If you want to teach your children how to say sorry, you must be good at saying it yourself, especially to your own children. But how you say it can be quite tricky.  If you say to your children "I'm sorry I got angry with you, but …" what follows that "but" can make the apology ineffective: "I had a bad day" or "your noise was giving me a headache " leaves the person who has been injured feeling that he should be apologizing for his bad behavior in expecting an apology.

Another method by which people appear to apologize without actually doing so is to say "I'm sorry you're upset"; this suggests that you are somehow at fault for allowing yourself to get upset by what the other person has done.

Then there is the general, all covering apology, which avoids the necessity of identifying a specific act that was particularly hurtful or insulting, and which the person who is apologizing should promise never to do again. Saying "I'm useless as a parent" does not commit a person to any specific improvement.

These pseudo(假的)-apologies are used by people who believe saying sorry shows weakness. Parents who wish to teach their children to apologize should see it as a sign of strength, and therefore not resort to these pseudo-apologies.

But even when presented with examples of contrition(悔悟), children still need help to become aware of the complexities of saying sorry. A three-year-old boy might need help in understanding that other children feel pain just as he does, and that hitting a playmate over the head with a heavy toy requires an apology. A six-year-old boy might need reminding that spoiling other children's expectations can require an apology. A 12-year-old might need to be shown that taking the biscuit tin without asking permission is acceptable, but that borrowing a parent's clothes without permission is not.

1. If a mother adds "but" to an apology, _______.

A. she doesn't feel that she should have apologized

B. she does not realize that the child has been hurt

C. the child may find the apology easier to accept

D. the child may feel that he owes her an apology

2. According to the author, saying "I'm sorry you're upset" most probably means "_______".

A. You have good reason to get upset

B. I'm aware you're upset, but I'm not to blame

C. I apologize for hurting your feelings

D. I'm at fault for making you upset

3. It is not advisable to use the general, all-covering apology because _______.

A. it gets one into the habit of making empty promises

B. it may make the other person feel guilty

C. it is vague and ineffective

D. it is hurtful and insulting

4. We learn from the last paragraph that in teaching children to say sorry _______.

A. the complexities involved should be ignored

B. their ages should be taken into thinking

C. parents need to set them a good example

D. parents should be patient and tolerant

5. It can be inferred from the passage that apologizing properly is _______.

A. a social issue calling for immediate attention   B. not necessary among family members

C. a sign of social progress                    D. not as simple as it seems

 

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What makes one person more intelligent than another? What makes one person genius, like the brilliant Albert Einstein, and another person a fool? Are people born intelligent or stupid, or is intelligence the result of where and how you live? 1..

We know, however, that just being born with a good mind is not enough. In some ways, the mind is like a leg or an arm muscle. 2.. Mental exercise is particularly important for young children. Many child psychologists think that parents should play with their children more often and give them problems to think about. 3..If, on the other hand, children are left alone a great deal with nothing to do, they are more likely to become dull and unintelligent.

4..According to some psychologists, if parents are always telling a child that he or she is a fool or an idiot, then the child is more likely to keep doing silly and foolish things. So it is probably better for parents to say very positive (helpful) things to their children, such as “That was a very clever thing you did.” or “5..”

A.A healthy body contributes to one’s intelligence.

B.Parents should also be careful with what they say to young children.

C.What people want express is like this.

D.The children are then more likely to grow up bright and intelligent.

E.It needs exercise.

F.You are such a smart child.

G.These are very old questions and the answers to them are still not clear.

 

Extraordinary Teens

    The book will inspire young adults with its tales of teenagers achieving great success. It includes personal stories from many well-known young athletes, businessmen, actors, writers and filmmakers. Every person shares his or her story along with valuable advice that will show you how you can also achieve success. Learn from these people who are walking examples of possibility.

    Teens Talk High School

    This book is written for high school kids, aged 14-18. Teens in high school have mainly moved past worrying about puberty(青春期), so the stories in this book cover topics of interest to older teens, such as sports and clubs, driving, faming relationships, friends, and preparing for life after high school. High school students will find comfort and inspiration in the words of this book, referring to it through all the four years of their high school experience.

     Getting into College

     Every year colleges receive a lot of applications, and the application process has become something hard that students and parents experience together. This book isn’t about how to get into college. It’s about providing emotional support. The stories in this book are written by kids who have been there and want to pass on their words of support to others. Parents and students will find this book a great source of inspiration.

     Campus Stories

     College life can be fun, exciting, and educational in more ways than one. Campus Stores is a book for any current(现在) or future college student who wants to know what really goes on the campus. Campus Stores is about growing up, making choices, learning lessons, and making the best of your last as a student.                                      

1.The writer’s purpose of writing the book Extraordinary Teens is to _____.

