题目内容
Dear Mr. Expert,
I grew up in an unhappy and abusive home. I always promised myself that I'd get out as soon as possible.
Now, at age 20, I have a good job and a nice house, and I'm really proud of the independence (独立) I've
achieved.
Here's the problem: several of my friends who still live with their parents wish they had places like mine-so
much so that they make mine theirs.
It started out with a couple of them spending the weekends with me. But now they seem to take it for
granted that they can show up any time they like. They bring boyfriends over, talk on the phone and stay out
forever.
I enjoy having my friends here sometimes-it makes the place feel comfortable and warm-but this is my
home, not a party house. I was old enough to move out on my own, so why can't I seem to ask my friends
to respect my privacy (隐私) ?
Joan
Edward's reply to Joan
Dear Joan,
If your family didn't pay attention to your needs when you were a child, you probably have trouble letting
others know your needs now.
And if you've gathered your friends around you to rebuild a happy family atmosphere (气氛), you may
fear that saying no will bring back the kind of conflict (冲突) you grew up with-or destroy the nice atmosphere
you now enjoy. You need to understand that in true friendship it's okay to put your own needs first from time
to time.
Be clear about the message you want to send. For example, "I really love your company but I also need
some privacy. So please call me before you come over."
Edward
B. takes pride in her friends
C. knows Mr. Expert quite well
D. hates her parents very much
B. Joan's friends visit her more often than she can accept
C. Joan doesn't like the parties at all
D. Joan dislikes the boyfriends her friends bring over
B. She does not understand true friendship.
C. Her family experience stops her from doing so.
D. She does not put her needs first.
B. wants Joan not to quarrel with her friends
C. advises Joan on how to refuse people
D. encourages Joan to be brave enough
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