题目内容
True friends are rare to come by these days. Even if you believe you’ve connected with someone, how do you really know he is a true friend? And often you will find that someone who you thought you could trust may have let you down. There are ways you can know if a friendship is true and how you can hold onto that friend.
A true friend is someone who will be there for you no matter what happens. Through good times and bad times,they will stand by you. They will accept you for who you are without trying to change you,and they will be there to help you grow in new ways.
Trust is another important aspect. A true friend will keep your secrets. They will be honest and be someone you can depend on. They will listen and be someone you know you can talk things over with,even if they may not have advice to share with you.
Friendship is a two-way street though. To find true friends and keep them, you must in turn be the same as well. Be there for them in their hard times and share the good times with them. Be someone your friends can depend on as well and offer them the same things they give to you. A friendship will fall apart fast if only one person is giving and putting all the effort in. If you are the only one making an effort, be honest.
There will be barriers in the road but that is the test of true friendship. If it can survive those barriers,it will be stronger and better than ever. St Thomas Aquinas said, “There is nothing on this earth more prized than friendship" and it holds true.
How to find a true friend? | |
The writer’s (76) ____ on friends nowadays | ■True friends (77) ____ come by nowadays. ■Those who you regarded as your friends may make you (78) ____. |
Characteristics of true friendship | ■A true friend will (79) ____ you whatever happens. ■A true friend will keep your secrets and be a good (80) ____. |
Ways to ( 81 ) ____ friendship | ■Stay with your friends when they are in (82) ____. ■Be someone who your friends can (83) ____. ■ (84) ____ is the key to keep a friendship if you are the only one making efforts. |
Conclusion | ■True friendship can stand up to various (85) ____ and grow stronger and better. |
76. opinions/views/viewpoints 77. rarely/seldom/hardly/infrequently
78. disappointed 79. support 80. listener 81. keep/hold/maintain
82. trouble/difficulty/hardship/misfortune/need 83. trust 84. Honesty
85. tests / barriers
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Are you the type of person who always says“yes”?I’ve come to learn that it is very im-portant to learn to say NO!It’s okay. People are still going to like you. They may even respect you more because they know you are honest.
I,m not saying to say“no" to someone who really needs your help. I’m talking about re-fusing that meeting that you really do not want to attend or that birthday party that you don’t want to be a guest at.
Think for a moment how you feel when you say YES to something that you really don’t want to do. If you’re like I once was,you can’t sleep at night and you think about it too much. It weighs on your mind. You try to find ways out. Whatever you’re saying to yourself,if you really wanted to go,you wouldn’t have all of these thoughts.
So,why not just say NO from the beginning? Maybe you feel like if you don’t show up at the meeting(by the way,it is not one you must attend) your boss isn’t going to like you or your co-workers won’t respect you. Maybe you feel as if your mom,dad or sisters won’t love you as much if you don’t do everything for them that they ask every occasion.
If these people are your true friends,family members,or a good boss,they will like or love you the same no matter what. People treat you the way you teach them to,and if you’re some-one who always says“yes" then that’s what they,re expecting.
You need to do what is right for you. Of course we do have real obligations in life to ful-fill,but we do not have to do everything others want us to do.
【小题1】Which of the following statements would the writer agree with?
A.We should try to do what our friends ask us to do. |
B.We should help others in need. |
C.Always saying“yes" means you are dishonest. |
D.Always saying“no" means you are brave. |
A.Saying "yes". |
B.A friend's birthday party. |
C.Something you’re unwilling to do. |
D.Something you think difficult to do. |
A.have the same relationship with them as before |
B.have a loose relationship with them |
C.disappoint them |
D.upset them |
A.Learn to Make a Right Choice | B.To Be Yourself |
C.Do What You Want to Do | D.Learn to Say No |
Real-life Friends
Most people know the saying: A man's best friend is his dog; and that Diamonds are a girl’s best friend. However, dogs can’t offer advice or make you a cup of tea when you need one; and precious stones are cold comfort when you need a hug, and a shoulder to cry on.
What are Friends?
