“What is
the most important thing you’ve done in your life?” The question was put to me
during a presentation I gave to a group of lawyers.
The answer
came to me in an instant. It’s not the one I gave, because the situation was
not right. As a lawyer in the entertainment industry, I knew the audience
wanted to hear some amusing stories about my work with well-known people. But
here’s the true answer:
The most
important thing I’ve ever done occurred on October 8, 1990. I began the day
playing tennis with an old friend I hadn’t seen for a while. Between points we
talked about what had been happening in each other’s lives. He and his wife had
just had a baby boy, who was keeping them up at night.
While we were
playing, a car came screaming up the road toward the courts. It was my friend’s
father, who shouted to my friend that his baby had stopped breathing and was
being rushed to the hospital. In a flash my friend was in the car and gone,
disappearing in a cloud of dust.
For a moment I
just stood there, paralyzed(呆若木鸡). Then I tried to figure out what I should
do. Follow my friend to the hospital? There was nothing I could accomplish
there, I convinced myself. My friend’s son was in the care of doctors and
nurses, and nothing I could do or say would affect the outcome. Be there for
moral support? Well, maybe. But my friend and his wife both had large families,
and I knew they’d be surrounded by relatives who would provide more than enough
comfort and support, whatever happened. All I could do at the hospital, I
decided, was to get in the way. Also, I had planned a full day with my family,
who were waiting for me to get home. So I decided to head back to my house and
check in my friend later.
As I started
my car, I realized that my friend had left his truck and keys at the courts. I
now faced another problem. I couldn’t leave the keys in the truck. So I decided
to go to the hospital and give him the keys.
When I
arrived, I was directed to a room where my friend and his wife were waiting. As
I had thought, the room was filled with family members silently watching my
friend comfort his wife. I went in and stood by the door, trying to decide what
to do next. Soon a doctor appeared. He approached my friend and his wife, and
in a quiet voice told them that their son had died.
For a long
time the two held each other and cried, unaware of the rest of us standing
around in pained silence. After they had calmed themselves, the doctor
suggested they spend a few moments with their son.
My friend and
his wife stood up and walked past their families. When they reached the door,
my friend saw me standing in the corner. He came over and hugged me and started
to cry. My friend’s wife hugged me, too, and said, “Thanks for being here.”
For the rest
of that morning, I sat in the emergency room of that hospital and watched my
friend and his wife hold the body of their infant son, and say goodbye.
It’s the most
important thing I have ever done.
The experience
taught me two lessons.
First: The
most important thing I’ve ever done happened when I was completely helpless.
None of the things I had learned in university, in three years of law school or
in six years of legal practice were of any use in that situation. Something
terrible was happening to people Icared about, and I was powerless to change
the outcome. All I could do was standing by and watching it happen. And yet it
was critical that I do just that—just be there when someone needed me.
Second: The
most important thing I’ve done almost didn’t happen because of things I had
learned in classroom and professional life. Law school taught me how to take a
set of facts, break them down and organized them. These skills are critical for
lawyers. When people come to us for help, they’re often stressed out and depend
on a lawyer to think logically. But while learning to think, I almost forget
how to feel. Today I have no doubt that I should have leapt into my car without
hesitation and followed my friend to the hospital.
From that one experience I learned that the most important thing in life
isn’t the money you make, the status you attain or the honors you achieve. The
most important thing in life is the kids’ team you coach or the poem you write—or the time when you’re just
somebody’s friend.
1.When he was asked about the most important thing he had done in life at a
presentation, the author __________.
A felt it was not an interesting
question
B. thought for a while and spoke his mind
C. gave an answer from a lawyer’s point of view
D. didn’t give the real answer
2.When he saw his friend rush to the hospital, the author could not decide
whether to follow mainly because he thought _________.
A. he had to stay with his family
B. his friend did not need his help
C. he would not be of much
help D. the baby would be in
the doctor’s care
3.The purpose
of the author’s description of the scene at the hospital is to inform us that
______.
A. he found out that he was in the
way
B. he would have felt guilty if he had not been there
C. he regretted that he went too later
D. his friend would have felt better if he had not been there
4.Which of the following is conveyed in this story?
A. Family and relatives can not take the place of friends.
B. More people are a great comfort when one is in trouble.
C. It is best to be here when someone needs you.
D. You can certainly help a friend if you want to.
5.The author
learned from his own experience that_______.
A. what is taught in school is usually of no use
B. a lawyer cannot learn much in classrooms
C. a lawyer should know people’s feeling first
D. he needs to be able to feel as well as think logically