Years ago, a Southern woman was in one of my workshops. When asked to tell a story that  36 her character (品质), she described an  37 when she was 5. She was at her grandfather’s house  38 up in a beautiful white skirt and new gloves ,   39 as she could be.
Her grandfather told her she could go into the  40 and get herself a cookie. Next to the cookies was a pile of coins. Sure that no one was  41 , she took one of the coins, too.
When she 42 with her cookie, her grandfather asked her to show him her  43 . She held out only her left hand  44 , and he said, “Show me the other hand.” When she unwillingly did  45 , showing the coin, she saw  46 in her grandfather’s eyes.
He paused a moment and then 47 her up, saying, “Darling, you can have anything in the world that I have, but it breaks my heart that you’d ever  48 it.” Some 50 years later, this story of how her grandfather gave her the gift of  49 still brought tears to her eyes.
Few things have as large an influence on  50 the values of a child as the strong pain of lovingly administered shame (羞愧). It helps judge right from wrong and gives a   51 emotional (感情的) dimension to moral (道德的) and character issues.
Kids, and adults for that matter, learn from their  52 . Parents, teachers and coworkers can remind them of their moral responsibilities without shaming or  53 them.
What we can’t do is just let  54 go, unless we want to send the message that’s okay. What we allow, we  55 . And we should never encourage anything other than moral excellence.

Years ago, a Southern woman was in one of my workshops. When asked to tell a story that  36 her character (品质), she described an  37 when she was 5. She was at her grandfather’s house  38 up in a beautiful white skirt and new gloves ,   39 as she could be.

Her grandfather told her she could go into the  40 and get herself a cookie. Next to the cookies was a pile of coins. Sure that no one was  41 , she took one of the coins, too.

When she 42 with her cookie, her grandfather asked her to show him her  43 . She held out only her left hand  44 , and he said, “Show me the other hand.” When she unwillingly did  45 , showing the coin, she saw  46 in her grandfather’s eyes.

He paused a moment and then 47 her up, saying, “Darling, you can have anything in the world that I have, but it breaks my heart that you’d ever  48 it.” Some 50 years later, this story of how her grandfather gave her the gift of  49 still brought tears to her eyes.

Few things have as large an influence on  50 the values of a child as the strong pain of lovingly administered shame (羞愧). It helps judge right from wrong and gives a   51 emotional (感情的) dimension to moral (道德的) and character issues.

Kids, and adults for that matter, learn from their  52 . Parents, teachers and coworkers can remind them of their moral responsibilities without shaming or  53 them.

What we can’t do is just let  54 go, unless we want to send the message that’s okay. What we allow, we  55 . And we should never encourage anything other than moral excellence.

1.                A．changed        B．affected        C．formed   D．built

2.                A．occasion        B．adventure       C．accident D．incident

3.                A．put            B．brought         C．dressed   D．held

4.                A．proud          B．patient         C．creative  D．absurd

5.                A．restaurant       B．supermarket     C．kitchen   D．shop

6.                A．looking         B．passing         C．following  D．listening

7.                A．fled            B．returned        C．arrived   D．continued

8.                A．hands          B．coins           C．cookies   D．gloves

9.                A．quickly         B．politely         C．cautiously     D．suddenly

10.               A．also           B．so             C．even D．though

11.               A．disappointment B．surprise        C．excitement     D．pleasure

12.               A．sent           B．called          C．took D．hugged

13.               A．possess         B．steal           C．hide D．sell

14.               A．confidence      B．determination    C．honesty   D．courage

15.               A．shaping         B．judging         C．destroying D．acquiring

16.               A．different        B．similar          C．practical   D．powerful

17.               A．experiences     B．mistakes        C．adventures     D．books

18.               A．troubling       B．endangering     C．hurting    D．cheating

19.               A．misbehaviors    B．faults          C．burdens   D．sufferings

20.               A．encourage      B．agree          C．adjust     D．refuse