When you meet someone for the first time, you will form an impression in your mind of that person in the first moment. Your reactions to other people, however, are really just barometers (晴雨表) for how you perceive(理解) yourself. Your reactions to others say more about you than they do about others. You cannot really love or hate something about another unless it reflects something you love or hate yourself. We are usually drawn to those who are most like us and tend to dislike those who display those aspects of ourselves that we dislike.

Therefore, you can allow others to be the mirror to illuminate (阐明;照亮) more clearly your own feelings of self-worth. Conversely, you can view the people you judge negatively as mirrors to show you what you are not accepting about yourself.

To survive together peacefully with others, you will need to learn tolerance. A big challenge is to shift your perspective from judgment of others to a lifelong exploration of yourself. Your task is to assess all the decisions, judgments you make onto others and to begin to view them as clues to how you can heal yourself and become whole.

Several days ago I had a business lunch with a man who displayed objectionable table manners. My first reaction was to judge him as rude and his table manners as annoying. When I noticed that I was judging him, I stopped and asked myself what I was feeling. I discovered that I was embarrassed to be seen with someone who was chewing with his mouth open and loudly blowing his nose. I was astonished to find how much I cared about how the other people in the restaurant perceived me.

Remember that your judgment of someone will not serve as a protective shield against you becoming like him. Just because I judge my lunch partner as rude does not prevent me from ever looking or acting like him. In the same way, extending tolerance to him would not cause me to suddenly begin chewing my food with my mouth open.

　　When you approach life in this manner, those with whom you have the greatest dissatisfactions as well as those you admire and love can be seen as mirrors, guiding you to discover parts of yourself that you reject and to embrace your greatest quality.

1.The purpose of the author writing this passage is to advise people to _______.

A．avoid inappropriate manners

B．learn tolerance towards others

C．pay attention to others’ needs and feelings

D．judge others favorably in any case

2.The underlined word “objectionable” in Paragraph 4 has the closest meaning to __________.

A．discouraging       B．disappointing       C．disgusting         D．disturbing

3.According to the passage, the following statements are all true except ______.

A．You can’t really love or hate others if they are similar to you.

B．We are easily attracted by someone who is similar to us.

C．Our first judgment of a person mostly comes from our personal opinion.

D．The moment we see a stranger, our mind forms an impression of that person.

4.It can be implied from the text that __________.

A．the writer’s first reaction to the man was to judge him as offensive

B．we will need to learn tolerance to co-exist with others

C．we shouldn’t focus on judging others but should constantly reflect on our own

D．the writer didn’t care about other people’s view of him

Can you communicate with others when you live in a foreign country with no or little knowledge of its language? Of course, it is possible. You can communicate your moods and intentions to one another without words, because all human beings share a lot of common visual（看见的）signals. These signals are as effective as words during communication.
The gestures of the head play a key role in body language. The movements of eyes and eyebrows are as important as head movements in body language.
　　Besides the gestures of the head or the movements of the eyes and eyebrows, the action of arms, hands and legs is also a large part of body language. Extending one's arm and shaking hands with others is a greeting in both formal and informal cases. This part of body language might date back to primary tribes（部落）.
　　Like handshaking, there are still many other forms of body language presented by hands. Raising one's hand and making a circle with his thumb（拇指）and for finger signals, that something is OK. Clasped（握紧的）hands raised above the head, a traditional picture accepted by sportsmen after winning a fight, is a display of triumph that grows out of a kind of feeling following a victory. Waving one's hands, a speaker can make his words more powerful and vigorous（有活力的）.
　　Besides hand gestures, there are times when a person says something with his legs as well as with his head and eyes. The leg gestures often reflect one's attitude towards something or someone that person is with.
　　According to the above facts, body language has offered a more reliable（可靠的）way to understand one's mind by means of gestures. Though it is soundless and wordless, once you understand it, you will feel the world is bigger than you realized.
【小题1】 Which of the following is the proper title for this passage?

Because conflict and disagreements are part of all close relationships, couples need to learn strategies for managing conflict in a healthy and constructive way. Some couples just__50__ and deny the presence of any conflict in a relationship. __51__ ,denying the existence of conflict results in couples _52___ to solve their problems at early__53__ ,which can then lead to even greater problems later on .Not surprisingly, expressing anger and disagreement leads to lower marital (婚姻的)satisfaction at the beginning. However, this pattern of behavior _54___ increases in marital satisfaction over time. Research suggests that working through conflicts is an important predictor of marital satisfaction.

　　So, what can you do to manage conflict in your own relationships? First, try to understand the other person’s point of view__55__ put yourself in his of her place. People who are _56___ to what their partner thinks and feels _57___ greater relationship satisfaction. For example, researchers found that among people in dating relationships  58____ marriages, those who can adopt their partner’s perspective show more positive emotions, more relationship-enhancing attributes and more constructive responses _59___ conflict.

　　Second, because conflict and disagreements are an __60__ part of close relationships，people need to be able to apologize to their partner for wrongdoing and __61__ forgiveness from their partners for their own acts. Apologies minimize conflict, lead to forgiveness, and serve to restore relationship closeness. In line with this view, spouses（配偶） who are more forgiving show higher mental quality over time. Increasingly, apologizing can even have _62___ health benefits. For example, when people reflect on hurtful __63__ and grudges(怨恨)，they show negative physiological(生理的) effects, including __64__  heart rate and blood pressure, compared to when they reflect on sympathetic perspective-taking and forgiving.

1.                A．resolve         B．regret          C．abandon D．avoid

2.                A．Besides　       B．Therefore       C．Moreover D．However

3.                A．trying　　      B．declining　　    C．failing　　 D．striving

4.                A．ages　　       B．years　　       C．stages　　    D．intervals

5.                A．prescribes　　   B．protests　　     C．proves　　    D．predicts

6.                A．so　　         B．while　　       C．but　　  D．and

7.                A．sensitive　　    B．superior　　    C．exclusive D．efficient

8.                A．expose　　     B．experience　　  C．explore　　   D．exploit

9.                A．as long as　     B．as far as　　     C．as well as　　  D．as soon as

10.               A．to　　         B．against　　     C．at　　    D．toward

11.               A．absolute　　    B．inevitable　     C．essential　 D．obvious

12.               A．require　       B．inquire　　     C．receive　  D．achieve

13.               A．creative　　    B．positive　　     C．objective　 D．competitive

14.               A．prospects　　   B．concepts　      C．memories　    D．outlooks

15.               A．added　　      B．toughened　　  C．strengthened　　   D．increased