Matches made over the Internet often do not last long because people end up choosing unsuitable partners and forming emotional bonds before meeting face-to-face, an Australian university researcher has found.
Women may especially find Mr.Wrong, as they tend to be attracted by fine comments or clever emails, said psychologist Matthew Bambling from the Queensland University of Technology.
“You can never assume things are the way they seem online,”Bambling said.“The fact that they can write a clever comment or a witty email doesn't mean they will be Mr.Right, that's for sure,”he said, adding some men use the concept of“netting”, sending emails to dozens of women and hoping one might respond.Bambling said you can find a partner online, but warned those using the Web to find love to be aware of the traps.“There's definitely an uncontrolled effect online,”he said, with people more likely to exaggerate their good points while hiding anything negative.“Few guys for example would say ‘look, I'm a middle aged alcoholic who's been married five times, pick me'.They're going to present themselves as a good catch.”He said it was easy for people to quickly invest too much emotionally in an online relationship because they don't see the full picture of the person they are emailing.
Bambling said people can avoid many of the problems by meeting early in the actual relationship, rather than by getting to know each other only by email.He suggests couples arrange to meet over coffee after a few emails, which will help people from building up a fantasy image of their match.“The main thing to remember is to make real life contact as soon as possible if you are interested in someone, because then you will know contact as soon as possible if you are interested in someone, because then you will know if a relationship is a possibility.”He said.
(1)
Why were women quite likely to find Mr.Wrong over the Internet?
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A.
Because they often judge a person by his appearance.
B.
Because single women usually felt more lonely.
C.
Because the emotional bonds were hard to break.
D.
Because they were easily attracted by fine comments.
(2)
About the online relationship Bambling suggests we should be ________.
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A.
rejective
B.
favorable
C.
cautious
D.
hopeful
(3)
The underlined word“exaggerate”in Paragraph 3 probably means“________”.
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A.
enlarge
B.
invent
C.
remove
D.
cover
(4)
What is suggested by Bambling for a better online relationship?
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A.
Writing clever comments or emails to girls frequently.
B.
Finding a partner online through one night respond.
C.
Making real life contact before further development.
Ask most American children what they want to be when they grow up, and they probably will say“doctor”or“lawyer”.
Though our culture, our economy(经济),indeed our very security(安全)are heavily dependent on science and engineering, only 12 percent of American high school students graduate with the prerequisites(先决条件)for a career in science or engineering.
Don't be too surprised.If you ask further why the majority of the high school students would choose a career in medicine or law, the answers will be straight out of some popular TV shows.
“Doctors help people.They save lives.”“Lawyers beat the bad guys.”Most students would say.
Now, how about science or engineering as a career choice?The answers will be just as predictable(可预见的),“Get real!Who wants to be a geek?They all are nerds.Besides I hate maths.”
In our media, scientists and engineers typically are described as introverted(内向的)and humorless.They always wear white lab coats with a collection of pencils in their pocket protectors.They wear glasses with black plastic frames.
If more students are to choose technical careers, they must have a better view presented to them.
They need to be told, for example, that the invention of lifesaving equipment saves lives just as surely as the application(应用)of it in the hospital.
It also might help if someone points out to students that the lawyer who saved the defendant(被告)by introducing the DNA evidence(证据)would have seen him hanged had it not been for the scientists who discovered DNA.
Whatever we do, until students stop thinking of the term“engineer”as a synonym (同义词)“geek”, it is impossible to expect our children to change their views towards scientists and engineers.
(1)
Which of the following has influenced American students greatly in their choice of their careers?
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A.
Parents'opinions.
B.
TV shows and publications.
C.
Security measures.
D.
Culture and economy.
(2)
What kind of person do you think a geek or nerd is?
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A.
Someone who is boring, unfashionable or unsociable.
B.
Someone who loves the career of a scientist or engineer.
C.
Someone who is good at mat hs and loves science.
D.
Someone who is full of unreal ideas in the head.
(3)
In order to change the students'view towards scientists and engineers, the writer suggests that ________.
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A.
teachers reconsider their way of teaching mathematics
B.
scientists and engineers change their images a little bit
C.
students be told about the wonders of science and engineering
D.
the media stop praising doctors and lawyers too much
(4)
Judging from what is said in the passage, the writer obviously believes that ________.
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A.
scientists and engineers are more important than doctors and lawyers
B.
there are too many scientists and engineers nowadays
C.
American children are hopeless
D.
science and engineering have been dangerously ignored