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A daughter¡¯s duty? Adult daughters are often expected to caregiver for older parents. In 2007, Jorjan Sarich and her dad moved from California to Idaho. It was where he wanted to live his rest time.
¡°I left my occupation, I left my friends; he did the same thing,¡± said Sarich, who bought a house with her father, George Snyder, in the China Gardens neighborhood of Hailey after his health began to decline. Though a graduate student struggling to finish her dissertation£¨ÂÛÎÄ£©, Sarich chose to be her dad¡¯s full-time caregiver.
¡°It¡¯s only now, several years later, that I¡¯m realizing how much work it was. It¡¯s the kind of exhaustion£¨Æ£±¹£©that sleep doesn¡¯t cure,¡± she said.
About 6 million Americans provide care to elderly relatives or friends living outside of nursing homes. Laurel Kennedy, author of ¡°The Daughter Trap¡± (Thomas Dunne Books, $25.95), says that women bear a disproportionate£¨²»³É±ÈÀýµÄ£©share of the burden ¡ª about 70 percent of hands-on care giving such as bathing.
¡°I want to be clear: Women don¡¯t hate this,¡± Kennedy said. ¡°What they hate is that everyone just assumes they¡¯ll do it.¡±
Kennedy is calling for a social revolution equal to the rise of affordable child care and day care: Employers should help working caregivers by offering accommodations. Men should step up more often. It¡¯s unfair that women are always chosen to provide care for an elderly family member.
Despite the hard work it took on Sarich ¡ª interrupted sleep and the knowledge that his 2009 death was the end game, she would do it again. Since about half a century had gone by, she wasn¡¯t the person he remembered, and he wasn¡¯t the person she remembered either. Caring for her father changed how each saw the other.
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Children find meanings in their old family tales.
When Stephen Guyer¡¯s three children were growing up, he told them stories about how his grandfather, a banker, 21 all in the 1930s, but did not lose sight of what he valued most. In one of the darkest times 22 his strong-minded grandfather was nearly 23 , he loaded his family into the car and 24 them to see family members in Canada with a 25 ,¡°there are more important things in life than money. ¡±
The 26 took on a new meaning recently when Mr. Guyer downsized to a 27 house from a more expensive and comfortable one. He was 28 that his children, a daughter, 15, and twins, 22, would be upset. To his surprise, they weren¡¯t. 29 , their reaction echoed £¨¹²Ãù£© their great-grandfather¡¯s. What they 30 was how warm the people were in the house and how 31 of their heart was accessible.
Many parents are finding family stories have surprising power to help children 32 hard times. Storytelling experts say the phenomenon reflects a growing 33 in telling tales, evidenced by a rise in a storytelling events and festivals.
A university 34 of 65 families with children aged from 14 to 16 found kids¡¯ ability to 35 parents¡¯ stories was linked to a lower rate of anger and anxiety. The 36 is telling the stories in a way children can 37 . We¡¯re not talking here about the kind of story that 38 , ¡°When I was a kid, I walked to school every day uphill both ways, barefoot in the snow. ¡± Instead, we should choose a story suited to the child¡¯s 39 , and make eye contact £¨½Ó´¥£© to create ¡°a personal experience¡±,. We don¡¯t have to tell children 40 they should take from the story and what the moral is. ¡±
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