A. help students with study problems

B. persuade teenagers to do volunteering

C. encouraging young people to achieving success

D. teach people how to apply for a college

2. Which of the following topics does Teen Talk High School cover?

   A. Clubs, puberty, friends               B. Driving, sports, family relationships

   C. Sports, drinking, growing up        D. Puberty, clubs, family relationships

3.What does Getting into College mainly talk about?

A. How to form a good habit in college.           B. What the top 10 American colleges are.

C. How to get used to the college life quickly.   D. How to get through the application process.

4.What do all the four books have in common?

A. They are all written by kids.               B. Teens are likely to be the readers.

C. They are all best-sellers of this year.      D. Both kids and parents enjoy them.

 

Some couples spend every waking minute together. Others fill their hours with personal hobbies,outside interests and even part-time jobs, just to keep their distance from each other! "There should be private time and couple time," suggests Dr. Stephen Treat at Jefferson Medical College in Philadelphia."You don't want your latter years to turn into a process where two people unite as one. If you hold too tightly to your partner, it's going to cause resentment and anger. If you're completely separate, you'll both be lonely and disconnected. You need balance. So you have to talk about how you'll achieve that."

The right balance? It's different for every couple. "Having a conversation about time can be difficult,but it's important for both partners to process those feelings out loud," Dr. Treat says. "You should not be accusing and act as a judge—ask the difficult questions, but do it in a loving way. You could say something like, 'How are we going to be as individuals and how are we going to be as a couple?' "

   Barbara and Chris Christensen have achieved the balance that works for them. In addition to daily routines that keep them close—including about 10 minutes for a daily check-in and about a half hour of relaxation time—they each maintain separate interests and friendships.

 "We have found that we need time apart," Barbara says. "I have a group of women friends that I have known for the last 30 years. We have dinner out once a month. We women also have parties and weekend or weeklong vacations as a group at a beach or somewhere. Chris, a former fighter pilot, has many aviation-oriented(航空的) groups and friends and also a poker-playing group of our friends. I may be with him during the poker night, but I don't play, and the wives usually watch a chick flick' DVD or something while the poker group has an evening of fun. We have found it important to have separate time as well as together time."

1.The author writes the passage to ______.

A. offer some suggestions on how to spend the time after retirement

B. advise couples to develop their separate hobbies

C. warn couples not to be accusing each other

D. give people some advice on how to entertain themselves after retirement

2. Dr. Stephen suggests that _________after retirement.

A. couples stay together all the time

B. couples express their feelings in a loving way

C. couples be separate

D. wives make many friends

3.It can be inferred that________.

A. many couples are faced with problems after retirement

B. America has a large population of retired people

C. most people join various social groups after retirement

D. playing poker is a popular activity among retired people

4.Barbara and her friends do the following EXCEPT_______.

A. having dinner regularly

B. holding parties

C. having weekly vacations at the beach

D. having fun playing poker

5.The second paragraph is mainly intended to_______.

A. warn the husband not to act as a judge

B. suggest couples have discussions about difficulties

C. suggest how to keep the correct balance

D. require couples to be considerate

 

What time is it?Most people are pretty accurate in their answer. And if you don’t know for sure, it’s very likely that you can find out. There may be a watch on your wrist; there may be a clock on the wall, desk, or computer screen; or maybe you’re riding in a car that has a clock in the dashboard .

Even if you don’t have a timepiece of some sort nearby, your body keeps its own beat. Humans have an internal clock that regulates (调节) the beating of our heart, the peace of our breathing, the discharge (排出) of chemicals within our bloodstream, and many other bodily functions.

Time is something from which we can’t escape. Even if we ignore it, it’s still going by, ticking away, second by second, minute by minute, hour by hour. So the main issue in using your time well is, “who’s in charge?” We can allow time to slip by and let it be our enemy. Or we can take control of it and make it our ally.

By taking control of how you spend your time, you’ll increase your chances of becoming a more successful student. Perhaps more importantly, the better you are at managing the time you devote to your studies, the more time you will have to spend on your outside interests.

The aim of time management is not to schedule every moment so we become slaves of a timetable that governs every waking moment of the day. Instead, the aim is to permit us to make informed choices as to how we use our time. Rather than letting the day go by, largely without our awareness, what we are going to discuss next can make us better able to control time for our own purposes.

1.The underlined word “ally” in Para.3 most likely means somebody or something that is____________.

A. your slave and serves you            B. your supporter an helps you

C. under your control and obeys you      D. under your influence and follows you

2.The author intends to tell us that time __________.

A. could be regulated by a timepiece such as a clock or a watch

B. could be managed by the internal clock by human bodies

C. should be well managed for our own interest

D. should be saved for outside interests

3.In the next part, the author would most probably discuss with you ________.

A. how to keep up with the times         B. how to make up for lost time

C. how to have a good time             D. how to make good use of time

 

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