I think that the most basic and powerful way to connect to another person is to listen. Just listen. Perhaps the most 36 thing we ever give to each other is our attention (注意力). Especially if it’s 37  from the heart. When people are talking, there’s no need to do 38  but receive them. Listen to what they’re saying. Care about it. Most times  39   about it is even more important than understanding it.
One of my patients told me that when she tried to tell her story, people often 40     to tell her that they once had something just 41  that happened to her. Her pain became a story about 42 . So, finally she stopped 43  to most people because she just felt too lonely. When we interrupt what someone is 44  to let them know that we understand, we 45  the  focus of attention to ourselves. But if we just 46 , they know we care. Many people with cancer can talk about the relief (宽慰) of having someone just listen.
I have 47  learned to respond to someone crying by just listening. I 48  that passing a person a tissue (面巾纸) may be just another 49  to shut them down and take them out of their experience of 50 . Now I just listen. When they have 51  all they need to cry, they find me there with them.
This 52  thing has not been that easy to learn. It certainly went against everything I had been taught since I was very 53 . I thought people listened only 54   they were too shy to speak or did not know the 55 . A loving silence often has far more power to heal than words.

I think that the most basic and powerful way to connect to another person is to listen. Just listen. Perhaps the most 36 thing we ever give to each other is our attention (注意力). Especially if it’s 37  from the heart. When people are talking, there’s no need to do 38  but receive them. Listen to what they’re saying. Care about it. Most times  39   about it is even more important than understanding it.

One of my patients told me that when she tried to tell her story, people often 40     to tell her that they once had something just 41  that happened to her. Her pain became a story about 42 . So, finally she stopped 43  to most people because she just felt too lonely. When we interrupt what someone is 44  to let them know that we understand, we 45  the  focus of attention to ourselves. But if we just 46 , they know we care. Many people with cancer can talk about the relief (宽慰) of having someone just listen.

I have 47  learned to respond to someone crying by just listening. I 48  that passing a person a tissue (面巾纸) may be just another 49  to shut them down and take them out of their experience of 50 . Now I just listen. When they have 51  all they need to cry, they find me there with them.

This 52  thing has not been that easy to learn. It certainly went against everything I had been taught since I was very 53 . I thought people listened only 54   they were too shy to speak or did not know the 55 . A loving silence often has far more power to heal than words.

1.                A．easy           B．important       C．stupid    D．terrible

2.                A．used           B．lost            C．got  D．given

3.                A．anything        B．everything       C．something     D．nothing

4.                A．worrying        B．complaining     C．caring    D．dreaming

5.                A．decided        B．managed        C．preferred     D．interrupted

6.                A．by             B．like            C．about    D．with

7.                A．themselves      B．ourselves       C．himself   D．yourself

8.                A．working        B．studying        C．talking    D．smiling

9.                A．writing         B．saying          C．reading   D．copying

10.               A．learn          B．stop           C．leave D．move

11.               A．smell          B．speak          C．listen D．watch

12.               A．even          B．hardly          C．early D．never

13.               A．explained       B．realized        C．expected  D．imagined

14.               A．question        B．touch          C．love  D．way

15.               A．regret         B．happiness       C．sadness   D．anger

16.               A．cried          B．shouted        C．called D．whispered

17.               A．difficult         B．simple         C．funny D．whole

18.               A．old            B．tall            C．young D．beautiful

19.               A．if             B．but            C．or    D．because

20.               A．plan           B．result          C．answer    D．award

Just listen
I suspect that the most basic and powerful way to connect to another person is to listen. Just listen. Perhaps the most important thing we ever give each other is our  36  , and especially if it’s given from the 37 . When people are talking, there’s no need to do anything but 38 them. Just take them  39 . Listen to what they’re saying. Care about it. Most times caring about it is even more important than  40 it.
One of my patients told me that when she 41  to tell her story, people often  42  to tell her that they had once had something just like what happened to her. Subtly, her pain became a story about themselves.   43  she stopped talking to most people. It was just too 44 . We connect through listening. When we interrupt what someone is saying to let them know that we understand, we move the 45  of attention to ourselves. But when we listen, they know we care.
I have ever learned to 46  to someone crying by just listening. In the old days I used to reach for the tissues(纸巾)  47 I realized that passing a person a tissue may be just another way to shut them  48 , to take them out of their  49 of sadness and pain. Now I just listen. When they have cried all they need to cry, they find me there 50  them.
This 51  thing has not been that easy to learn. It certainly went against everything I had been  52  since I was very young at school. I thought people listened only because they were too  53 to speak or did not know the answer. A loving silence often has far more 54  to connect than the most well-intentioned(善意的) 55 .

