Assertiveness is the ability to confidently express your opinions, feelings,attitudes, and rights, in a way that doesn't infringe(侵犯) the rights of others.

    Many of us are taught that it is not nice to consider our own needs above those of others. If someone says or does something that we don't like, we should just be quiet and try to stay away from that person in the future.

    Why is Assertiveness important?

     If you don't know how to be assertive, you might experience:

•Depression - Anger, a sense of being helpless, hopeless, or of having no control over your life.

•Resentment - Anger at others for taking advantage of you.

•Frustration - Why did I allow that to happen?

     Most people find it easier to be assertive in some situations than in others. This makes perfect sense. It's a lot easier to hold your ground with a stranger than with someone you love. But the more important the relationship is to you, the more important it is to be assertive. Assertive behavior leads to increased respect from others!

      But before you decide to act assertively, you have to decide if you can live

 with the results. Although assertive behavior usually will result in a positive

 response  (积极的回应),some people  might react differently.

   How to be effectively(有效地) assertive:

 •Use "I" statements. Keep the focus on the problem you're having. "I'd like to be able to tell my stories without interruption." instead of "You're always interrupting my stories ! "

 •Use facts, not opinions. "Did you know that shirt has a hole?" instead of "You're not going out looking like THAT, are you?"

 •Express ownership of your thoughts, feelings, and opinions. "I get angry when he breaks his promises. " instead of "He makes me angry. "

 • Make clear and direct requirements. Don't invite the person to say no. "Will  you please?" instead of 'Would you mind...?" or "Why don't you...?"

•Keep repeating your point. Use a low level and pleasant voice. Don't try to explain yourself.

1.The writer probably agrees that­­­____________.

A. you should consider others' response before you act assertively

B. you should be assertive if you want to get good marks

C. assertiveness is the ability to infringe others' rights.

D. assertive behavior will bring you bad feelings

2.The expression "hold yourground" probably means “_________________”

A. reach an agreement

B. insist on your point

C. keep your word

D. keep on fighting

3.Which of the following helps you to be effectively assertive?

A. Explaining yourself in a soft and sweet voice.

B. Expressing ownership of others' thoughts.

C. Making requirements directly and clearly.

D. Using your opinions instead of facts.

 

Traffic rules help to keep order on the road. They also help to keep people   26  . The pedestrian(行人) has as many rules to   27   as the driver of a car. You should walk on the sidewalk(人行道) or at the side of the road. Always look   28   before you walk across the street.

If you like riding a bike, don’t ride in the middle of the road or run   29   red traffic lights. When you ride a bike with a friend, don’t look around or talk.If you drive a car, you should   30   at the traffic lights. You must always   31   a seat belt(安全带). Without belts   32   the driver and the passengers may be badly hurt in a sudden accident.

You may not need to take a bus, but   33   if you have to travel in one. Get on or get off a bus only when it comes to a   34  . When it is full, don’t try to get inside   35   you may fall off.

Traffic rules are also called Road Safety rules. The maxim(格言) for all road users is “Thinking about others”.

1.A. healthy            B. safe            C. happy            D. careful

2.A. follow             B. make            C. break            D. pass

3. A. happy             B. happily         C. careful          D. carefully

4.A. through            B. across          C. along            D. around

5.A. speed up           B. go ahead        C. get off          D. slow down

6.A. take               B. wear            C. carry            D. bring

7. A. half              B. none            C. both             D. all

8. A. look around  B. take care           C. take a seat      D. look back

9.A. sign               B. stop            C. corner           D. crossing

10. A. and  B. so   C. or   D. but

 

 James is a good student and he has lots of friends,but he also has a problem.Some older boys are bullying(欺负)him at school.James is very unhappy and he doesn't know what to do about it.Here are some suggestions to him and other teenagers in this situation.

    Don't feel worried.It's not your fault(过错)! Being bullied can make you feel very lonely and angry,but you are not alone.Don't feel that you have to hide the problem.You should find a person you can trust,and tell them.It might be your teacher,your parents,or even your friend's parents.After you tell someone,you will get some support and feel some relief(解脱).

    Speaking to an adult might make you nervous,but here are other things you can do.Some people express their feelings more easily on paper.Write a letter to someone or keep a diary.Include all the details(细节)about what the bullies do, as well as when and where the bullying happens.You can use it as proof to show what is going on.And it is a wonderful idea to

 show your letter or diary to a teacher or another responsible adult.Then the bullies will feel very afraid if their names appear in a letter!

Also,don't show you are sad and don't try and fight with the bullies. You could get in trouble yourself. Ignore them and just walk away. The bullies will soon stop.

 

1.What do you think the text is trying to tell us?

        A. What to do about being bullied.

        B. How to be a good student at school.

        C. What to write well in a diary.

        D. How to give suggestions to teenagers.

2.Why does the text advise you not to feel worried if bullied?

       A. Because you are not alone.

       B. Because it is not your fault.

       C. Because someone has known about it.

       D. Because you' re doing something wrong.

3.You'd better go and find a person you can trust and ____.

A. know what happens        B. learn from them

C. ask for help               D. make them lonely

4.If you remember and follow the suggestions above, ____.

       A. nobody will speak to the bullies

       B. everybody will feel some relief

       C. someone will express their feelings

       D. the bullies will soon stop

5.What does the underlined word "ignore" mean in the text?

        A. take no notice of           B. take care of

        C. make full use of           D. get more help from

 

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