If you want to teach your children how to say sorry, you must be good at saying it yourself, especially to your own children. But how you say it can be quite tricky.
If you say to your children “I’m sorry I got angry with you, but …” what follows that “but” can make the apology ineffective: ” I had a bad day” or “your noise was giving me a headache ” leaves the person who has been injured feeling that he should be apologizing for his bad behavior.
Another method by which people appear to apologize without actually doing so is to say “I’m sorry you’re upset”; this suggests that you are somehow at fault for allowing yourself to get upset by what the other person has done.
These pseudo(虚假的)-apologies are used by people who believe saying sorry shows weakness, Parents who wish to teach their children to apologize should see it as a sign of strength, and therefore not turn to these pseudo-apologies.
But even when presented with examples of true regret, children still need help to become aware of the difficulties of saying sorry. A three-year-old might need help in understanding that other children feel pain just as he does, and that hitting a playmate over the head with a heavy toy requires an apology. A six-year-old might need reminding that spoiling(糟蹋) other children’s expectations can require an apology. A 12-year-old might need to be shown that taking away the biscuit tin without asking permission is acceptable, but that borrowing a parent’s clothes without permission is not.
【小题1】If a mother adds “but” to an apology,________.

A.the child may find the apology easier to accept
B.the child may feel that he should apologize to her mother
C.she does not realize that the child has been hurt
D.she doesn’t feel that she should have apologized
【小题2】According to the author, saying “I’m sorry you’re upset” most probably means”_______”
A.You have good reason to get upset
B.I apologize for hurting your feelings
C.I’m wrong for making you upset
D.I’m aware you’re upset, but I’m not to blame
【小题3】We learn from the last paragraph that in teaching children to say sorry______.
A.their ages should be taken into consideration
B.parents should be patient and tolerant
C.parents need to set them a good example
D.the difficulties involved should be ignored
【小题4】It can be inferred from the passage that apologizing properly is _________.
A.not necessary among family members
B.a sign of social progress
C.not as simple as it seems
D.a matter calling for immediate attention

A couple of years ago, I decided it was time to take a break. I was about to       ,and I wanted to reward myself for all those college years.

As I was curiously       different websites and guidebooks, getting ready for my little adventure, I        that besides getting all the necessities, I also needed to get a sun        .

When I got to the shop, it        occurred to me that in the middle of planning my       ,I somehow hadn’t paid much attention to the calendar. It was Feb.14, and Valentine’s fever had         the whole shopping center.

I finally       a rack(货架) with summer hats hanging on it .I walked over and tried on a couple. I really liked one        .I just couldn’t decide whether I wanted to get the one with a pink ribbon or a blue ribbon       decoratively around it.

“You looked really great on those hats, ”a middle-aged man        there waiting to be helped…and said to me.

“Oh, thank you.” I        answered and increased my pace. I was in no mood to have a        with a stranger. I stopped by a sale rack and looked through colorful shirts.

“Excuse me.” A voice suddenly         my dreamy state of mind. I turned around and that man was standing right behind me. He looked          but determined.

Before I could do or say anything, he continued with what he wanted to say. “I’m sorry to         you, but those hats looked really nice on you. You see, I don’t         anybody to buy a Valentine’s gift for this year, so I got you one of the hats. I         you don’t mind.” he said while handing me a plastic bag and disappeared immediately.

“Thank you!” I finally breathed out ,feeling quite surprised. Who would imagine that a        would walk up to you and give you a present?

I do hope the man found his Valentine        .And most of all--I no longer feel blue on Valentine’s Day, even when I’m alone, because I remember my hat story.

1.A.retire                   B.speak              C.defeat                        D.graduate

2.A.searching           B.searching for              C.looking                D.looking for

3.A.announced              B.suggested         C.realized                      D.declared

4.A.hat              B.glass               C.shirt                         D.bag

5.A.proudly         B.suddenly          C.curiously           D.patiently

6.A.study            B.reward          C.trip                          D.present

7.A.handed over             B.taken over       C.given out                     D.turned out

8.A.bought          B.made             C.kept               D.saw

9.A.on business    B.in particular                C.at work                      D.in danger

10.A.formed                B.tied               C.collected          D.torn

11.A.lying                   B.stopping           C.standing                     D.following

12.A.angrily                 B.politely            C.unhappily                    D.sadly

13.A.bargain                B.trade             C.cooperation       D.conversation

14.A.continued             B.interested       C.attracted                    D.interrupted

15.A.tired                   B.shy                C.surprised          D.sorry

16.A.bother                B.satisfy              C.meet              D.fit

17.A.catch                  B.ask                C.have              D.advise

18.A.think                  B.consider          C.find                D.hope

19.A.lover                  B.patient            C.teacher           D.stranger

20.A.in time                 B.on time                       C.at times              D.over time

 

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