Just listen

I suspect that the most basic and powerful way to connect to another person is to listen. Just listen. Perhaps the most important thing we ever give each other is our  36  , and especially if it’s given from the 37 . When people are talking, there’s no need to do anything but 38 them. Just take them  39 . Listen to what they’re saying. Care about it. Most times caring about it is even more important than  40 it.

One of my patients told me that when she 41  to tell her story, people often  42  to tell her that they had once had something just like what happened to her. Subtly, her pain became a story about themselves.   43  she stopped talking to most people. It was just too 44 . We connect through listening. When we interrupt what someone is saying to let them know that we understand, we move the 45  of attention to ourselves. But when we listen, they know we care.

I have ever learned to 46  to someone crying by just listening. In the old days I used to reach for the tissues(纸巾)  47 I realized that passing a person a tissue may be just another way to shut them  48 , to take them out of their  49 of sadness and pain. Now I just listen. When they have cried all they need to cry, they find me there 50  them.

This 51  thing has not been that easy to learn. It certainly went against everything I had been  52  since I was very young at school. I thought people listened only because they were too  53 to speak or did not know the answer. A loving silence often has far more 54  to connect than the most well-intentioned(善意的) 55 .

1.                A．introduction     B．instruction      C．attention  D．relaxation

2.                A．head           B．memory        C．mind D．heart

3.                A．talk to          B．listen to         C．object to(反对) D．stick to(坚持)

4.                A．in             B．up             C．off  D．away

5.                A．denying(否认)   B．remembering    C．questioning    D．understanding

6.                A．managed       B．tried           C．hoped    D．expected

7.                A．encouraged     B．interrupted      C．discouraged   D．urged

8.                A．Eventually       B．Immediately     C．Completely    D．Especially

9.                A．impolite        B．meaningless     C．lonely    D．selfish

10.               A．middle         B．focus          C．center    D．choice

11.               A．respond        B．compare        C．link   D．regret

12.               A．unless         B．if             C．until  D．when

13.               A．down          B．away           C．in    D．off

14.               A．experiment     B．mixture        C．judgment  D．experience

15.               A．with           B．against         C．for   D．among

16.               A．complex(费解的) B．simple         C．single D．complicated(复杂的)

17.               A．mentioned      B．published       C．taught D．proved

18.               A．shy            B．greedy         C．active D．proud

19.               A．strength        B．energy         C．power D．force

20.               A．gestures        B．praise          C．criticism   D．words

Just listen

I suspect that the most basic and powerful way to connect to another person is to listen．Just listen Perhaps the most important thing we ever give each other is our  36 ，and especially if it’s given from the  37 ．When people are talking，there’s no need to do anything but  38  them．Just take them  39 ．Listen to what they’re saying．Care about it．Most times caring about it is even more important than  40 it．

One of my patients told me that when she  41  to tell her story，people often  42  to tell her that they had once had something just like what happened to her．Subtly，her pain became a story about themselves． 43  she stopped talking to most people．It was just too  44 ．We connect through listening．When we interrupt what someone is saying to let them know that we understand．we move the  45  of attention to ourselves．But when we listen，they know we care．

I have ever learned to  46  to someone crying by just listening．in the old days I used to reach for the tissues (纸巾)  47  I realized that passing a person a tissue may be just another way to shut them  48 ，to take them out of their  49  of sadness and pain Now I just listen．When they have cried all they need to cry, they find me there  50  them．

This  51  thing has not been that easy to learn．It certainly went against everything I had been  52  since I was very young at school．I thought people listened only because they were too 53  to speak or did not know the answer．A loving silence often has far more  54  to connect than the most well-intentioned  55 ．