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【题目】Question: My 14-year-old son is very disrespectful to my husband and me, and we don’t know what to do about it. We tell him to get home before dark, but he is often late, and then we wait, worry and sometimes get close to calling the police. And so what happens when he does come home? We have a big argument. Can you help us?

Answer: Your son should, of course, come in before dark, not because you say so, but because it is his responsibility and because you would worry about him if he didn’t come home when he promised. 【1】______________ Just tell him that he has to be home on time if he wants to go out next time — and that this is his choice, not yours.

His disrespect is part of a bigger issue. Your son desires independence because the young always do when they hit puberty (青春期), somewhere between 13 and 16. New hormones (荷尔蒙), a new ability to think in abstractions and a new need to pull away from their parents all contribute to this desire. 【2】________________

Your son may also be acting up because your discipline hasn’t kept up with his growth. A child hates to be corrected when his parents use the same words and same tone of voice they used when correcting him a year ago. 【3】_________

He won’t even argue with you too much, as long as you listen to his rants (咆哮) and consider his reasons when you have to say no. These are all signs that you know that your respect is as important to him as his respect is to you. 【4】_________ This doesn’t accomplish anything and is bound to worsen your relationship.

Your child not only needs your respect, he also needs you to encourage his dreams, no matter how strange they are. 【5】__________ Now is the time to lower your expectations, give as few orders as possible (but stick to the ones you give), pay more attention to your son’s good behavior than his bad, and give twice as many smiles as you get.

A. But don’t worry.

B. He wants you to react to him at the age he is today.

C. But don’t argue about it.

D. If you don’t listen and consider, he won’t hear a word you say.

E. So boys and girls are so eager to spread their wings.

F. They need your sympathy for him when things go wrong, rather than fix them or tell him what he should have done.

G. He is growing physically, mentally, emotionally and even morally.

Answer 1

【答案】

【1】C

【2】E

【3】B

【4】D

【5】F

【解析】

试题分析:本文针对一个对父母很不尊敬的儿子的问题，提出了一些解决方案。

【1】C考查对上下文的理解和推理判断能力。根据just tell him that he has to be home on time if he wants to go out next time — and that this is his choice, not yours.可知不要跟孩子争辩什么，而是要让他想清楚这是他自己的选择，C选项But don’t argue about it.，符合，故选C。

【2】E考查对上下文的理解和推理判断能力。根据New hormones (荷尔蒙), a new ability to think in abstractions and a new need to pull away from their parents all contribute to this desire. 可知男孩子和女孩子在青春期时因为荷尔蒙的影响会变得比较叛逆，想要脱离父母的掌控，E选项So boys and girls are so eager to spread their wings. ，符合，故选E。

【3】B考查对上下文的理解和推理判断能力。根据Your son may also be acting up because your discipline hasn’t kept up with his growth. 可知这个孩子的行为很有可能是因为你对他的态度没有根据他的年龄的变化而改变，还是当他小孩子造成的，B选项 He wants you to react to him at the age he is today.，符合，故选B。

【4】D考查对上下文的理解和推理判断能力。根据 These are all signs that you know that your respect is as important to him as his respect is to you.可知你也要尊重他，如果你不听他的话，他也不会听你的话，D选项If you don’t listen and consider, he won’t hear a word you say.，符合，故选D。

【5】F考查对上下文的理解和推理判断能力。根据Your child not only needs your respect, he also needs you to encourage his dreams, no matter how strange they are.可知孩子需要你的鼓励，需要你在他遭到挫折时的安慰，F选项They need your sympathy for him when things go wrong, rather than fix them or tell him what he should have done.，符合，故选F。