of moves during childhood on children
B. we can move when children have made a lot of friends
C. the impact of moves will disappear when one reaches adulthood
D. our friendships are mainly affected by our nurture
DABC
Several years ago, I had a huge falling out with one of my best friends. So huge, in fact, that now I can’t even remember what happened.
In the past nine years, I’ve seen her twice, and each time we’ve been polite but distant. And that troubles me because we were once inseparable. I’d like nothing more than to go back nine years, and continue our friendship. But how? How do you reconnect with friends you’ve lost throughout the years?
Linking to your past
The desire to reconnect with lost friends isn’t unusual. Why? Because friends link us to the past. “Friends from years ago are custodians (监护人) of our past,” says Sandy Sheehy.
Although you can share information about your past with friends you’ve met recently, you don’t have a shared history with them. So you wind up only telling them about your past, rather than sharing it with them.
But many people never try to reconnect. Women especially have trouble taking the first step. Shyness or fear that the other person doesn’t want to reconnect often stops many women. And that shouldn’t be. Your friends probably want to be in touch with you as much as you want to be in touch with them.
Searching for friends
Fortunately, finding lost friends isn’t as difficult as it once was, thanks to tools like the Internet. Our experts offer these suggestions for locating contact information:
Search Internet sites designed to locate people like classmates.com and switchboard.com.
Contact your high school or college alumni (校友) office to request current address information.
Surf online yellow pages. Check current phone records from your friend’s hometown.
Network with other friends who might have known your friend.
Get in touch with any of her relatives, if you know where they live. If you know where she works, find the company’s website and search the directory of personnel.
【小题1】What is the subject discussed in the passage?
| A.How to make new friends. |
| B.How to rebuild friendship. |
| C.How to develop healthy friendship. |
| D.How to keep in touch with friends. |
| A.years ago old friends kept something for us |
| B.in the past old friends took care of us |
| C.old friends are part of our life history |
| D.old friends know what wrongs we did |
| A.Lack of money. | B.Busy time. | C.Regret and shame. | D.Fear and shyness. |
| A.By asking other friends of the information on your lost friends. |
| B.By searching your friends’ telephone number on the Net. |
| C.By asking the local post office about your friends’ new address. |
| D.By putting an advertisement in your friends’ local town. |