Are you the type of person who always says“yes”?I’ve come to learn that it is very im-portant to learn to say NO!It’s okay. People are still going to like you. They may even respect you more because they know you are honest.
I,m not saying to say“no" to someone who really needs your help. I’m talking about re-fusing that meeting that you really do not want to attend or that birthday party that you don’t want to be a guest at.
Think for a moment how you feel when you say YES to something that you really don’t want to do. If you’re like I once was,you can’t sleep at night and you think about it too much. It weighs on your mind. You try to find ways out. Whatever you’re saying to yourself,if you really wanted to go,you wouldn’t have all of these thoughts.
So,why not just say NO from the beginning? Maybe you feel like if you don’t show up at the meeting(by the way,it is not one you must attend) your boss isn’t going to like you or your co-workers won’t respect you. Maybe you feel as if your mom,dad or sisters won’t love you as much if you don’t do everything for them that they ask every occasion.
If these people are your true friends,family members,or a good boss,they will like or love you the same no matter what. People treat you the way you teach them to,and if you’re some-one who always says“yes" then that’s what they,re expecting.
You need to do what is right for you. Of course we do have real obligations in life to ful-fill,but we do not have to do everything others want us to do.
【小题1】Which of the following statements would the writer agree with?

A.We should try to do what our friends ask us to do.
B.We should help others in need.
C.Always saying“yes" means you are dishonest.
D.Always saying“no" means you are brave.
【小题2】What does the underlined word,’ It" in Paragraph 3 refer to?
A.Saying "yes".
B.A friend's birthday party.
C.Something you’re unwilling to do.
D.Something you think difficult to do.
【小题3】The writer believes that if you say“no" to your family members,you’11_·
A.have the same relationship with them as before
B.have a loose relationship with them
C.disappoint them
D.upset them
【小题4】What would be the best title for the passage?
A.Learn to Make a Right Choice B.To Be Yourself
C.Do What You Want to Do D.Learn to Say No

It’s a Friday night. Your girl friends are out at a bar and your boyfriend is playing soccer with his mates. Two text messages later, you’re eating pizza and watching action movies with three guy friends. Perfect.
“Guy friends” have the potential to enrich your life in ways that female friends and boyfriends just can’t. For starters, they provide an insider’s perspective on how men think, feel and behave. When dealing with male relatives, coworkers and even boyfriends, another man’s point of view can be incredibly useful. Three hours spent analyzing a situation in a café with your girlfriends can’t compete with a quick chat to a guy friend.
Many women find that time spent with male friends can be a liberating and somewhat refreshing break from spending time with the girls. Without the judgmental gaze of other females, there is less pressure to dress up and compete for attention.
Traditionally, girl-guy friendships are seen as hard to maintain. Most relationships between males and females that we come across in our day-to-day lives, whether in movies or books, are romantic by nature. These cultural images make girl-guy friendships seem impossible.
Yet in reality, as gender roles loosen and equality becomes a norm in the workplace, it has become much more common for platonic friendships to blossom.
“The belief that men and women can’t be friends comes from another era in which women were at home and men were in the workplace, and the only way they could get together was for romance,” explains psychologist Linda Sapadin to Psychology Today magazine. “Now they work together and share sports interests and socialize together.”
“My boyfriend has met all of my guy friends so he’s quite accepting of me hanging out with them,” says Nellie. “Because we’ve been dating so long, there’s a level of trust where he knows I will make the right decision when choosing who to be friends with.
“He understands that the kind of time that I spend differs between guys and girls. When I’m out with the girls, we’re gossiping or talking about clothes but when I’m spending time with the guys, it’s different. I think their carefree and ‘whatever goes’ attitude can sometimes be exactly what I need.”
【小题1】  What is the best title of the passage?

A.Platonic friendship can be fun and liberating.
B.Platonic friendship can take the place of boy-or-girl friendship.
C.Man friendship is far more exciting than woman friendship.
D.Both man friendship and woman friendship are necessary forgirls.
【小题2】  In writer’s opinion, girl-guy friendships_________
A.are hard to maintain in modern society.
B.are impossible for most boys and girls.
C.are quite reasonable and thought highly of by most people.
D.are quite interesting and accepted by more and more and moregirls.
【小题3】 Why did people think men and women can’t be friends in the past?
A.Becausemen were at home and women were in the workplace.
B.Becauseboth men and women are too shy to make friends.
C.Because they were hard to keep in touch and only bymarrying cantheystay in touch with each other.
D.Becausewomen were at home and men were in the workplace, and the only way they could get together was for friendship.
【小题4】  According to what Nellie said, _______
A.Her boyfriend enjoys she and her guy friend stay together.
B.When I’m out with the boys, we’re not gossiping or talking about clothes.
C.Sometimes whatmy guy friends giveisjustwhatI need.
D.My boyfriend trusts me so heaccepts my decision.

Mark Twain said that “habit is habit, and not to be flung(扔) out the window by anyone, but coaxed (劝诱)downstairs a step at a time.” The chances of successfully changing negative behavior        when you make gradual changes that give you time to        negative patterns for positive ones.

On any given day, countless numbers of us get out of bed and        to begin to change a given behavior “today.” Whether it be exercising more, drinking less, managing time        or some other change in a negative behavior, we start out with high       . In a short time, however, a vast majority of people fail and are soon doing        it was they thought they shouldn't be doing.

 After considerable research, some researchers believe that behavior changes usually do not        if they start with the change itself.       , they believe that we must        a series of “stages” to adequately prepare ourselves for that        change. Once you have analyzed all the factors that        what you do, you must decide which behavior-change technique will work best for you.

According to the psychologist Albert Ellis, most        problems and related behaviors arise from irrational (不理性的) statements that people make to        when events in their lives are different from what they would like them to be. For example, suppose alter doing        on an exam, you say to yourself, “I can't believe I failed that easy exam, I’m so stupid.” By changing this irrational “catastrophic” self-talk into rational,        statements about what is really going on, you can increase the        that positive behaviors will occur.

 Positive self-talk might be        as follows: “I really didn’t study enough for the exam. I just need to prepare for the next       .”

 Such self-talk will help you to recover quickly from        and take positive steps to correct the situation. Some other technique like purposefully        or stopping negative thoughts and refusing to dwell on(沉湎于) negative images can also spare you wasted energy, time and emotional resources and move on to positive changes.

1.A. decline       B. remain  C. disappear      D. improve

2.A. substituteB. cancel     C. find       D. ignore

3.A. refuse        B. determine     C. hesitate         D. advocate

4.A. more B. better   C. worse   D. less

5.A. values         B. requirements        C. expectations D. levels

6.A. whicheverB. however         C. wherever      D. whatever

7.A. succeed     B. fail         C. exist      D. fade

8.A. NeverthelessB. Otherwise C. Instead D. Moreover

9.A. look throughB. break through    C. go through    D. pull through

10.A. initial        B. temporary     C. instant  D. eventual

11.A. involve     B. influence       C. explain D. adjust

12.A. emotionalB. physical         C. technical       D. professional

13.A. all    B. others   C. someone       D. themselves

14.A. poorly      B. carefully        C. completely    D. slowly

15.A. positive    B. ridiculous      C. negative        D. explicit

16.A. danger     B. awareness     C. amount D. probability

17.A. written     B. phrased         C. listed     D. captioned

18.A. research  B. test        C. talk        D. problem

19.A. tirednessB. habits     C. disappointment     D. burdens

20.A. recalling  B. starting C. blocking         D. holding

 

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