Question

If you want to teach your children how to say sorry, you must be good at saying it yourself, especially to your own children. But how you say it can be quite tricky.

If you say to your children “I’m sorry I got angry with you, but …” what follows that “but” can make the apology ineffective: ” I had a bad day” or “your noise was giving me a headache ” leaves the person who has been injured feeling that he should be apologizing for his bad behavior.

Another method by which people appear to apologize without actually doing so is to say “I’m sorry you’re upset”; this suggests that you are somehow at fault for allowing yourself to get upset by what the other person has done.

These pseudo(虚假的)-apologies are used by people who believe saying sorry shows weakness, Parents who wish to teach their children to apologize should see it as a sign of strength, and therefore not turn to these pseudo-apologies.

But even when presented with examples of true regret, children still need help to become aware of the difficulties of saying sorry. A three-year-old might need help in understanding that other children feel pain just as he does, and that hitting a playmate over the head with a heavy toy requires an apology. A six-year-old might need reminding that spoiling(糟蹋) other children’s expectations can require an apology. A 12-year-old might need to be shown that taking away the biscuit tin without asking permission is acceptable, but that borrowing a parent’s clothes without permission is not.

1.If a mother adds “but” to an apology,________.

A．the child may find the apology easier to accept

B．the child may feel that he should apologize to her mother

C．she does not realize that the child has been hurt

D．she doesn’t feel that she should have apologized

2.According to the author, saying “I’m sorry you’re upset” most probably means”_______”

A．You have good reason to get upset

B．I apologize for hurting your feelings

C．I’m wrong for making you upset

D．I’m aware you’re upset, but I’m not to blame

3.We learn from the last paragraph that in teaching children to say sorry______.

A．their ages should be taken into consideration

B．parents should be patient and tolerant

C．parents need to set them a good example

D．the difficulties involved should be ignored

4.It can be inferred from the passage that apologizing properly is _________.

A．not necessary among family members

B．a sign of social progress

C．not as simple as it seems

D．a matter calling for immediate attention

 

Answer 1

【答案】

1.B

2.D

3.A

4.C 

【解析】

试题分析：1.B 细节题。根据第二段what follows that “but” can make the apology ineffective: ” I had a bad day” or “your noise was giving me a headache ” leaves the person who has been injured feeling that he should be apologizing for his bad behavior.说明这样的虚假道歉会让接受道歉的认为他们应该向你道歉，故B正确。

2.D 推理题。根据第三段2,3行“I’m sorry you’re upset”; this suggests that you are somehow at fault for allowing yourself to get upset by what the other person has done.说明道歉的一放认为自己不应该受到责备。故D正确。

3.A 推理题。根据最后一段所举的三个例子可知不同的年龄的孩子对于道歉都有不同的理解，故我们要考虑到年龄的因素。

4.细节题：从最后一段But even when presented with examples of true regret, children still need help to become aware of the difficulties of saying sorry可知答案是C。

考点：考查教育类短文阅读

点评：道歉是很重要的一种品质，但是很多人的道歉都是无效的。文章告诉我们什么样的道歉是虚假的，什么样的道歉是无效的。以及在教育孩子道歉的时候，要考虑到孩子的年龄。

本文集中考查推理题，要求考生根据文章内容合理想象，准确定位考点。