We often focus on building relationships with others
that we forget the essential first step: being friends of ourselves. _____1.___.
How can we have good relationships with others if we don’t even have good
relationships with ourselves?
The problem might be worse than we expect. Maybe we
don’t like ourselves without realizing it. Here is a simple checklist: Is there
anything you don’t like about yourself from these
lists?
Your past: Maybe you have made mistakes in the
past which you feel bad about. ___2.___. Even if that happened in distant past,
your subconscious mind still has a reason not to like yourself.
Your background: You might wish that you were
born in different family, or that you have different background. ____3._____.
They seem to get whatever they want effortlessly because of their background.
Your personal traits(特点):
You might have some personality traits that you don’t like. For example, you
may be an introvert(内向) and you don’t like it; you wish you were
an extrovert.
Others might have better achievements than you, and no
matter how hard you tried, it might seem impossible for you to match them.
______4.______. Is there anything that resonate(产生共鸣)
with you? All these give reasons to you not to like yourself. That in turn
makes it difficult for you to be a good friend to yourself.
______5.______. Here are some tips:
Forgive yourself
Accept things you can’t change
Focus on your strengths
Write your success stories
Stop comparing yourself with others
Always be true to yourself
A.That is the
crucial(关键) first step if we are to have good
relationships with others
B.You might
then think that it’s because you are not smart enough or don’t have enough talents
C.You can do
something to improve the relationships with others
D.Fortunately,
there are always things you can do to fix the situation
E. You might be disappointed with yourself on why you
make such mistakes
F. Sometimes you might not believe yourself
G. Maybe you could not accept the fact that you are
not as lucky as others