There are many ways to describe a friend. Friends are the family you can choose for yourself. Friends are a much better medication(医疗)than medication is, and people who spend time with friends are happier with their lives as they are less lonely.
A good friend will put you to bed when you’re lost consciousness. Ensure you’re not laid on your back, and remember to remove your shoes. You should be able to tell a true friend anything without being judged by them.
How do Friendships Begin?
This is an easy question. Find someone else who has similar interests with you. You now have another person to talk to about your shared interest but remember they like to talk too, so be prepared to shut up and listen once in a while. Hopefully they will have other friends and will introduce you to them, thereby expanding your circle.
Friendships which begin due to location, for example, next-door neighbors or school classmates, rarely survive transitions such as moving to other neighborhoods, schools, colleges, jobs, immigration, and so forth. Attend a school reunion and you’ll wonder what on earth you ever had in common with these people other than your age, although it is possible to have a friendship with someone you met at school. Mutually maintain it, and eventually become godparent or “uncle” to each others’ children.
How Friendships are Maintained
To have a friend you must also be a friend and be prepared to be there for them should they need you. Failure in this respect would label you a fair-weather friend and you would most probably be abandoned.
Boundaries
Like every other relationship you have in your life, there are boundaries you shouldn’t cross with your friends. One of those is money: Don’t lend to your friend and don’t ask for a loan yourself.
Friends are unpaid counselors(顾问),but phoning them at 2 am because you’re awake and would like a chat is not a good idea. Neither is phoning them at 10 am if you know they’re a shift-worker. Friends are people who need some space and quiet time. Generally, it all boils down to mutual respect and understanding.
It’s not a good plan to interrupt your friend while they’re on a date/on holiday/attending an orchestral recital/at a funeral.
Trust
Trust is the most vital element in any relationship. If you’re not trustworthy then you probably don’t deserve friends, so try to remember that you promised to see that dull film with them or applaud them at their first attempt at a karaoke or an Open Mic night. If you have promised to look after their clothes while they go for a bet, then make sure you do. You might like to carry enough cash to help them out too, as you never know when that situation might be reversed.
Don’t lie to your friend: if they know you well they’ll know you’re lying or will at least be suspicious. If you find out something that you know will hurt your friend, be tactful(圆滑). Do they need to know? Would they appreciate knowing? Can you tell their mum so she can break the news? Cowardly, yes, but mums usually have a much better way with words. Remember, if you do decide to tell them and it’s painful, they will probably need some time alone, after lashing out at(抨击)the closest thing—you. In that case, play the waiting game. Then don’t beat them up about it afterwards.
A Friend for Life
Strong friendships can last a lifetime with care and consideration. The benefits are multi-folds; you’ve got someone to share birthday cake with, and especially for single people, a pub meal or a trip to the cinema is no fun alone, is it? Plus it’s always nice to know there’s someone there for you, as you’re there for them, through the bad times as well as the good. Altogether now: Oh I get by with a little help from my friends. Mm, I get high with a little help from my friends.
1.According to the passage we can learn that good friends should be ___________.
A.paid counselors |
B.money lenders |
C.good listeners |
D.next-door neighbors |
2.The author brings in the topic by ___________.
A.giving negative examples |
B.raising a relative question |
C.describing a natural fact |
D.explaining what friends are |
3.The underlined phrase “a fair-weather friend” in Para 6 probably refers to a friend who _____.
A.likes only fine weather |
B.will always stand by you |
C.likes to make friends in fine weather |
D.will run away from you when you need help badly |
4.What can be inferred from the passage?
A.The more friends you have, the happier you will be. |
B.Medication is also a better way to maintain strong friendships. |
C.You may lose a friend if you are always telling lies to him or her. |
D.We should only make friends with those having similar interests. |
5. From the last paragraph we can learn that the author ____________.
A.doubt whether there are true friends and friendship |
B.has lost a lot of good friends without any reasons |
C.has already benefited a great deal from his friends |
D.has been tired of making friends with single people |
6. Which of the following would be the best title for the passage?
A.How to make friends. |
B.Friends and friendship. |
C.Ways to maintain friendship. |
D.Boundaries of friends. |