题目内容
To forgive may be wonderful, but no one ever said it was easy. When someone has deeply hurt you, it can be extremely difficult to let go of your anger.
___1___ Indeed, research has shown that people who forgive report more energy, better appetite and better sleep patterns. “People who forgive show less anger and more hopefulness,” says Dr. Frederic Luskin, who wrote the book Forgive for Good.
So how do you start the healing? Try following these steps:
Calm yourself. Take a couple of breaths and think of something that gives you pleasure: a beautiful scene in nature, someone you love.
Don’t wait for an apology. ___2___ Luskin says, “They may have wanted to hurt you or they just don’t see things the same way. So if you wait for people to apologize, you could be waiting a very long time.” Keep in mind that forgiveness does not necessarily mean coming to terms with the person who upsets you or forgiving his or her action after your quarrel.
___3___ Mentally going over your hurt gives power to the person who brought you pain. “Instead, learn to look for the love, beauty and kindness around you.” Luskin says.
___4___ If you attach great importance to that person, you may realize that he or she was acting out of ignorance, fear and even love. To gain others’ stand, you may want to write a letter to yourself from your offender’s point of view.
___5___ Research has shown that people who forgive make a good show of more energy, better appetite and better sleeping patterns.
Don’t forget to forgive yourself. “For some people, forgiving themselves is the biggest challenge." Luskin says, “but it can rob you of your self-confidence if you don’t do it.”
A. Many times the person who hurt you may never think of apologizing.
B. Break away from the influence of your offender on you early.
C. But forgiveness is possible —and it can be surprisingly helpful to your physical and mental health.
D. Try to see things from the other person’s stand.
E. So it is difficult to forgive others and even yourself.
F. Recognize the benefits of forgiveness.
G. Forgiveness is not good of people.
C
A
B
D
F
【解析】略
We’ve all been hurt by another person at one time or another. This pain causes problems
. It not only causes us to be unhappy, but can ruin relationships, distract(使分心) us from work and family and other important things, make us unwilling to open up new things.
We need to learn to let go. We need to be able to forgive, so we can move on and be happy. Forgiveness does not mean you erase the past, or forget what has happened. All it means is that you are letting go of the anger and pain, and moving on to a better place.
It’s not easy, but you can learn to d
o it.
Think about the advantages and disadvanges. Think of all the problems this pain causes you, and realize you need to change. Then think of the benefits of forgiveness—— how it will make you happier, free you from the past and the pain, and improve your relationships and life in general.
Try to put yourself in that person’s situation. Try to understand why the person did what he did. What could he have felt as he did it, and what did he feel afterward? How does he feel now? You aren’t saying what he did is right, but are trying to understand instead.
Understand your responsibility. Try to figure out how you could have been partly responsible for what happened. This isn’t to say you’re taking all the blame, or taking responsibility away from the other person, but to realize that we are not victims(受害者) but participants in life.
Allow peace to enter your life. As you focus on the present, try focusing on your breathing. Imagine each breath going out is the pain and the past, and imagine each breath coming in is peace, entering you and filling you up.
Title: How to let go and forgive
| 【小题1】 caused by being hurt | Making us unhappy; distracting from daily life; Ruining relationships; making us close to new things. |
| Definition of forgiveness | ●Letting go of the 【小题2】 ; ●Moving on to a better place. |
| Benefits of forgiveness | ●Making you happier; ●【小题3】 from the past and the pain; ●Improving your relationships and life in general |
| 【小题4】 | ●Thinking about the advantages and disavantages; ●Trying to understand the other person as if you were in the same situation； ●Figuring out 【小题5】 ; ●Allowing peace to enter your life. |