A boy's kindness towards his classmates is popular online. Amanda Cox praised the boy on the Internet after she asked her students to share some of their pencils with their classmates.

"Today I was running out of pencils so I asked all of my kids to take out the pencils that they had in their desks," says Ms. Cox. "One student asked me if he could keep some pencils that his mom gave him for school."

"Of course, I said yes. He then said, 'Well, I guess I'll give you a few so my classmates can have them too.' I thought nothing of it and took the pencils that he handed me."

Ms. Cox quickly discovered that these weren't just common pencils, however-as she was sharpening the pencils, she noticed that they all had writing on the side.

The boy's mother had written personal, special messages of love and encouragement on every pencil, saying things like "You are perfect", "I am proud of you" and "This will be a great year".

"This probably took his mom a few minutes to do, but it lit up his whole day at school," says Ms. Cox. "he wasn't embarrassed that his mom wrote on his pencils. Thanks to his mom, he was reminded of his own worth and wanted to share the same feeling with his classmates."

Ms. Cox posted a photo of the pencils on Facebook where it was shared thousands of times by adults praising the boy and his mother for their encouragement. Some have even done something similar for their own students. Ms. Cox says she would remind more kids that they are important, talented, loved, and clever and so much more.

1.Whom did the boy give his pencils to?

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2.When did Ms. Cox discover the pencils weren't just common ones?

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3.What had the boy's mother written on every pencil?

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4.How did the boy probably feel when his mom wrote on his pencils?

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5.Why have some teachers done something similar for their own students?

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Sophia is smart, talented and incredibly nice. As a team leader, she wishes Nathan, a member of her history project, did his part as required. But rather than criticize him, Sophia offered polite encouragement trying to push him instead, only to find that Nathan kept falling behind. It ended up that other team members, who had to take on more work, complained about both Sophia and Nathan, while Nathan himself complained that he was not treated fairly.

How did poor Sophia get into this mess? The primary reason was that Sophia failed in a key aspect of leadership- the duty to provide clear feedback(反馈)for team members. This isn't simply a duty but a correctness.

Failing to question or criticize Nathan's work, Sophia was in fact unkind. Many people are not a failure, like Nathan in this case; they're just in the wrong place, and still left in the dark. What they really need is feedback from their leaders. However, Sophia, in this case, withheld a gift from Nathan.

"You'd better use open, honest, continuous and clear feedback," says Harry Kraemer, a professor of management and strategy at Northwestern University, "to help figure out someone's best fit- in their particular job or in the organization."

This approach also prevents surprises. It's not uncommon to see someone suddenly removed from a team. They may have deserved it, but with a kind leader, they wouldn't have been caught off-guard because they would have been receiving open, honest, continuous and clear judgment of their performance.

Then why is it so hard for leaders to give good feedback? "We like to be liked," Kraemer says. So we avoid anything that may cause unpleasantness, but that kind of feedback usually helps members find the right place for them. "If you like to be liked, the chance of being respected is extremely low. However, if you start off focusing on being respected, you have a chance of being liked." Kraemer adds. The most difficult part for the leader, of course, involves criticizing someone. That is what a nice leader finds hard.

Back to Sophia's case. Not telling Nathan how he was on the team only made a hard situation worse. But with a different mindset, she could have set herself and Nathan up for success.

1.The expression "caught off-guard" in Paragraph 5 probably means"________"

A.kicked out carelessly B.treated unexpectedly

C.sent out unfairly D.guided effortlessly

2.The writer probably agrees that________.

A.being nice to team members is likely to win leaders great respect

B.criticizing team members results in serious complaints to the leader

C.open and honest communication is a must for leaders and team members

D.praise and encouragement from leaders bring out better team performance

3.According to the writer, what Sophia should do is________.

A.patiently encouraging Nathan to try his best

B.gradually having Nathan dropped out of the project

C.politely showing Nathan the improvement he made

D.clearly telling Nathan her judgment of his performance

4.Which of the following would be the best title for the passage?

A.To be nice or to be kind? B.To be liked or to be criticized?

C.Is it necessary for leaders to be pleasing? D.Is it helpful for leaders to be demanding?

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